If the guy really likes you and doesn't just want to get into the pants he will listen and try and help you through any thing you are going through. Or he might really like you and be exited and nervous that you are talking to him about your personal problems and might not be too consintraded on it.
Males listen, but we soon realize that females don't share problems to get input. Males grab a hammer and nail when they have a problem, females grab their diary. Forgive your guy for not being the venting type.
Odds are unless the listener has a personal stake in the matter doesn't really care, you can be sympathetic but you don't really care on that level as the speaker. The best thing anyone can do is shut up, listen, and provide feed back when asked.
One of my favorite things to do. Make me feel better about myself. And gives me a deeper understanding in to the mind of women. But still vexes me so.
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Because we're not therapists. At least they get paid to listen. Our only job is to APPEAR attentive. Nobody wants to have someone constantly dump their problems on them, especially if it's the same thing day after day. Guys want to SOLVE problems; not have someone vent to them daily. We can only take so much.
but what if it's once in a blue moon that your gf/fiancee/wife wants to vent to you or she has something that's actually really bothering her and she has no idea on what to do? then what will you do? would you ignore her then but try to act like you're giving her your undivided attention?
@sarahP2 Occasionally is never a problem. Venting only becomes a problem if it's continual. A lot of guys blow off steam by going to the gym or some other activity. Once again, most guys don't mind helping to solve a real problem but more often than not it's just venting even though a lot of girls present things that bother them as a problem to be solved when it's not.
There are guys won't bother to listen at all, but they're not interested in any real relationship.
Yes. I do at least. I've always been a good listener for whoever. My mom was a good listener, and she gave golden advice. It's important to listen first then speak last. Ears wide open!
the majority does not listen or at least not rightly. Sometimes it is also because women rarely directly address a problem. But in old age even a man learns to do so.
Yeah, I always listen to girls. I actually really like girls, more than guys, anyhow. Just because I like fucking a variety of girls doesn't mean I don't like them as people, too.
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If the guy really likes you and doesn't just want to get into the pants he will listen and try and help you through any thing you are going through. Or he might really like you and be exited and nervous that you are talking to him about your personal problems and might not be too consintraded on it.
I did listened to several girls problem here,
I won't mind listening to them
But
They are going to do what ever they want to and they absolutely most of the time give no fuck on suggestions
Especially when the problem is based on relationships
Males listen, but we soon realize that females don't share problems to get input. Males grab a hammer and nail when they have a problem, females grab their diary. Forgive your guy for not being the venting type.
It's true they don't share problems to get input but dump problems onto you because they see you as a negative energy dumpster.
Odds are unless the listener has a personal stake in the matter doesn't really care, you can be sympathetic but you don't really care on that level as the speaker. The best thing anyone can do is shut up, listen, and provide feed back when asked.
One of my favorite things to do. Make me feel better about myself. And gives me a deeper understanding in to the mind of women.
But still vexes me so.
Because we're not therapists. At least they get paid to listen. Our only job is to APPEAR attentive. Nobody wants to have someone constantly dump their problems on them, especially if it's the same thing day after day. Guys want to SOLVE problems; not have someone vent to them daily. We can only take so much.
but what if it's once in a blue moon that your gf/fiancee/wife wants to vent to you or she has something that's actually really bothering her and she has no idea on what to do? then what will you do? would you ignore her then but try to act like you're giving her your undivided attention?
this wasn't supposed to sound rude, just curious
@sarahP2 Occasionally is never a problem. Venting only becomes a problem if it's continual. A lot of guys blow off steam by going to the gym or some other activity. Once again, most guys don't mind helping to solve a real problem but more often than not it's just venting even though a lot of girls present things that bother them as a problem to be solved when it's not.
There are guys won't bother to listen at all, but they're not interested in any real relationship.
Genuine empathy towards significant other is extremely rare in younger guys. It typically develops with maturity.
Yes. I do at least. I've always been a good listener for whoever. My mom was a good listener, and she gave golden advice. It's important to listen first then speak last. Ears wide open!
the majority does not listen or at least not rightly. Sometimes it is also because women rarely directly address a problem. But in old age even a man learns to do so.
Yes, I'm basically a therapist for a lot of my friends. Most of the people who need my advice are females though.
I always listen to other persons problems and try to find 1. The right reaction 2. A solve for the problem 3. A satifisting answer.
I already have heared plently of times that I am a good listener so feel free to pm me if you need one.
I always listen to any problems my girlfriend has. I ask her about them and want to know about them so that if there is any way I can help, I can
I generally try to avoid listening to other peoples' problems unless it's something I'm interested and able to fix.
Depends on the guy and whatever you're talking about because if they don't care then they won't really listen.
Depends on the kind of person. Most in my experience, do not. I find that it's my close friends that really do.
Yeah, I always listen to girls. I actually really like girls, more than guys, anyhow. Just because I like fucking a variety of girls doesn't mean I don't like them as people, too.
I do but its mostly cause I have too much free time. And the fact that I'm a really good listener.
I do listen and if gets to be a new, different problem everyday maybe I have to re-evaluate our relationship.
Depends to the type of their relation, yes they may listen, but understanding and responding is some other things
I think they're more inclined to if they're physically attracted to you. If there's an endgame.
Only physically attracted?
@Djaaay it's a big component