Sometimes it's difficult to separate the infatuation and passion lust can give you with actually liking someone. Lust is the physical/hormonal pull you have when you're attracted to someone- you can feel lust by itself or you can feel it combined with love. Lust by itself tends to be characterized by pretty much always wanting to engage in the physical aspects of a relationship (fooling around, sex etc.) without much emphasis on the other stuff. For instance, if you're seeing someone and the two of you spend most of your time hooking up, don't go out a lot, and don't really spend much time together otherwise, it's probably lust.
Liking or loving someone goes a lot deeper- it's golfer_wi said, it's the personal side of things. If someone likes you, they listen to your stories, love hanging out with you whether you're out with friends, hooking up, or just watching TV, they care about what's going on in your life, are there for you, and they let you into their world (family, friends, personal goals etc.).
You mentioned a guy doing something nice for you as an example of liking you- it could be, or it could be a way he sees to satisfying his lust. It all depends on what it is- if it's something kind of generic (buying you chocolate/flowers), it doesn't say definitively either way what's going on in his head. But if he goes out and finds your FAVORITE chocolate or flowers, or something that says he's taken the time to listen to you and remembers your likes/dislikes, that's a good indication of liking you. Neither is foolproof of course, a nice guy who likes you might be trying really hard and not have had the chance to learn your perferences and a smooth player might be good at paying attention to things like that.
Bottom line, I would say go with your gut on things and also take Gary09's advice- if you don't give in to a guy's lust and he's still there, still being caring and sweet, chances are he feels more than just attraction for you.
My understanding is that lust is purely physical and there is no want for a future relationship, just a quick roll in the hay. When you like someone it's usually more then just physical and you can see yourself having a future with them.
Lust is the physical attraction part of it. It partially is what makes us see someone and want to be closer to them. Like is the personal portion. Initially we are drawn to someone becuase of their physical characteristics. We think they are hot! Eventually lust fades away... and if you are still attracted to them? Then it's love.
If after sex, he still kisses and cuddles you, he likes you. If he's distant then it's lust. Guys often mistake lust for liking 'til they've had sex with you a few times.
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Lust is hormones, guys generaly let that that lead them. To tell if a guy really likes you, don't give in to his lust but, if he still is there for you then he most likely likes you
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