He told me he had a family emergency? 0_0 Is this an excuse guys use to ghost?

[carpediem93]

Please read the explanation before responding:

This guy and I were talking. We had several great and long conversations. Then, he disappeared for a day or two. I told him I was a straight forward person and said if he wasn't interested, I was cool with that. He replied a long ass thing saying he had a family emergency and his mom was currently in the hospital. He said he'd try to call me later and said a lot of other things as well. Since my mother almost passed away and I stayed with her in the hospital for over six months last year I immediately felt horrible and told him to focus on his family and not worry about calling me. I then checked up on him about a week later. And again about a month after that. No response.

It's been over two months now. Is this really something a guy would do to ghost someone? Why make up a situation about a dying family member when I basically gave him a way out? And then why give such a huge response and offer to call me? I think a part of me is still incredibly bothered by this because I know what it's like to have a family emergency and it shocks me that someone I thought was decent could possibly be using this as a way to get away. Also, I love closure and I hate not knowing what happened. What do you guys think? Does this sound like a "ghosting excuse"?

Based on the description, sounds like he ghosted you

Based on the description, doesn't sound like he ghosted you

[genuinlysensitive]

Normally no, but two months is a long time, sounds like you got ghosted. Normally guys don't make stuff like this up, if he did make it up you are better of without him. Most likely he did have an emergency, which is why he sent that long text, but then met another girl he really liked and decided to ghost you. I mean typically people who ghost don't need any excuse, much less such an elaborate one.

[carpediem93]

"I mean typically people who ghost don't need any excuse, much less such an elaborate one."
That's why I was so confused about this whole situation. You're probably right though. He had to have met someone else after whatever he went through.

[Anonymous]

Too hard to pass judgement on this. How about you I don't know.. contact him?

[carpediem93]

I already tried twice... I checked on him a week and a month later with no response from his side.

[Prakbio]

i am not sure.. but want to ask you if you tried to talk to him when he was in hospital as said by him.. you message him about how is her mom now?

[carpediem93]

Thanks for the response. I actually did send two texts saying I hoped all was well and that I was sending positive vibes his way. Maybe you're right. I should have probably asked how everything was. I was just afraid of interfering in his business.

[Anonymous]

Did you fuck him as yet?

[carpediem93]

No. We'd only been talking for a few weeks. The conversations started out flirty and superficial but then they became longer and had more depth. We also had several intellectual conversations as well.