Whats the difference between a guy staring at you w. admiration vs. lust?

[watdatmouthdothoo]

I can never usually tell the difference between a guys stare. Like I don't know the difference when a guy is actually admiring my beauty vs. When a guy is just looking at me sexually as in a lustful stare. Whats the difference between the two pls helppp !!!

[1derweye]

Admiration implies respect.
There are occasions when encountering a remarkable creature, I can't help but take a moment to accommodate my eye's resolving and focusing dilation's,
by steadying my gaze.
"Affixing the tripod for stabilizing the telephoto, to facilitate an adequate aperture setting and sharp focus" ... so-to-speak!
(Let alone, frame an aesthetic composition)
Averting my eyes with varying frequency, so as not to appear rude, is of course the polite and considerate mannerism of a Gentleman. That title is fortunately gender specific. An identification I'm enthused to embody. Being a virile Man, I do enjoy the many facets of a Woman.
However, her discomfort is my responsibility to prevent! Even before we've met.
No. Chivalry is not dead. Raising Boys with honor is.
I'm conscious of how I conduct myself, including subtleties folks might misinterpret, otherwise. Do not have something in your mouth!
A genuinely pleasant expression, on the ready to expand into a greeting-like smile, accompanied with the sincere bashfulness I would indeed experience, is my immediate reaction, should I be caught acknowledging what only a Woman can imbue. I'll make an honest attempt to present the body language of an apologetic, yet still open and appreciative fan.
A former companion and several long time friends have been met just this way!
What's so difficult about this? All it takes is to care.
To continue to stare, despite being noticed for doing so, is indicative of a poor character. What she is thinking has so little value, it's not worth reacting to?
To scrutinize a visage we are Naturally evolved to appreciate, is not an excuse for an insensitive ignorance of societal behavioral standards.
They're usually adopted for the encouragement to live cohesively, within reasonable tolerances for our emotional potential. For this scenario to degrade to a point the Woman is discomforted by the excess attentions of a stranger, I think it's normal to assume that her reaction would be deservedly definitive. It is violating and threatening. Hence, understanding the parameters of the threshold is also... normal to assume. To be ignorant of, or purposely disregard this judgement, is offensive and should attain a higher level of nonacceptance.
If a Man is compelled to exhibit such behavior, all he accomplishes is contributing to a straining gender disparity and a deterioration of the inherent-trust in traditional roles.
Why push it, you Jerks? You ruin it for everyone!

[watdatmouthdothoo]

wow u had a lot of time on ur hands lol...

[1derweye]

Some folks use what ever color they want on paint by number canvases, some play "Uprising" by Muse with their armpit... and then they're are the 'tards that watch TV as their personal expression of creativity or rationalizing it as their contribution to mitigating Climate Change because of it's high sustainability index.
Me? Writing with a purpose, articulating concepts with an eloquence that redefines our ability to quantify the the inane, enables our perspectives to preen the feathers of our dreams, being sure to get at those little mites that crawl around our Talons, to enrich the Plutonium of Human endeavor, poised for detonation, violating the SALT II In-Atmosphere-Nuclear Testing Ban of 197... ugh...70... umm of the Twentieth Century! Where was I? Fore, it is only the concise precision we wield our language within, or the sublime pontification of apprehensive aggression, that we achieve speakin' good & stuff... like... ya' know? Like. Dude? Babe? Like... Whatever. Like.

[watdatmouthdothoo]

Round 2 .. 😂

[1derweye]

I'm just giddy to have elicited your profound acknowledgement for my insignificant, virtually petty contribution! The subject of your question was interestingly striking because of my particular passion concerning this very topic. What were the odds?
Please, by all means! Have it deleted if it blemishes your thread any further. I do apologize.

[watdatmouthdothoo]

Lol its ok i like ur passion & ur use of vocabulary 😄

[tortelina]

To be honest, a man who talks so much is covering for something. Usually a small penis.

[1derweye]

@tortelina
To be accurate, the difference in the Cerebral resources devoted between talking and writing is more complex than those devoted between random thought and crapping. Perhaps another distinction you may have difficulty in assessing?
Threatened by my Masculinity already? Oh Honey, I'm so sorry. Damn Role Models!
I understand the hormonal transitions you're still experiencing can initiate such fulminations.
Sweetie, you need to get out more often. Trying to insult me with using that reasoning is so cliche, it's just the coming-of-age-explorations we expect from little Girls. So you're thinking about my Cock, huh?
That is so adorable! (What were the odds? Check back for a "take" I was planning to write sometime. Dare you! We can have a laugh for the same reason)
Writing creatively and distinctively, quickly, on the spot, keeps me sharp, for a purpose. Damn fun too!
How much time do you think this takes? Your pace?
Forgot to tell me I don't have a life. Next time, K? Love that

[1derweye]

Thanks Honey.
I like your use of vocabulary too!
Especially using the cute emoticon immediately after it!
It "cushions" the end of the traverse our eye travels over the word, docha think?
Oh. Sorry Asker. Of course you do! That was your intent all along! (duh)...-Awkward!-...
The abruptness at the end of a sentence can be so violent sometimes. Poor eyes.
They take beating, huh? Don't get me started about reading Phone books!
Good thing they've shrunk to the point of being absolutely impossible to read!
Back when they were full size, they were too thick! It made the table uneven in the other direction.
Now? It shims that broken leg at just the right height!
No more spilled "Cream of 'Shroom" soup! It's a Brave New World!
Gotta say, this wacky, 21st contempoarily-modern, Spacey, Atomically-Informative Age is real swell!

Intrusive? Yea, you're right. Random acts of grin-eliciting are uncalled for. I'll stop... sigh...

[ObscuredBeyond]

It's about where the eyes spend most of their focus. If on your boobs, ass, and groin, he's primarily in it for lust. If at your face, neck, arms, lower legs, back, and hair, he's admiring you.

[apple24]

Awe @ObscuredBeyond that so sweet!

[Kirssi]

I second that, @apple24! :)

[apple24]

@Kirssi so sweet!

[girlandhermusic]

I'm melting

[girlandhermusic]

But what if it's both?

[ObscuredBeyond]

@girlandhermusic: If both, then it's a combination of the two. It's hard for us to multitask; but we'll seize any opportunity to be efficient.

"She's got this? Check. That? Check. Personality I admire? Check. Brain that functions? Perfect. Cute? Completely. A body that I wouldn't mind merging with mine? Double-triple check! But is she really the one? Must investigate further."

[DishLady]

I thought it was simply the face. Guys looking at a girl's legs (commenting/whistling, etc.) seems more in the lust category.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@DishLady: Sizing up is something both types will do. Your proportions influence how graceful or awkward each interaction between the two of you in the future will be, not just how easy or not a particular part of sex will be.

A man what just wants sex will only care about how much he can grab with his hands, how good a kisser you are, how easy it will be to find an angle of entry, and how easy it will be to keep it inside you once he achieves that entry.

An admirer will care about every feature of you, not just your perceived sexual compatibility with him.

[drkrose99]

I ask the same question myself. But in my opinion i think guys go through phases when they're attracted to a girl. First it may start off as lust where they start imagining and fantasizing about you and your body. Then after some time has passed and they really get to know you (assuming that you have a great personality and easy to get along with), they start having a mix of lust looks and admiration. Then after more time passes and they really start spending time with you and start falling for your personality, they might look at you like you're the most beautiful person ever.

[AbbyKay]

If they look at the bewbs or bootay they WANT you. You have to say the WANT with some OOMF! if he looks at your face or looks you right in the eyes he's either just being decent or he thinks you're pretty!! yay!

[AthleticMom]

At your age, it's usually lust
unless obviously from a parent/relative/teacher/most other gals that wouldn't think of you in that light
soooooo
go with lust until they prove otherwise

[Mesonfielde]

If a guy truly admires your physical appearance, then they will feel sexually attracted to you.

[AnonKuma]

It's extremely hard to tell the difference because staring is simply staring.

Maybe just look at his eye movements or where it is looking at: up+down/looking at your boobs or ass then obviously lustful stare. If it is looking at your face/smiling then it could be admiration of beauty.

[Evil_romantic]

If he is leering at you like a wolf leering at a piece of meat its lust, if he looks like someone in awe of a priceless work of art its admiration.

Lust makes guys look slighty retarded, is an easy way to tell.

[lilly59599]

You will get a vibe, and its almost like a predatory vibe, if he's truly just admiring you, he may look timid, or as if he awestruck, if he's lusting, hell just be staring blanklessly, and you'll just get a creepy vibe

[Bimbobambo]

I dont think there is a difference in the stare 😂 a stare is a stare. You have to wait and see what he says to know that. If you won't talk with him, just see it as a compliment eitherway.

[Metlahaed]

Nah, I think it admiration is when they admire you as a person, your character, abilities, etc.

Lust, the just want to do sexual things to you.

[pooper89]

I don't think there is a difference. Because if he admires you, he wants to fuck you. Guys are simple

[1derweye]

Just an FYI poop?
There is a difference.
We CAN admire without a sexual connotation.
Would you appreciate such a blanket stereotyping?
Like: All Girls are judgmental, insecure, vindictive Sluts, to use as we want.
It's one thing to see it as just something I typed.
But if you knew that's what we all believed, how would you feel?
Admiration by definition is not sexually induced.
Expanding your vocabulary can facilitate a more accurate expression.
We are not all as simple as the ones you associate with.
Expanding your horizons can facilitate a more accurate impression, I hope.

[Anonymous]

I think admiration is more like they see the beauty in you and prob want to get to know you, and lust is more like they only like you for your looks and want to most likely get inside your pants.

[apple24]

I wish I knew... I get strange stares! I am a funny look person! !

[Anonymous]

When in admiration I tend to look at a woman's eyes and face.

[archiz]

If he is drooling it s lust😆

[abc3643]

Guys don't stare with admiration.

[BigJake]

They're pretty much the same thing.