How can I tell if my male friend is developing feelings?

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What are some signs that a guy is starting to get feelings for a girl

TheJellyFrogLives · Accepted Answer

Guys can get really shy and self conscious. Also their egos are larger than girl's and they statistically get rejected more so they may tend to hide their signs and make it difficult to tell.
One way to know is to gradually increase your physical contact, such as touching his shoulder or arm briefly or resting your head on his shoulder etc. If he seems to like it or becomes more responsive and does the same then he's probably into you.
Also subconsciously we react to the other person. If he starts using a different pitch of voice around you that's a sign, he could be subconsciously masculinating himself to attract you. When he's talking look at his lips and lick/suck yours for a split second, this is a sign of attraction, if he reciprocates you will know!
Also, guys get rejected more, and asked out less, so why not mix it up and ask him? He probably is into you and will say yes. He may just be scared of being rejected himself.

weiguy · Accepted Answer

Willingness to talk more, Looks your way even when he isn't talking to you, excuses for contact if he's not shy (touching shoulder after a joke, sitting down next to you and not moving away if you touch, small stuff like that)

designer1 · Accepted Answer

If they lean and face towards you when they speak. Also this is kinda creepy but if u can... look to see if his eyes dilate when he looks at you. Also try and talk about an ex or another boy and see if you see a pang of jealously but don’t overdo it and drive him away. When my boyfriend started liking me I️ couldn’t really tell at the time either but now that I look back at it he would make it one of his main priorities to talk to me and find out more about me. If you guys are already close just look for any changes in how much he wants to be around you

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

When my boyfriend and I were still just friends, some of the things he'd do that made me suspect he wanted to be something more included always being super attentive to everything I said, maintaining full-on eye contact, even if we weren't actively discussing anything. If he wasn't making eye-contact, his eyes would drift down towards my lips enough that it caught my attention.

After a few weeks of that came the inevitable breaking of the touch barrier. Just small and brief shoulder massages but, y'know- It's gotta start somewhere. :P

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, I am in the same situation as you and my friends tell me that he is developing feelings because he worries about me (when I look sad or like something is off), he finds random excuses to hug me (and I mean really random), he interacts differently with me than he does with other people, he looks at me when I am not looking, etc. However, I will say that it is hard to notice for yourself (I still don't even see it even though my friends tell me). Hope this gives you ideas about little hints that he might be giving off.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

Are you seeing signs? What do they look like to you?

LaikaFreefall · Answer

Are you remotely good looking? Has he been single for a long time? If you answer yes to both of these questions there is like a 9 in 10 chance that he has in the past or does now have feelings for you. lol. That doesn't mean he's not your friend, it just means that given the chance, maybe he'd want more with you.

But look, the truth is, if he likes you in that way, it would probably look basically identical to how any guy looks when he likes a girl. He might try to flirt or act out or what have you.
Figure out how he acts when he likes some other girl and you'll know what to look for if/when he likes you.

Thetrueaussie · Answer

Well, what happens with me if I start to show my personal and more so private side. I will tell you about my dreams and ambitions. Will trust you with major tasks or many small ones. I would talk to you more often than my mother who has been trying to get ahold of me for like a week now ha. I would try and make small plans that develope into big adventures and then some. But every guy is different. But he just will know stupid things about you that are pointless. But not to him.

hahahmm · Answer

*If a guy spends time with you when he does not have to.
*if he offers to help you more than others.
*if he puts his arm around you, or touches you more than others.
*if he talks to you more than other girls.
*if he looks at you a lot.
*if he gives you compliments when others don’t think to. He especially likes you as a person if some/all of the compliments are not about your looks.

Chiral · Answer

Just ask him. Ask him how he feels about you. Tell him how you feel about him. It's so much easier that way. It is kind of what we have language for after all, so that you don't have to guess what's going on in peoples minds. Such a waste not to use it and instead go through the inconvenience of misunderstanding. So unnecessary.

godfatherfan · Answer

HE IS MALE. When will women understand you don't have male friends. Those guy friends, if both of you were single, would take sex in a heartbeat. Until then we just act friendly. and as long as your both dating someone, it is almost the same thing as being friends. But next time your both single offer him a blow job, bet the takes it.

Twistboy101 · Answer

It depends on the guy. Me
Personally if I don’t want a girl to know that I like her then I would never show it... so that could be his mindset. You never know... but if he wants you to know then he will do little things... like flirt... or look at you while you are facing someone or something else... I remember a girl used to do that to me... but we were just really good friends...

BigRayFromNC · Answer

If you start to notice he getting more hard on's one right after another is a sign for sure he is developing feelings and wants to press the flesh with you really bad. Best of luck to you!!!

Anonymous · Answer

I personally get very shy when I like a girl and did so when I had a crush on a female friend. We talked and hung out but I was never my outgoing self I am around my guy or platonic female friends. I would pay for her coffee/food/alcoholic beverage but never confessed my feelings. It was all in college and now she moved on and met a guy who made a move before I had the courage to and regret it 2 years later cause I still have feelings for her.

Alan180188 · Answer

they way he looks at you especially when he gets embarrassed by his friends or something he did, they way he looks at you when he talks, the way he stares at you from distance... basically his eyes will tell you everything if you pay attention to them... the eye never lie !

DOmeDOmeDOme · Answer

Well if he has teepee syndrome. That is if his crotch looks like a teepee all the time after you casually make contact. This is due to his raging hard-on pushing out against the front or the fly region wanting to tear through the fabric and push itself up inside all of your pink parts drench you in tapioca.

IC3D_ZOMBIE · Answer

Plenty of things you can do but it won't be a sure way to know unless you just ask him but try saying some unfunny jokes but not too obvious and see if he laughs, see if you can ever catch him staring at you there's way more but just ask him

Marinepilot · Answer

You just know. If he does have feelings m he should let you know. Don't string him aloe and make him an emotional tampon. At some point he
may express his feelings. Then the ball is in your court. If you reject
him, if he's any kind of man, he'll reject your offer of friendship and end the friendship. As he should. Either way someone is getting hurt.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Does he seem to stare lot to you? Does he smile or laugh when your around? Does he blush real easy when your around? These are things to look at in him.

ladsin · Answer

You can't really tell. Just ask if you want. If you'd rather you can also pretend like you don't notice

cancanfly · Answer

If your in anyway attractive he always had them but he's too pussy to say anything. He also is desperate to sleep with you. Your probably not going to believe me but your going to find out its true eventually.

Anonymous · Answer

As you have likely experienced, you feel excited about the girl. Aside from that feeling , it’s impossible to say how behaviors can be evidence, it’s much easier and more accurate to read their eyes, body language and how much time they are investing

Nalyr_ · Answer

Hmm, I've developed feeling for a girl but I don't believe there's anything you can observe. Just try to follow his eye without him noticing, or if you're desperate try "showing off", but if he isn't interested you may be very embarrassed.

tangace · Answer

If he seems to be jalous or overprotective  I know I'm like this when I have feelings for someone

Kiran04 · Answer

Is he a male and is he a friend? Yes? He has feelings for you.

GingerGuy · Answer

Same things if a woman does. Texts/calls you often. Want to be together as much as possible etc. You could always ask him to know for sure also! :)

mysteriousGirl28 · Answer

Flirting, always think about her, sending flowers, Calls you pet names, treat you like his girlfriend

Mcdud · Answer

It can be a bit tricky does he have any outer girs he does this to or is it just you if so then most likly yes

therandomguy1 · Answer

I hate feelings. I used to not have feelings for my best friend and then my other friend said something like "You and her would be cute as a couple". This made me think hard and I developed feelings.

TheAmazingAmerican · Answer

Emotions are a hoax created by the Canadians to make American liberals seem more whiny and more like a snowflake to make Canada the preferable country. True story.

th3raz0r · Answer

Did he kiss you? Feelings. Did he ask to hang out with you, just the two of you? Feelings.

rickbrown6032 · Answer

Stop asking dumb question you know this answer unless your trying to used us to push him away in that case do your own Dirty Work

Anonymous · Answer

Whenever he is near you, and you are sitting down, he will stand very close to you with his crotch near your head. He is subtly hinting for you to give him a blowjob.

niDaye · Answer

you can touch him. If he start to behave differently, then it is a good respond. If he said please dont touch me, then you should stop

Anonymous · Answer

If he is your friend, he has sexual interest in you. We don't make time for women we don't have sexual interest in.

Evora · Answer

He will start pestering you with flattery and you may find it needy

RandomStranger133 · Answer

Smiles and laughs more, finds an excuse to touch you.

john76 · Answer

It's not very difficult. From my experience if a girl I'm close with wings to know if I'm interested she grabs me.

Julu007 · Answer

Ask him if you can. If not then, watch for him hear frim you all the time.

creedgamer · Answer

I'm one of those male friend and in wondering how to tell her so I guess if he really likes you he will tell you when he is ready.

ancilcleetus · Answer

He cares you even in little things... He starts to notice subtle things about you...

the12call · Answer

He'll show it.  When he starts caring - involving u in his life and sometimes getting mad at u.

ernest1 · Answer

hearing the sound of your name makes him emotionally nervous

balokenny · Answer

You'll saw it from is attitude, playing with you and others?

alex1987xx · Answer

I have developed feelings for someone and I just love being around her.

tropical94 · Answer

wanting to spend time with you, keeps in touch often, will go out of his way to do things you ask for

apm525 · Answer

He always wants to be with her without his other friends and all the time

Anonymous · Answer

If he asks to see your ankles. Make sure you always moisturize.

vinothraj · Answer

The way he speak to you compare to now before varies

sangess · Answer

Gonna need just a bit more info for this one

labruja · Answer

He will want to be around you.

es20490446e · Answer

Consider changing avatar.

Anonymous · Answer

They keep buzzing you.

Lumberman53 · Answer

You'll notice with how he treats you

opinionatedbull · Answer

He starts buying gifts

ok604 · Answer

He's still your friend

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Just ask him.

California24 · Answer

If he sends you a love letter

Angel_lou9 · Answer

When he will be caring about her details !

Sugarfetus · Answer

Normally he sees you and smile and hold your hand

Anonymous · Answer

C'mon, surely you can see

landonbro · Answer

I have a hairy bush wondering if you want to talk

Anonymous · Answer

His attitude will change

pavlove · Answer

ask him

Anonymous · Answer

Male "friend"? What are you, 6?

Anonymous · Answer

When he leans on the gut.

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