Difference between being sad, and being hurt.......?

[Robertinho]

I was wondering what's the difference between being sad, and being hurt? Do they both have the same meaning, different meanings, or something like that? I mean I for one knows there's a difference but I guess I wanted to hear other peoples point of views, ideas and examples. Any helpful responses are appreciated...thank you all.

[jrose]

I think there's a difference, although pretty subtle at times. I can be sad without being hurt- I can be sad that a friend died, I can be sad thay a phase in my life is over, I can be sad that my life isn't going the way I planned, I can be sad just because I'm feeling down. Sadness can be a prolonged thing (depression) or it can be a short-lived thing, but it's not necessarily attached to the action of another person, in fact a lot of the time it's not.

Being hurt though, that's attached to a specific action by someone in your life. You're hurt that someone cheated on you, hurt they said something insulting, hurt they betrayed a confidence, hurt they don't have time for you anymore, hurt they didn't consider your feelings etc. Being hurt can cause profound pain and sometimes intertwine with sadness (ie sad that a phase has ended because your boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on you so you broke up), but the biggest difference is that the pain of being hurt is derived entirely from another person and not yourself.

Both can last a very, very long time, but I think being hurt by another person is more lasting because if the hurt is deep enough it will last forever, even after you get over it there will still be a scar on your heart.

[Robertinho]

Wow you really gave a lot of good examples there to the fullest. So basically being sad would be because of your own. But being hurt would be because someone else caused you to be hurt for the most part then! Hmmmmm...........very interesting the way you described it with examples and so proffesional, I'm impress. Thank you for everything, and God bless you there.

[jrose]

Thanks!

[BluStar2252]

Well to me being sad is just like you will get over it soon. But if you are hurt then it will last a little longer. You when you think about later on in life them you might cry again.

[Robertinho]

Hmmmm how about in a relashionship where the guy for example, would declare himself sad, and the girl would be hurt............how would that be???

[BluStar2252]

Well I see it as guys try to hold themselves back from tears, sorry if your not this type but some are. But they can be hurt just as much as girls. But he may be sad as in ohh I lost a girlfriend but he would eventually get over it. But when a girl or anyone is hurt then that person that they are hurt over will always have a special place in their heart.

[Robertinho]

Ohhhh alright I see, thanks for your response it helped alot. Don't get me wrong, its just that one of my few friends that's a girl was the one that was hurt, while her guy was sad. So I just wanted to know well what would be the difference here if one of them is hurt, and the other one is sad. She's a good friend don't want to see her get hurt.....................but well she is. Nevertheless, once again thanks for your help, thank you ms.

[BluStar2252]

Your welcome. I hope that it helped.