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This is me. The part that pertains to this question is where it said that I'm very confident in the knowledge of my abilities, and also my non-abilities. Basically meaning: I know what I can do and I know what I can't do. This sometimes comes off to people as me being cocky, arrogant, hubris, etc. Just tonight in class, the teacher missed class last week when we took our midterms and she said that there was a certain question that everyone seemed to struggle on, and if so she'd throw it out or allow a re-test. I was making a joke but I said "Oh don't worry, I got an A"...even though I was joking, I was serious behind it. I know I did good on it but it very well could've came off as me being arrogant. Its things like that, that I can speak up and say for myself.
So yeah, I understand what you mean about all that. My advice would not to be learn how to be not proud, but how to be HUMBLE. I struggled for years with not feeling worthwhile about anything. Now that I've got to a point where I can feel good about at least some of the things I do, I don't want to give that up, only improve on it. So I say don't lose your ability to pat yourself on the back, but if you feel so then learn to be more pleasant about it.
You should always be proud of yourself and what you do.
But as you know, in some situations pride can be a bad thing.
For instance. Some people are to proud to receive or ask for help. Mostly I think this is a fear of appearing weak. Pride is sometimes a belief that you always have to be strong in all situations and never show weakness. The funny thing is that it takes strength to show weakness.
Perhaps you should ask yourself where this pride comes from. Most negative emotions comes from fear in one way or another.
Just try to see everyone equal as you. Don't look down on others who are less fortunate than your self. Do some humanitarian related things, offer some of your time to organizations that offer help to the homeless or to other events that helps those that can't help them self. Its a very humbling experience. Help build a house, help out at an animal shelter. Do something that requires YOUR time and effort. You'll see things in a new light afterward. Hope this helsp. :)
im the same way! I am too proud to say how ireally feel or think and expect people to read my mind and I'm too proud to cry over guys or show emotion. I thought of how many people I lost for my pride because they didn't think I cared about them, so I finally had some type of emotion and just had to let them know. I know the people I love are more important than my pride. you don't lose yourself in lloving others :) and try to accept & understand others!
try to empathize with less fortunate people and be more sympathetic, but in a genuine sense. pride is sometimes a good thing. if you're proud and not condescending towards others, I find no problem with being proud. it's just that socially if you understand people and you aren't being too arrogant about being proud, I see no problem with being so proud.
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It's commendable that you've recognized this in yourself and wish to change.
As C.S. Lewis wrote, there are two different kinds of pride. One is okay... this kind of pride helps a person out and afterward says "I feel good inside because I aided them". Bad pride, in the same instance, would be "what a good person I am to have helped them." Bad pride is over-exalting yourself. It's fine to truthfully acknowledge your strengths, but it can be taken too far. Is this the pride you meant, or is it the kind that's okay?
If it's the bad kind, then there is a solution; regard others as your equals. Love them, and in humility strive to understand them and respect them. As you grow in looking to others, your need to look to yourself will lessen.
I assume when you say "pride or proud" that you mean you have 1) achieved your main goals in life such as being billioniare, going to highly respected institution, getting higher degree, having high paying jobs such as movie actor or CEO or whatever. 1) that you have a good family and lover, close friends, and healthy. 3) that you flatter about these achievements and people feel bad because they either don't want to know your perosnal detail, jealous or envy about your sucess or pride and proudness. 4) you came from a good family or ethnicty placed in high standard in your community such as Jewish community which is often considered highly family and educational oriented as "the Jewish Phenomenon" book elucidates. However, those commenting on your page seem to talking about other things and I am confused of what you mean "pride and proud". Please define and explain for me the words you used. Thanks
THE SOURCE OF PRIDE IS SHAME.
When someone told me I didn't believe it , I say are quite opposite feeling but I see now in way to get free from pride you should get free from shame you feel towards yourself in relation with
others or with yourself.
best way to stop acting proud is to stop thinking that way. As buddha said, we are our thoughts - what we think, we become.
Change your state of mind and the rest will follow :)
well we are on the same boat am trying my best to stop just thinking about myself and cares for others first. so far is kind of working I think lol
Realize that you are a person just like anyone else and not any better or higher than the next person. no matter how cool, rich, goodlooking or whatever you think you are, there will always be someone who is more cool, rich, good looking or whatever
You don't need help. Remain proud and confident. Who wants to be some sniveling wet tissue?
Funny you should post this... I just asked this question of guys about pride. My ex is super prideful and I think that's what our main issue right now is, his pride getting in the way of him being able to say really how he feels. But I don't think pride is a bad thing as long as it's not a crutch... When you are too prideful to say sorry or I forgive you or we can work it out then you need to do some self searching as to why you are so prideful.
I don't think pride is a bad thing. It's good to put your own needs above others. Greed is good. You have to be selfish to survive and thrive.
"Be very humble in spirit, because in the end you will be eaten by worms." - EotF
Always remember, you are human like others,
proud or cocky?
Laugh at yourself.
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