Friends with benefits don't kiss?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a guy for a few months. The sex is great. The only problem is that he does not want to kiss nor go down on me (but expects me to go down on him all the time because he likes it).
We hang out most days of the week unless we travel for work, so could be 4-5 nights a week. We do other stuff as well like going out with friends and he does introduce me to his friends (as a friend ofc). When i'm on period he would insist to meet as well, to watch movies or go out for a nice meal, cuddle in bed and talk for hours. So basically we act like couples but it kinds of annoying since I like kissing and not getting any. Don't mind much about him not going down on me though.

I don't bring up the subject because we are just friends with benefits at the end of the day. But thinking of finding another one to replace him, who actually likes to kiss. We went out once and a guy in the group tried to make out with me as we introduced ourselves as friends only, and he got really mad, told me to leave the party and said that guy's not respectful to me (not that he's jealous or anything -> his words).

Is he sticking to the friends with benefits codes (no intimacy etc)? Or what is he trying to do?

I don't mind finding another one but the sex is good with him and we actually get on pretty well.

**And no, my breath does not stink nor am I a lousy kisser :)

[aftermydemise]

well seeing as you're already having sex with him, and sticking his entire penis in your mouth, what's the harm of you asking him to make out with you?

so he's allowed to tell you what to do, and what he likes, because he likes it (you going down on him) but you feel you cannot?

kissing can be very intimate for people, much more intimate than sex. he obviously has intimacy issues.

if kissing is that important to you, and you feel that you cannot express your opinion to him/all your needs aren't getting met/AND you're already contemplating finding another partner to have sex with, leave the dude and find someone that actually wants to kiss you.

I've never had sex with a girl and NOT kissed her. making out with the girl I'm having sex with is fucking awesome. really awesome.

[Asker]

So I took your advice and talked to him. He said he didn't think it was an issue, just that he's not really into kissing and giving oral. Though he said he would do it if I want. Still a bit awkward having to ask for it :). Thanks!

[aftermydemise]

good for you. I definitely agree, it's extremely awkward that you have to ask for it. I feel he should naturally want to do things like kiss you, somethings up with him for sure. I'm glad you talked to him though.

[ashishreddy]

Find another one maybe, unless you have feelings for this guy...

[Asker]

Oops, just pressed the thumb down by accident, got it removed though. I don't really have feelings for him so probably find another one would be an easier option :)

[ashishreddy]

Great.. or you can keep them both.. after all they're fwb's.. Good luck.. 😉

[Asker]

Ah nah, one at a time, im not that slutty haha

[Anonymous]

Basically he's not kissing as he doesn't want the connection. I wouldn't be going down on him if he can't even do that for you. And find someone who does what you like. Shouldn't be hard to find someone who you enjoy in bed aswell

[neoagent1]

Well first he's a douche if he won't eat your pussy but expects you to suck him off.

Second, I've had 4 FWBs. I've kissed all of them. Kissing makes sex even better.

[Regular1]

FWBs kiss. Your guy has other issues.

[Asker]

Yea i find it quite strange. I had a few fbs before and this is the weird one...

[aryan3423]

hi b