Depends on the type of man and what type of looking... There's not looking, there's looking hard with intent, and there's noticing a set of tits in your field of vision because you have eyes... and when you respectfully pull your eyes away that is being true and real, there's even guys who don't look or try not to. For some type of men it's natural, and for other's it not. Get to the core of the problem, ask him directly why he does it, and if he gets defense ask questions that get to the core of the problem WITHOUT getting lost in frustration, try and understand why, WHILE trying to get him to understand why he does AND what you want of him. He obviously doesn't have to do what you want but make it clear. Don't be shy about this or it will eat at you for the rest of your marriage.
Most Helpful Opinions
What's not normal is your use of the term "perve." He's not a "perve," whatever that means-- he's just doing something that you don't like. There's a big difference.
As to whether it's normal or not, well... yes. It is normal. He's basically giving you the right to look anywhere you please as well. If you do, and he gets mad, well... means he has no leg to stand on doesn't it? Boys look at hot girls. Yep. Pretty simple. Nothing you can do about it, and honestly, there's no reason why you should try to. He's engaged to you. What else do you want? Complete and total control of his vision? Nah.
It's normal for guys to look, however there are ways for them to do so without being jerks. Mine would almost break his neck looking at other women and there's nothing like that feeling you get when you see your man making eye contact with someone in front of you. So this is what I did... I refused to go anywhere with him in public. When he would ask me to go somewhere or when I needed to go somewhere and he wanted to tag along I said no I'm not interested in seeing who you wanna screw today. After about 8 months he had enough and promised to stop. He slips occasionally but it's quick glances instead of stares and it's very rare. Been together 7 years now.
I think guys will always look. It it's pretty rude and disrespectful to do it so obviously while with you.
I wouldn't appreciate that at all.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
14Opinion
This is 100% normal. If he take s it to the net step with another women then you got a problem. Men in general are very visual and if it check out the nice ass want to get a better look. This is the way I think of it. For a guy there are 2 types of girls/women out there they type you want to fuck and the type we want to settle down with. When we do find the type we want to settle down with. Most stay loyal. Doesn't mean that if a girl with a nice ass comes walking by we aren't gonna look. Basically our eyes wander but our hearts don't.
He isn't "perving", he is programmed differently than you and we are hard coded to roam. It isn't a natural state for us to be monogamous, we do it because of social stigmas and pressure.
It has NOTHING to do with respect. Your idea that it has something to do with you is a very narcissistic mind set.
If you were walking and heard a car accident happen behind you, your instinct is to turn and look, you do it without even thinking. This is how we are programmed with women. You are not visually stimulated, we are, and you can not reprogram biology.Men are visual, we always look, and will always look. But he should not be doing it in front of you. Eventually us guys know how to do it even when we are with our woman without her knowing it. But if he is obvious about it, then he has zero respect for you. You need to take that into consideration. But make sure you say something to him first and give him a chance to make right. he might not know he is doing it. Some guys are fucking clueless...
I find that very disrespectful personally. . .
Many guys just "hide" that, haha. Guess I'm a tad bit different. Then again, I love my girl. I can't even look at another girl in that way. Just impossible for me.. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯All men look at other women, some hide it good but some can't. But I think you are overreacting and imagining things maybe, there is no way he would constantly look. I just can't imagine someone doing it with a girlfriend so obviously. If a girl is passing and he turns around to see their butt and keeps staring that is disrespectful but if he keeps his head forward and eyes women like that it is completely normal.
perfectly normal, a married man is still a man and if a guy says he doesn't then he's lying.
understandable it bothers you but all men tend to window shop.
Not a lack of respect, more of a lack of skill.
I've seen you women checking guys out, it's master class.
Also, guys look at girls. We try not to, but our nature makes that happen.it's completely normal to look at other people. he's engaged, not blind.
it's normal to look but it's disrespectful to do it so obviously in front of you
Guys get use to it an got get there doing it sum times but do it in front of him an see what he does
it is normal. i would worry if he didn't...
No, only if he's disgusting.
Yeah it would be normal for me when I get married
Yeah I think so.
Men will be men.
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions