What does it mean when a guy says you're a lot alike?

[taelormilan]

I was talking to a friend about some personal problems and he said that we're really similar and that it's almost scary how alike we are. So I said that he mad it den like a bad thing an he said that it wasn't.

[Snappyrofl]

finding common ground with somebody else is usually how you build a friendship or start one. I wouldn't think too much into on the negative side because he's just trying to relate to you and that's okay. now sometimes if he usually tries to find a lot and always mentions things that are in common with you then he might possibly like you. He's trying to interest you to thinking that he is your other half.

[taelormilan]

He and I have been close friends for just about a year now and lately he's always talking about how comfortable he is with me and how he can tell me anything and I like him but I'm not sure if he likes me back... he said that he wanted to establish our friendship before we become more but it also seems like he doesn't want to hang out with me, he always says that we need to soon but he never makes any specific plans

[Snappyrofl]

he may be intimidated by a relationship right now or he's just not ready. I'm sure he likes you quite a bit knowing that he's talking to you so frequently not to mention the similarities and the way she mentions that you two are alike. so honestly it's just a time game when comes down to what he wants. I would say try mentioning it to him and see what he says. just remember you miss all the shots you do not take.

[taelormilan]

Well he already knows that I like him or at least liked him (he and I have a very complicated relationship) or been waiting for him for a while but now things are starting to look like they're going to happen between us soon. He's been very flirty but because we're close i know that there are other girls that he's talking to whether or not he wants a relationship with them I'm not 100% sure but I'm nervous he's trying to string me along just in case things don't work out with the other girls. But considering he's my bestfriend I also have a hard time believing he would do that

[Snappyrofl]

well from what you said you are actually very correct love. most men like to keep their options open. if he's talking to other girls but he's interacting with you like you say he is then he's merely playing with the idea of being with you or he's just playing with you. I would ask you these other girls and see how he answers your question. when he answers I would focus on the tone in which he answers. if it's not a lot and low tone then it could be that he's lying. or if it's in a high ecstatic or high-energy response then he may be telling the truth. be sure to wash his eyes as well most Liars look to the left or look away or focus on something else rather than looking you in the eyes when they lie.

[taelormilan]

We had this conversation through text so I'll ask him next time I see him... but I talk to him about the other guys I'm seeing and I purposely make it seem as though I'm more interested in them than I am. Is it possible that he's doing the same thing? In our last conversation he didn't mention the girls until I mentioned a guy I was seeing and even then he was talking about them in a sexual way and he said that he was just having fun. I don't know the extent of his relationships with the other girls but I think what he and I have runs a little deeper.

[taelormilan]

It might help to mention that he and his ex broke up right before we met... she left him for his bestfriend. For the past year he hasn't been ready for a relationship but now he says that he "thinks" he is

[Snappyrofl]

no you should never date someone who thinks they're okay they should know they're okay but not even mentioning that they think they're okay. When somebody is okay about something they don't talk about it now and from what you're saying he still talks about it.

[taelormilan]

Yea I see what you're saying... I'll continue to give him time, when he's ready he'll let me know

[belen]

I think he just tried to explain that you both have so much in common :)