Guys, What makes you possessive over a girl you barely know?

[Anonymous]

I'm talking to this guy and somehow we got on the topic of other guys (ones I talk/flirt with) and he told me that I don't need to worry about those other guys, he's all I'm gonna need. I laughed it off because well no man tells me what to do but part of me felt drawn to him more so because of that. Anyway, what's the end game? Why would he say that?
SN: We've been talking, no dates, for about 1 month.

[DoggyDude]

I wouldn't say that's possessive for a guy. That is arrogance!

I wonder if your wanting to read possessive into that. Maybe want to like him?

However, in answer to your question, when a guy gets possessive about a girl they don't really know, it is because they have already developed feelings for her. They maybe have liked her from afar for a while and maybe they feel there is enough there in her attitude to suggest she is interested too. They might even feel that your friendship is some form of relationship to them.

Guy's get possessive when they get worried they are going to lose a girl they have deep feelings for. Though, unfortunately, some guys just get possessive as a act of ownership (I think this sounds more the latter, I'm sorry to say).

A guy who is interested in you, deeply caring, and therefore possessive, will tend to be possessive in a sudden way. They will be fine for a while, and then suddenly blurt out something like "why don't you treat ME that way?" or other such sentiments when your close with other men. This is showing they are jealous and feel your putting someone else above them when they are invested in caring for you (it also suggests the sort of feel you have established a rapour which to them is precious and they are scared to lose it).

[AAGNAS]

1. He's saying it because he's displaying his confidence in his ability to satisfy you completely.
2. You're drawn towards him because confidence is an attractive quality and is often associated with masculinity and strength
3. The end game sounds like it would be to date you however if he has been talking for a month and hasn't made a date I would suggest that he isn't as confident as you think he might be. Ask him to hang out and see what happens.

[Dtegesd123]

its the confidence that made you attracted, haha. He wants you, but then again it could just be a line like " you are so different from anyone I've ever meant in my life, you'll special, bla bla bla " to get into your pants.

[Asker]

Yeah that's true

[Dtegesd123]

not saying that its a bad thing to want sex before fully investing into the relationship. I honestly would need to have sex with someone in the first month to see if we are compatible. E. g. those couples who are allergic to each others genitals haha.

[Asker]

BS! Really! That's a thing?

[Dtegesd123]

yea, people get rashes, starts to hurt, to their partners juices. It has something to do with PH levels.

[Asker]

Oh wow that would be terrible.

[Cosytoasty]

Isn't it obvious? He wants you and is trying to make himself as the only option.

[Asker]

Ohh... geeze I'm so oblivious... I'm so used to negative outcomes.

[blondfrog]

If she is fucking hot as shit that's all you need.