Are many men attracted to teenage girls? Is this a normal/ok thing?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me a couple of nights ago that he sometimes likes looking for pornographic pictures of teen girls (like 16 year olds, nothing worse than that). We were talking about our turn ons and what we look for when alone. It was a peaceful, pleasant conversation, but when he disclosed this, I felt a bit weird. Didn't tell him that, I assume it took courage to tell someone... which is why I am asking here: do many men do that? Why is that attractive? I am only 26, but they seem almost like children to me... Should I be worried?

[hellionthesagereborn]

We are biologically wired to find younger women attractive. Historically no one would have batted an eye at this because it was quite literally normal to the point where if you didn't find 16-18 year old attractive it would be considered very odd. You have to remember biology does not change as quickly as technology. So historically we where wired to find younger women attractive because they had a higher survivability for child birth, fewer complications and because children died frequently (infant mortality rate was incredibly high) so you needed to have significantly more time and thus more attempts at reproduction in order to ensure that your offspring would survive compounded by the fact that you died younger and thus needed to start this process as early as possible. So it would be abnormal for him not to find them physically attractive. Now obviously with advancement in technology we no longer have to do this and we for the most part don't, we can have the luxury of going after a woman who is mentally compatable for us instead of seeking out a woman who will survive the rigours of child birth. Same goes for women, your perfectly able to be with a man who makes less money then you and who is not assertive (assertiveness being necessary for ambition and for defensive purposes) and/or strong yet you are still biologically wired to seek out men with these traits, men who give you an impression of strength and protection and/or economic security. So yeah, its biology.

[InfoBot]

Pornographic pictures of 16yr olds would still be illegal and could see him arrested. It doesn't matter what the age of consent is in your country, you will likely still have the same minimum age for pornographic online content.

[Asker]

Sure. Goes without saying. But that was not my question. And I do not have the power to control his online activity, only he can. I better get used to that :)

[InfoBot]

Sure, but you have the power to make a stand against him committing crimes. You don't have to stand by him as he searches for illegal pornography. To accept it is to enable it.

[Kenji255]

Go get out of stage blue and come back. (Hint: Spiral Dynamics)

[IamNuts]

Considering how popular the teen section on pornsites are, I'd say it's perfectly normal. Nobody said teenagers can't be attractive, I hardly changed at all since I was like 15.

[Samantha2448]

A lot of men do that especially when young girls wear makeup that makes them look 5-10 years older

[txrey79]

Awww... Geez, I hate to knock another dudes fantasy juice... but yeah.. it is a little weird... but maybe there is some room to give him the benefit of the doubt,... some 16 y/o's look much older...
if there is any good news out of this, I would say that he must be very comfortable and trusting with you to share that...

[Asker]

Yes, we have a great relationship and I don't want to make him feel bad about it. Thank God for you guys out here ^_^
I don't know what to make of this information he gave me. He wants a career in academia! Should I prepare to be threatened every time he goes to work? :-s

[txrey79]

you have a legitimate concern... and I'll add this, if he has opened up to you, it's likely that it's NOT THAT, bad in terms of... if he was hiding this the. it would potentially be a much larger issue. Might I recommend talking with him more about it in the same way you did when he told you, his attraction could also be to the way they dress, or look, so maybe accommodating this into y'all sex play would help him to focus more on you and less the taboo fantasy... I know I would be all over that.

[Asker]

Yeah, I played the schoolgirl for him ^_^ he told me this in the context of ''I would have loved to fuck you when you were 16'' (cause I had shown him teen pics of myself and he loved them). So I don't know. Maybe in the end he will not end up cheating on me with a student :)))))

[txrey79]

I think you're do g the best you can... my advice is just continue to be open and accepting of him, this is about the only way you'll be able to find out if his attraction is becoming problematic, (ex. he can ONLY have sex with you as a schoolgirl, etc) please note that I am not saying his attraction to students would be OK, but I'm saying that in order for you to find out how much of an issue it is, you need to continue to be open and accepting of him that way he will continue to share openly with you. Be on alert though, and if when he becomes working in academia, have the talk with him and let him know you don't want him to go to prison...

[Asker]

Thanks so much for your helpful advice, it does not happen often that people actually take time to help strangers from a non-selfish and generous place. :) So far so good, he can have sex with me any time, his libido is great and so is mine. Hopefully things will remain the same :)

[TheOtakuMaid]

Yes. I would only worry if he is looking at children i. e 13 and below as that is actually Pedophilia. but having an attraction to teenage girls is normal.

though society still deems it weird for good reason and i would not be ok with him acting on such but just looking is fine

[Justinaveragedude]

The truth is, guys find attractive people at any age attractive. And once a girl is 18 (younger in some states) she is legal. So it really just... depends on the people involved. I tend to date a little younger then myself, but no more the 10 years at the most... but I will leave with this...

https://youtu.be/bnlv1wd13fY

[ShortCircuit]

I think that is one of the very few things in this world that is indeed normal, but is not considered okay.

[Asker]

Could you please elaborate a bit? I see you are 16.

[ShortCircuit]

Despite the fact society deems it wrong to be sexually attracted to a teenager, we have all been guilty of it. With the way teenagers dress and act these days, who can blame them?

I know this may seem biased coming from, ya know... a teenager. However, the point I'm trying to make is that yes, I am attracted to both teenage and adult women, but I don't see that changing when I get older.

[Asker]

Thank you! :)

[ShortCircuit]

Ah, but there was one detail that I sorta missed. You mentioned that he watches teen porn?

Well, finding yourself attracted to someone who happens to be a teenager is normal. However, I don't think that specifically seeking out porn that features underage girls is ok. It's almost like he is fetishizing it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The age of consent is 16 in many usa States and in some parts of the world is 13 or 14. I guess men like teens for purity reasons. Personally I desire a grown woman.

[Prime_Sol]

why would you need to be worried when several states recognized 16 as a legal age?
What's that problem here?

[Asker]

Because those girls are barely exiting childhood. In my opinion, obviously. But because this is how I see it, I am worried. I undrstand you have a different perspective. If I had it too, I would not worry.

[Prime_Sol]

They what are you asking. there are plenty of people on the planet the see that age as legal.
Form relationships and enjoy life.
others don't see it that way and is illegal in some places.
This is a non issue that you seem to be blowing up.

[Asker]

Many creepy things are legal. Many wrong things are legal. Anyway, thank you for your time.

[Prime_Sol]

Many normal things are illegal. many right things are illegal.
You're welcome.

[Asker]

well yeah, exactly. so whether it is legal or not, this was not what my question was about.

[Prime_Sol]

sure it was. you said "should i be worried"
given the number of places I the states and other counties where the action would be 100% fine, I asked what exactly is there to be worried about.

[Hater007]

Yes honestly. Im only 17 but i find myself attracted to 15 year old girls without even knowing it. Yes they look older and dress more revealing!

[Texasmade1]

I mean in porn yeah, but like actual regular teens, no. Thats weird and creepy

[Asker]

The pictures are porn so it's fine. I wonder though, if he would act on it. That would creep me out.

[Texasmade1]

As long as he doesn't act on it, its fine. Some. guys have teen fetish.

[Anonymous]

some 16 don't look like 16 from when we were sixteen.

[Jackblue]

That is against the law!!!

[Karl99]

Depends on their body

[Intraluminal]

Yeah, a little.

[Asker]

Oh dear. What do I do?

[Seppelson]

I think it's weird