How can I tell if my male friend is developing feelings?

[catj9999]

What are some signs that a guy is starting to get feelings for a girl

[TheJellyFrogLives]

Guys can get really shy and self conscious. Also their egos are larger than girl's and they statistically get rejected more so they may tend to hide their signs and make it difficult to tell.
One way to know is to gradually increase your physical contact, such as touching his shoulder or arm briefly or resting your head on his shoulder etc. If he seems to like it or becomes more responsive and does the same then he's probably into you.
Also subconsciously we react to the other person. If he starts using a different pitch of voice around you that's a sign, he could be subconsciously masculinating himself to attract you. When he's talking look at his lips and lick/suck yours for a split second, this is a sign of attraction, if he reciprocates you will know!
Also, guys get rejected more, and asked out less, so why not mix it up and ask him? He probably is into you and will say yes. He may just be scared of being rejected himself.

[weiguy]

Willingness to talk more, Looks your way even when he isn't talking to you, excuses for contact if he's not shy (touching shoulder after a joke, sitting down next to you and not moving away if you touch, small stuff like that)

[catj9999]

So say a guy has been messaging me more? He has always looked my way for no reason, will walk into me (but says it's cause I do it to him)

[weiguy]

More talking is usually a sign. Guys do not usually drag out conversations through messages unless they like the person. Not sure what you mean by walk into, like lieterally?

[catj9999]

Yeah and he's messaged me for no reason. Yeah like push into me, I do it to him though. And he doesn't mind our bodies touching and said that he prefers working with me

[weiguy]

good the more playful and touchy the more likely. Men also wired to be more compassionate to women they like. If he seems to deliberatly offer or give u more help than he does other people, also a sign.

The general rules seem to match now its up to you to figure it out on an individual level. Step up the playfulness. Maybe make it slightly suggestive ("annoy" him by pinching or touching muscles like thighs or arms or butts). This plays on his ego and if he likes it, hell probably make a move.

[catj9999]

He said when we work together it's fun and that he'd help me

[weiguy]

oufff im not a computer, but id say the statistical probability is about 87.4% :p have fun and good luck

[designer1]

If they lean and face towards you when they speak. Also this is kinda creepy but if u can... look to see if his eyes dilate when he looks at you. Also try and talk about an ex or another boy and see if you see a pang of jealously but don’t overdo it and drive him away. When my boyfriend started liking me I️ couldn’t really tell at the time either but now that I look back at it he would make it one of his main priorities to talk to me and find out more about me. If you guys are already close just look for any changes in how much he wants to be around you

[catj9999]

Well he'll always notice if I talk to other guys and jokingly call them my new boyfriend (he knows they arent) he always wants to talk to me esp in person

[designer1]

Well does he call u his friend often or best friend

[designer1]

Also does he always say that when he see u talking to other guys?

[catj9999]

He says only a friend. Yeah more often than not

[designer1]

If he says friend a lot than I️ wouldn’t do anything risky yet. That usually means that they are hinting to you that they just want to be friends. Does he seem nervous or more awkward/ self aware around u than when he is with others

[catj9999]

He doesn't say it often only if I've pissed him off 😂. No not nervous he's usually more jolly and makes a lot of jokes when I'm around

[designer1]

Then he probably likes you bc he jokes so much around only you. This means he likes to see you smile. Also if he says that ur friends when he’s mad at u than he definitely likes you. Also u can tell by the things he gets mad or sad about when it comes to you but I️ personally thinks he likes you. Now it’s all about whether u like him back and if so going about it wrong can scare him away and if not going about that wrong can also scare him away.

[catj9999]

Well I like him and I told him. Here's one stupid thing he got mad about he said I messaged him too much and then he adds me back and messages me a fair bit in 3 days

[designer1]

What was his response? And yeah in a relationship, or at least mine, there can be a lot of double standards😪.

[designer1]

When you guys text who starts it mostly?

[catj9999]

It was ages ago I told him and he didn't say anything. And the time he usually tells me he doesn't like me is if he has a girlfriend, So he probably doesn't like me. Well about 4 or 5 months ago I was lucky if he replied to messages, and then a couple of months ago id mainly start texting him first but he would sometimes text me first and then this week (we hadn't text for a couple of weeks) he's text me first every time (except like once, I needed to ask him something (

[designer1]

Ok so that’s iffy bc the stop in texts at first was probably just giving u distance to get over him and now he could have figured that you have gotten over him, however it could mean he likes you but just be careful. It’s a good sign if he texts you and if ur convos last long. It’s a really good sign if u guys call or ft a lot and he initiated them or brings up the idea. If he texts u just to ask u questions about school, that’s a really bad sign but if he starts them and ur convos or personal (covering things about you) that’s good. If he sees that ur upset and does everything in his power to make u happy again or becomes sad as well than he probably likes you.

[designer1]

Some guys might even drop hints that they like you. Ex: offer you their jacket or hold the door for you all the time

[catj9999]

No the reason we stopped was cause he deleted me off social media for no reason but he told me it was cause I messaged him too much, yet he's the one who's been messaging me. Everyone says he's different with me and messes around more with me and talks to me more, he also looks at me and my ass. Texts r usually about stuff I post on Snapchat

[designer1]

He definitely likes you and is just being awkward. He might not know he likes you or just doesn’t want to be in a relationship. The dead give away was that everybody recognized his change in behavior. 9 times out of 10 the people around you will know who likes you way before you even notice.

[catj9999]

Why? Our boss who's known him for like 4 years has questioned him liking me, and I'm 90% certain that his mum thinks he likes me cause of how much personal stuff he tells me

[designer1]

Yeah he definitely likes you

[catj9999]

How can u tell

[designer1]

Because Ik from my experience plus a lot of people ik went through the same thing. Not exact but usually when everyone close to him is saying yes he likes you than yes he does

[designer1]

He probably also talk about you to others a lot right?

[kaylaS91]

When my boyfriend and I were still just friends, some of the things he'd do that made me suspect he wanted to be something more included always being super attentive to everything I said, maintaining full-on eye contact, even if we weren't actively discussing anything. If he wasn't making eye-contact, his eyes would drift down towards my lips enough that it caught my attention.

After a few weeks of that came the inevitable breaking of the touch barrier. Just small and brief shoulder massages but, y'know- It's gotta start somewhere. :P

[Anonymous]

Well, I am in the same situation as you and my friends tell me that he is developing feelings because he worries about me (when I look sad or like something is off), he finds random excuses to hug me (and I mean really random), he interacts differently with me than he does with other people, he looks at me when I am not looking, etc. However, I will say that it is hard to notice for yourself (I still don't even see it even though my friends tell me). Hope this gives you ideas about little hints that he might be giving off.

[SarahsSummer]

Are you seeing signs? What do they look like to you?

[LaikaFreefall]

Are you remotely good looking? Has he been single for a long time? If you answer yes to both of these questions there is like a 9 in 10 chance that he has in the past or does now have feelings for you. lol. That doesn't mean he's not your friend, it just means that given the chance, maybe he'd want more with you.

But look, the truth is, if he likes you in that way, it would probably look basically identical to how any guy looks when he likes a girl. He might try to flirt or act out or what have you.
Figure out how he acts when he likes some other girl and you'll know what to look for if/when he likes you.

[Thetrueaussie]

Well, what happens with me if I start to show my personal and more so private side. I will tell you about my dreams and ambitions. Will trust you with major tasks or many small ones. I would talk to you more often than my mother who has been trying to get ahold of me for like a week now ha. I would try and make small plans that develope into big adventures and then some. But every guy is different. But he just will know stupid things about you that are pointless. But not to him.

[hahahmm]

*If a guy spends time with you when he does not have to.
*if he offers to help you more than others.
*if he puts his arm around you, or touches you more than others.
*if he talks to you more than other girls.
*if he looks at you a lot.
*if he gives you compliments when others don’t think to. He especially likes you as a person if some/all of the compliments are not about your looks.

[Germanium]

I'm actually displaying most of these signs to a girl I like who I consider my friend, but I'm not getting anything in return. I feel like I'm just a side-dish friend and nothing more (to all my female friends and not just her).
Guess I should just back-off and forget about it.

[Chiral]

Just ask him. Ask him how he feels about you. Tell him how you feel about him. It's so much easier that way. It is kind of what we have language for after all, so that you don't have to guess what's going on in peoples minds. Such a waste not to use it and instead go through the inconvenience of misunderstanding. So unnecessary.

[Analinda1999]

well put :-)

[godfatherfan]

HE IS MALE. When will women understand you don't have male friends. Those guy friends, if both of you were single, would take sex in a heartbeat. Until then we just act friendly. and as long as your both dating someone, it is almost the same thing as being friends. But next time your both single offer him a blow job, bet the takes it.

[Twistboy101]

It depends on the guy. Me
Personally if I don’t want a girl to know that I like her then I would never show it... so that could be his mindset. You never know... but if he wants you to know then he will do little things... like flirt... or look at you while you are facing someone or something else... I remember a girl used to do that to me... but we were just really good friends...

[BigRayFromNC]

If you start to notice he getting more hard on's one right after another is a sign for sure he is developing feelings and wants to press the flesh with you really bad.

Best of luck to you!!!

[Analinda1999]

but wanting sex doesn't mean feelings... at least i dont think thats the kind she is talking of.

[BigRayFromNC]

@Analinda1999 You could be right however please keep in mind every single situation is different for a couple.

[Analinda1999]

sure i just meant he can be hard and barely like her just 'want'
her

[Anonymous]

I personally get very shy when I like a girl and did so when I had a crush on a female friend. We talked and hung out but I was never my outgoing self I am around my guy or platonic female friends. I would pay for her coffee/food/alcoholic beverage but never confessed my feelings. It was all in college and now she moved on and met a guy who made a move before I had the courage to and regret it 2 years later cause I still have feelings for her.

[Alan180188]

they way he looks at you especially when he gets embarrassed by his friends or something he did, they way he looks at you when he talks, the way he stares at you from distance... basically his eyes will tell you everything if you pay attention to them... the eye never lie !

[DOmeDOmeDOme]

Well if he has teepee syndrome. That is if his crotch looks like a teepee all the time after you casually make contact. This is due to his raging hard-on pushing out against the front or the fly region wanting to tear through the fabric and push itself up inside all of your pink parts drench you in tapioca.

[IC3D_ZOMBIE]

Plenty of things you can do but it won't be a sure way to know unless you just ask him but try saying some unfunny jokes but not too obvious and see if he laughs, see if you can ever catch him staring at you there's way more but just ask him

[Marinepilot]

You just know. If he does have feelings m he should let you know. Don't string him aloe and make him an emotional tampon. At some point he
may express his feelings. Then the ball is in your court. If you reject
him, if he's any kind of man, he'll reject your offer of friendship and end the friendship. As he should. Either way someone is getting hurt.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Does he seem to stare lot to you? Does he smile or laugh when your around? Does he blush real easy when your around? These are things to look at in him.

[ladsin]

You can't really tell. Just ask if you want. If you'd rather you can also pretend like you don't notice

[cancanfly]

If your in anyway attractive he always had them but he's too pussy to say anything. He also is desperate to sleep with you. Your probably not going to believe me but your going to find out its true eventually.

[Analinda1999]

i agree. I don't know why this got down voted.

[Anonymous]

As you have likely experienced, you feel excited about the girl. Aside from that feeling , it’s impossible to say how behaviors can be evidence, it’s much easier and more accurate to read their eyes, body language and how much time they are investing

[Nalyr_]

Hmm, I've developed feeling for a girl but I don't believe there's anything you can observe. Just try to follow his eye without him noticing, or if you're desperate try "showing off", but if he isn't interested you may be very embarrassed.

[tangace]

If he seems to be jalous or overprotective
I know I'm like this when I have feelings for someone

[Kiran04]

Is he a male and is he a friend? Yes? He has feelings for you.

[TheUsername27]

na it depends if he is better looking than her. I've had female friends who i get on well with but would not 'do' anything with. Mind you they were pretty... below average females. Most women i probably would lol.

[Kiran04]

@TheUsername27 There are no platonic friends with males and females. There's girls we're interested in, and girls we're not. The ones I'm not interested in aren't friends. They're acquaintances.

[TheUsername27]

So you wouldn't befriend a girl? They are great for hooking you up. I can't imagine a girl being my BEST friend... but a friend yeah.

[GingerGuy]

Same things if a woman does. Texts/calls you often. Want to be together as much as possible etc. You could always ask him to know for sure also! :)