+1 yGuys can get really shy and self conscious. Also their egos are larger than girl's and they statistically get rejected more so they may tend to hide their signs and make it difficult to tell.
One way to know is to gradually increase your physical contact, such as touching his shoulder or arm briefly or resting your head on his shoulder etc. If he seems to like it or becomes more responsive and does the same then he's probably into you.
Also subconsciously we react to the other person. If he starts using a different pitch of voice around you that's a sign, he could be subconsciously masculinating himself to attract you. When he's talking look at his lips and lick/suck yours for a split second, this is a sign of attraction, if he reciprocates you will know!
Also, guys get rejected more, and asked out less, so why not mix it up and ask him? He probably is into you and will say yes. He may just be scared of being rejected himself.60 Reply
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Willingness to talk more, Looks your way even when he isn't talking to you, excuses for contact if he's not shy (touching shoulder after a joke, sitting down next to you and not moving away if you touch, small stuff like that)
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good the more playful and touchy the more likely. Men also wired to be more compassionate to women they like. If he seems to deliberatly offer or give u more help than he does other people, also a sign.
The general rules seem to match now its up to you to figure it out on an individual level. Step up the playfulness. Maybe make it slightly suggestive ("annoy" him by pinching or touching muscles like thighs or arms or butts). This plays on his ego and if he likes it, hell probably make a move.
If they lean and face towards you when they speak. Also this is kinda creepy but if u can... look to see if his eyes dilate when he looks at you. Also try and talk about an ex or another boy and see if you see a pang of jealously but don’t overdo it and drive him away. When my boyfriend started liking me I️ couldn’t really tell at the time either but now that I look back at it he would make it one of his main priorities to talk to me and find out more about me. If you guys are already close just look for any changes in how much he wants to be around you
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Then he probably likes you bc he jokes so much around only you. This means he likes to see you smile. Also if he says that ur friends when he’s mad at u than he definitely likes you. Also u can tell by the things he gets mad or sad about when it comes to you but I️ personally thinks he likes you. Now it’s all about whether u like him back and if so going about it wrong can scare him away and if not going about that wrong can also scare him away.
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It was ages ago I told him and he didn't say anything. And the time he usually tells me he doesn't like me is if he has a girlfriend, So he probably doesn't like me. Well about 4 or 5 months ago I was lucky if he replied to messages, and then a couple of months ago id mainly start texting him first but he would sometimes text me first and then this week (we hadn't text for a couple of weeks) he's text me first every time (except like once, I needed to ask him something (
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Ok so that’s iffy bc the stop in texts at first was probably just giving u distance to get over him and now he could have figured that you have gotten over him, however it could mean he likes you but just be careful. It’s a good sign if he texts you and if ur convos last long. It’s a really good sign if u guys call or ft a lot and he initiated them or brings up the idea. If he texts u just to ask u questions about school, that’s a really bad sign but if he starts them and ur convos or personal (covering things about you) that’s good. If he sees that ur upset and does everything in his power to make u happy again or becomes sad as well than he probably likes you.
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No the reason we stopped was cause he deleted me off social media for no reason but he told me it was cause I messaged him too much, yet he's the one who's been messaging me. Everyone says he's different with me and messes around more with me and talks to me more, he also looks at me and my ass. Texts r usually about stuff I post on Snapchat
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He definitely likes you and is just being awkward. He might not know he likes you or just doesn’t want to be in a relationship. The dead give away was that everybody recognized his change in behavior. 9 times out of 10 the people around you will know who likes you way before you even notice.
928 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. When my boyfriend and I were still just friends, some of the things he'd do that made me suspect he wanted to be something more included always being super attentive to everything I said, maintaining full-on eye contact, even if we weren't actively discussing anything. If he wasn't making eye-contact, his eyes would drift down towards my lips enough that it caught my attention.
After a few weeks of that came the inevitable breaking of the touch barrier. Just small and brief shoulder massages but, y'know- It's gotta start somewhere. :P00 Reply
Anonymous(25-29)+1 yWell, I am in the same situation as you and my friends tell me that he is developing feelings because he worries about me (when I look sad or like something is off), he finds random excuses to hug me (and I mean really random), he interacts differently with me than he does with other people, he looks at me when I am not looking, etc. However, I will say that it is hard to notice for yourself (I still don't even see it even though my friends tell me). Hope this gives you ideas about little hints that he might be giving off.
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+1 yAre you seeing signs? What do they look like to you?
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+1 yAre you remotely good looking? Has he been single for a long time? If you answer yes to both of these questions there is like a 9 in 10 chance that he has in the past or does now have feelings for you. lol. That doesn't mean he's not your friend, it just means that given the chance, maybe he'd want more with you.
But look, the truth is, if he likes you in that way, it would probably look basically identical to how any guy looks when he likes a girl. He might try to flirt or act out or what have you.
Figure out how he acts when he likes some other girl and you'll know what to look for if/when he likes you.40 Reply
+1 yWell, what happens with me if I start to show my personal and more so private side. I will tell you about my dreams and ambitions. Will trust you with major tasks or many small ones. I would talk to you more often than my mother who has been trying to get ahold of me for like a week now ha. I would try and make small plans that develope into big adventures and then some. But every guy is different. But he just will know stupid things about you that are pointless. But not to him.
50 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. *If a guy spends time with you when he does not have to.
*if he offers to help you more than others.
*if he puts his arm around you, or touches you more than others.
*if he talks to you more than other girls.
*if he looks at you a lot.
*if he gives you compliments when others don’t think to. He especially likes you as a person if some/all of the compliments are not about your looks.41 ReplyJust ask him. Ask him how he feels about you. Tell him how you feel about him. It's so much easier that way. It is kind of what we have language for after all, so that you don't have to guess what's going on in peoples minds. Such a waste not to use it and instead go through the inconvenience of misunderstanding. So unnecessary.
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well put :-)
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+1 yHE IS MALE. When will women understand you don't have male friends. Those guy friends, if both of you were single, would take sex in a heartbeat. Until then we just act friendly. and as long as your both dating someone, it is almost the same thing as being friends. But next time your both single offer him a blow job, bet the takes it.
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+1 yIt depends on the guy. Me
Personally if I don’t want a girl to know that I like her then I would never show it... so that could be his mindset. You never know... but if he wants you to know then he will do little things... like flirt... or look at you while you are facing someone or something else... I remember a girl used to do that to me... but we were just really good friends...10 Reply
+1 yIf you start to notice he getting more hard on's one right after another is a sign for sure he is developing feelings and wants to press the flesh with you really bad.
Best of luck to you!!!
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but wanting sex doesn't mean feelings... at least i dont think thats the kind she is talking of.
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@Analinda1999 You could be right however please keep in mind every single situation is different for a couple.
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sure i just meant he can be hard and barely like her just 'want'
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI personally get very shy when I like a girl and did so when I had a crush on a female friend. We talked and hung out but I was never my outgoing self I am around my guy or platonic female friends. I would pay for her coffee/food/alcoholic beverage but never confessed my feelings. It was all in college and now she moved on and met a guy who made a move before I had the courage to and regret it 2 years later cause I still have feelings for her.
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+1 ythey way he looks at you especially when he gets embarrassed by his friends or something he did, they way he looks at you when he talks, the way he stares at you from distance... basically his eyes will tell you everything if you pay attention to them... the eye never lie !
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+1 yWell if he has teepee syndrome. That is if his crotch looks like a teepee all the time after you casually make contact. This is due to his raging hard-on pushing out against the front or the fly region wanting to tear through the fabric and push itself up inside all of your pink parts drench you in tapioca.
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+1 yPlenty of things you can do but it won't be a sure way to know unless you just ask him but try saying some unfunny jokes but not too obvious and see if he laughs, see if you can ever catch him staring at you there's way more but just ask him
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+1 yYou just know. If he does have feelings m he should let you know. Don't string him aloe and make him an emotional tampon. At some point he
may express his feelings. Then the ball is in your court. If you reject
him, if he's any kind of man, he'll reject your offer of friendship and end the friendship. As he should. Either way someone is getting hurt.00 Reply
+1 yDoes he seem to stare lot to you? Does he smile or laugh when your around? Does he blush real easy when your around? These are things to look at in him.
30 Reply562 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. You can't really tell. Just ask if you want. If you'd rather you can also pretend like you don't notice
20 ReplyIf your in anyway attractive he always had them but he's too pussy to say anything. He also is desperate to sleep with you. Your probably not going to believe me but your going to find out its true eventually.
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i agree. I don't know why this got down voted.
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yAs you have likely experienced, you feel excited about the girl. Aside from that feeling , it’s impossible to say how behaviors can be evidence, it’s much easier and more accurate to read their eyes, body language and how much time they are investing
10 ReplyHmm, I've developed feeling for a girl but I don't believe there's anything you can observe. Just try to follow his eye without him noticing, or if you're desperate try "showing off", but if he isn't interested you may be very embarrassed.
00 ReplyIf he seems to be jalous or overprotective
I know I'm like this when I have feelings for someone20 ReplyIs he a male and is he a friend? Yes? He has feelings for you.
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na it depends if he is better looking than her. I've had female friends who i get on well with but would not 'do' anything with. Mind you they were pretty... below average females. Most women i probably would lol.
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@TheUsername27 There are no platonic friends with males and females. There's girls we're interested in, and girls we're not. The ones I'm not interested in aren't friends. They're acquaintances.
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So you wouldn't befriend a girl? They are great for hooking you up. I can't imagine a girl being my BEST friend... but a friend yeah.
Same things if a woman does. Texts/calls you often. Want to be together as much as possible etc. You could always ask him to know for sure also! :)
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+1 yFlirting, always think about her, sending flowers, Calls you pet names, treat you like his girlfriend
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It can be a bit tricky does he have any outer girs he does this to or is it just you if so then most likly yes00 Reply
+1 yI hate feelings. I used to not have feelings for my best friend and then my other friend said something like "You and her would be cute as a couple". This made me think hard and I developed feelings.
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+1 yEmotions are a hoax created by the Canadians to make American liberals seem more whiny and more like a snowflake to make Canada the preferable country. True story.
10 ReplyDid he kiss you? Feelings. Did he ask to hang out with you, just the two of you? Feelings.
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+1 yStop asking dumb question you know this answer unless your trying to used us to push him away in that case do your own Dirty Work
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yWhenever he is near you, and you are sitting down, he will stand very close to you with his crotch near your head. He is subtly hinting for you to give him a blowjob.
20 Replyyou can touch him. If he start to behave differently, then it is a good respond. If he said please dont touch me, then you should stop
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yIf he is your friend, he has sexual interest in you. We don't make time for women we don't have sexual interest in.
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Are you okay? Lmao
Opinion Owner+1 y@silverqueen The hell is that suppose to mean?
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It means that you need reading comprehension classes. Smfh
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Not entirely correct, but more true than not if you ask me. Besides what if this male friend is a player? Maybe the op is looking to get their heart crushed, smashed I mean...
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What I'm getting at is that the guy may be quite active in being social if you will. Then here's this girl who feeling all Taylor "You Belong With Me" vibes for her slightly risky yet attractive friend. So does she have feelings for him?
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Literally what is really going on is a person asking how to tell if someone else is attracted to them. The assumptions that you make affected your answer. I’m worried about how you view the people of your own gender- with a very negative and incorrect viewpoint.
What if this guy is not even close to what you think he is? I myself have many male friends, who are married and have girlfriends, and have no sexual intentions toward any other girl.
Just because you can’t spend time with a woman without having sex with them does not mean every guy thinks this way. To me it sounds extremely limited and irrational. - +1 y
You proved your point. The op didn't provide context but I do think either of our opinions would fit under different situations. Though my opinion differs in that I'm not calling you out on misandry, for calling my views narrow. I provided "opinion" and provided context for a scenario, a "scenario". Never did I say this is what the op's situation was. But nice try. I appreciate the feedback.
Opinion Owner+1 y@silverqueen Your male friends all want to have sex with you, they will not admit it to you, but 100% guarantee that NO straight male takes time out of his day to randomly text a fat or ugly female. We do not make time to hang out with the fat or ugly girl.
The ONLY reason your male friends are "friends" is because that is where you put them.
Even married, they can have sexual interest in you, you are thinking like a female and assuming that a married or "committed" male stops finding other females attractive and stops wanting sex with other women. This is foolishness. We ALWAYS want other sex, we just don't do it. Your male friends keep you around because they are attracted to you. PERIOD.
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I’m pretty sure you had mommy issues or something. Sad. But no, not every guy thinks the way you do.
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I do think that guys wanting to have sex w every female is false. I do think that almost every male has had some sexual thought about a majority of their female friends. But the question is more of a matter of degrees. Is it possible to be just friends, sure but most forms of masculinity would fine this notion quite peculiar. It's not the normal standard operating procedure if you catch my drift.
Opinion Owner+1 y@silverqueen Shaming tactics don't make what I said untrue.
But you keep trying.
He will start pestering you with flattery and you may find it needy
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+1 ySmiles and laughs more, finds an excuse to touch you.
00 ReplyIt's not very difficult. From my experience if a girl I'm close with wings to know if I'm interested she grabs me.
00 ReplyAsk him if you can. If not then, watch for him hear frim you all the time.
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+1 yI'm one of those male friend and in wondering how to tell her so I guess if he really likes you he will tell you when he is ready.
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+1 yHe cares you even in little things... He starts to notice subtle things about you...
20 ReplyHe'll show it.
When he starts caring - involving u in his life and sometimes getting mad at u.23 Reply- +1 y
getting mad at you? Why?
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I think the display of emotions show where a person's at.
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ah you mean good or bad.
hearing the sound of your name makes him emotionally nervous
00 ReplyYou'll saw it from is attitude, playing with you and others?
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+1 yI have developed feelings for someone and I just love being around her.
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+1 ywanting to spend time with you, keeps in touch often, will go out of his way to do things you ask for
00 ReplyHe always wants to be with her without his other friends and all the time
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yIf he asks to see your ankles. Make sure you always moisturize.
30 ReplyThe way he speak to you compare to now before varies
00 ReplyGonna need just a bit more info for this one
00 ReplyHe will want to be around you.
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+1 yConsider changing avatar.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yThey keep buzzing you.
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+1 yYou'll notice with how he treats you
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+1 yHe starts buying gifts
30 ReplyHe's still your friend
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+1 yJust ask him.
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+1 yIf he sends you a love letter
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+1 yWhen he will be caring about her details !
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+1 yNormally he sees you and smile and hold your hand
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yC'mon, surely you can see
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Sometimes u can't I have given the girl I like hints but is very naive and is funny she is. I will ask her things like how would I approach a girl via text that I like kinda funny😂
I have a hairy bush wondering if you want to talk
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yHis attitude will change
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yMale "friend"? What are you, 6?
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yWhen he leans on the gut.
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Opinion Owner+1 ySorry, "when he leans in on the gut".
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