Guys, do you find naivety/innocence attractive?

Question

Why or why not?

Electric_Dreams · Accepted Answer

Yes, because it's cute, and rosey, and sweet, and.. what's the word.. like it's often the kinda' person that lightens my day, makes me feel happy, and safe..

but also I have a really high sex drive, and really naughty desires and fetishes.. and if a girl like this into.. say my main thing which is anal.. then that is so hot! So it's a win-win, but only if she's open minded, trusting and brave enough to try anal. The stereo-typically hot girls doing anal is nothing new you see that all the time.

So you see what I mean? Hope I'm not coming off as objectifying women, I'm just really honest. Emotional connection, personality and character is always the most important thing as without that there is not any kind of genuine long-term sexual attraction. I acknowledge my high sex drive and sexual adventurousness though, and how beneficial and amazing it would be to have those kinds of experiences with a cute, seemingly innocent girl who can be so comfortably naughty during that special time.

DanishSaint · Accepted Answer

Awww... I don´t know why, but, yeah. I am not attracted to, like, stupidity, ignorance or a general lack of intellect- don´t get me wrong, but my ex wife for instance; Probably the smartest, brightest women I have ever met, Ph. D in anthropology.. but sometimes she just had that little part that peaked out from within- and clearly didn´t have a clue. I know it sounds bonkers, but if we had people over for dinner sometimes and she just all of a sudden said something "blonde-ish" or fell hard on her ass by saying something, whatever, I was just melting inside, going "awww... you are SO fucking gorgeous.. I want you SOOO bad... aww you are so adorable".. craaaazy shit! I have often suspected, that she plain and simple IS that fucking smart, knows me, and knows exactly how do play me... haha :-)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think innocence is sweet and cute and many guys would find it attractive but naivety is one thing I'll never understand why guys are into? I've noticed many guys around me tend to choose girls who are at least somewhat not on the same intellectual or mental level as them and they have a bit of naivety , which not gonna lie made me insecure before and even tried to dumb myself down for a guy before. now I realized it's not worth it even if guys like a more naive girl better...

Bliss-taylor · Accepted Answer

Naivety and innocence are two very different things. It would have been better if you picked one. Most guys aren't going to like naivety. That's a very annoying quality. Even if a guy doesn't care that his girl is clueless about a ton of things, it's still not an attractive quality.
When you talk about innocence in a person thats virgin or barely touched. The only thing you can really expect with an innocent person is them being sexually naive.

vishna · Accepted Answer

I think it's different for each person, man and woman. I prefer more direct sex appeal. I prefer the face that's a tad more mature and could be described as alluring, gorgeous, sexy etc vs cute, innocent.

However, my partner prefers the cute, innocent sex appeal thing.

To me, it's so weird haha. But I get that everyone is attracted to different things.

JulieXO · Accepted Answer

Innocence can be attractive. I personally don't value it as much, but I can imagine a lot of guys do. As for naivety, I consider it a really unattractive trait. A naive girl is just a stupid girl in my eyes, and stupidity is not something I'd look for.

Anonnnn909 · Answer

Naivety and innocence are not the same thing.

But yes, women with innocence are desirable as a long term partner. Genuinely innocent, it's not something you can fake or "pivot" into.

So what makes that attractive. Well, lets first look at women who are the opposite of innocent.
In most cases they would have had or actively have many sexual partners. They wouldn't love as deep or have good self control aka it's highly likely they'll cheat on you for whatever reason.
Women who aren't innocent may even put their man in harms way intentionally, to "test" him. To see if he would "save her" from a dangerous situation by creating said situation and manipulatively putting a guys life on the line, for her whimsical curiosity. They lie and deceive. In many cases they also just use you for whatever reason. whether that's to get back at an ex, for your money, for sex, whatever else. There's no loyalty there, and no real love. And more.
Some women in this category even seem to believe sex is the only thing that matters in a relationship, and that their terrible personality, infidelity, absence of morals & values is a non factor.

No intelligent self respecting man wants that. Yet, that seems to be all that's out there for choices.

Back to women with genuine innocence. Which is extremely rare, most just pretend they are.

A relatively low amount of sexual partners, innocent women don't hop from guy to guy. Which shows they know how to commit and stay loyal. They aren't as deceptive and full of malicious lies. You don't have to worry about catching an STD from her, due to the low amount of partners. And cheating is far less of a concern, than with non innocent women. They don't create dangerous situations for you to play hero, they don't intentionally put you in harms way, because they actually care about their man.

Additionally, an innocent woman who truly loves her man wouldn't be having sex with anyone else so if you end up having kids with her you wouldn't have to question if it's really yours. Non-innocent women are evil enough to get knocked up by another guy and trick their actual boyfriend / husband into thinking the baby is his. If he's not very smart, then he will end up raising some other guys kid, all the while thinking his woman actually loves him. Where the foundation of the family they are trying to build, which is suppose to be a product of their love and a sign of long term commitment, is then based upon the greatest Betrayal.

Innocent women equate to basic human decency, which is lost from this world. Nothing but remnants of what was once a norm in society and the foundation of a good relationship.

lyannamormont · Answer

Sorry to say that but naivety in both genders come with being dumb and easily manipulated. I wouldn't want a partner that can be easily manipulated if i were a guy but well guys think totally in a different way so i dont know.

I also find innocence to be annoying when it is not real innocence but a fake one to manipulate guys. But well guys love that to my experience.

CarpetDenim · Answer

I think it's pretty cute in men too, but I favor sophistication. Innocence and naïvety can be annoying, like if they constantly ask questions about obvious things everyone should already know. Innocence is okay but it shares a fine line with ignorance, which I can't stand.

r4ngeF · Answer

In most cases, definitely not attractive.
It is a "turn on" only when you look at these women/girls in a sexual way, but in order to be *really* attracted, you need much more than just a sexual drive for someone, and in that case, their naivet is totally a turn off (although, there are exceptional women every once in a decade)

archiz · Answer

Mehh dunno...
Being innocent doesn't always correlate with being naive/stupid.
Being a bit green in some areas is just a matter of fact that everyone goes through in their life and if I am more knowledgeable than said person in one area doesn't mean that I am above him in general or that this person is clueless in everything else and lacks the basic skills.

fahad3267 · Answer

Innocence is very attractive to a lot of guys as it has a certain charm and its cute and a lot of girls also like innocent guys.
And yes there are others also who don't like innocence. For example being very nervous at meeting or being super goofy about things can be a real turn down also.

Cosytoasty · Answer

It’s cute in a short term plaything, not attractive or unattractive. Not really a dealbreaker on its own.

It’s most certainly NOT attractive for a long term partner. Would any man want a naive and innocent woman to be the mother/protector/carer/teacher of his kids? I definitely wouldn’t.

TripleAce · Answer

Only if she can be a little bad yes. Then yes yes lol
A girl where her 'bad' or 'naughty' is just non existent, and I've seen some girls like that, is such a turn off

Naive innocent but only if she's open to exploring. Not some closed off. Im always closed for business bs lol

Myquietsoul · Answer

Nope. Not at all. At least from my experience, the "innocent and naive" girls are usually the most sneaky, deceptive, manipulative and girls who play the most games. A. k. a undercover hoes. They just use their "innocence" to get what they want and if you call them out on it, well, you see their true colors really quick.
However, an exception would be if it's genuine. Then maybe I might consider it attractive.

Onidandal · Answer

Yes. That means there are less likely to be crappy relationship-tests and we can literally just have fun playing around. Like random pillow fights, water gun fights, or cuddling/tickling. We could also play competitive videogames, or tackle fun projects together. It's just spending time together, in an innocent, fun way.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm neutral, I want a girl who isn't too naive and knows stuff. Though I don't wnat her to be the complete opposite of innocent and sleeps around a lot. Thouh to be honest I also don't mind naive girls, they can be experiemental and you could show them stuff.

VegetaSSB · Answer

i don´t think that it is particularly an attractive trait and sadly nowadays everyone ho displays inocence is rather made a fool of, this is the shit world in which we live, so you have to be cautious all the time with intentions, sadly.

Anon85 · Answer

Guys like to feel like they can protect their girl, just like girls like feeling protected by their guy. So naturally, if a girl isn't as able to protect herself our instincts kick in and we want to protect her. It's endearing

brennanhuff · Answer

I'm more likely to like get a crush or have like girlfriend thoughts and affection/attraction feelings towards women with the very pretty/cute face like that, compared to hot women where it's more likely pure lust. I'm talking about initial reaction or impression visually

Anonymous · Answer

It's WAY hot from my perspective. My ex girlfriend who was in her early 20s once surprised me dressed up in a school girl uniform. She was a cute young Asian girl so she pulled it off perfectly. My head was between her legs in minutes (which is not something I usually like to do).

But being in my 30s I'm way too old to expect or look for girls who act that way without looking like a creep. Still nostalgic for it though.

Anonymous · Answer

There's a sincerity innate to it. An absence of baggage. An absence of expectation, judgement, pressure. An ease to please and a certain level of loyalty. I believe the uncertainty of paternity plays a role in finding it attractive as well, not being 'experienced' helps with that.

Simonitro · Answer

I find it very attractive. I'm more attracted to the sweethearts with an open heart than anything. It's hard to find these kind of women today. I don't mind either but it's nice to chit-chat with an innocent girl, these days.

Astoriana · Answer

I hate when people play dumb to get out of trouble. It’s the most annoying thing. Especially when they usually use it as an excuse to be lazy or to be a jerk.

InTimoreDei · Answer

Innocence is attractive. Being naïve, however, is not. They're not the same thing but they can overlap sometimes. Naïvety is akin to ignorance and not being aware of surroundings, behavior, body language et cetera.

Ripper_E · Answer

it's very attractive, but I'd never want to change that about her. Doesn't mean no sex or anything, or that I wouldn't date her, but innocence is not common, not for me, and I'd want her to stay that way, despite outside influences.

Anonymous · Answer

Nooo I just hate girls that don't know anything...

I don't think they will have a long life span...

Like one Girl didn't know the subways we have are dangerous, and she is taking it alone at night...

I was like wtf... She was like why is it dangerous?

It's just a state of mind, they don't want to learn and just want to be pampered and told what to do.

thatchristiangirl · Answer

From my experience, yes. But every guy is different! 😊 Some prefer the bad girl type, but it varies from person to person.

ShesAmerican · Answer

Its kind of sad how some guys like it when girls act dumb lol

Commander_Courtney · Answer

Not that I want a NASA scientific engineering manager, but not someone completely obtuse.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Her halo is held in place by her horns. Don't be fooled by this baby face. I am 0% angel.

swanrose06 · Answer

I've been called innocent so many times by my friends. Is being innocent a good or bad thing?

ladsin · Answer

Neither, in fact depending on the discussion I may etc very frustrated by it

Dtegesd123 · Answer

nope I find being naive unattractive as it makes her seem dumb. Then I find innocence to be boring, as she doesn't excite me.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

I do like the idea of "breaking in" a girl by sitting on her face tbh. Lmao.

ShortCircuit · Answer

Mostly I tend to find it "refreshing", which sort of makes it attractive in a sense.

MrOracle · Answer

I don't mind it to some extent, but it's certainly not something I go out of my way to look for.

TheBestUsername · Answer

Innocent seems nice, so does the alternative. Thing is, if you get yourself an innocent girl, sooner or later she turns into one that isn't. It's two for one.

UsernameMadness · Answer

When I saw the pic at the top I was going to vote yes. But then I though nah, it's just the girl that's attractive. She's probably not as innocent as she looks. And an unattractive girl won't become attractive necause she's naive and innocent. Which doesn't last anyway.

HikerDude · Answer

Innocence is a powerful drug. Doe eyes and a nice rack are kryptonite.

steveguitar · Answer

Being naive is not, the innocent look isn't bad, but I'm a bit old for it now

Nivinxus · Answer

Not really, I don't find this trait attractive at all.

loveslongnails · Answer

Innocence is the most deadly of charms. That girl is cute, but I dislike the "head tilt to the side" picture thing.

Subflics · Answer

Very annoying. But 'know-it-all' attitude is just asking for arguments all the time. So in the middle is best

NitroCat · Answer

I know I'm going to be the difficult one here, but really depends.
I have seen naivety and innocence to extremes and made me dislike it and like it.

I have seen people who you can fool with everything. On the other hand, I have seen innocent girls who are really enjoyable to talk to and be around. So yeah, my view is a bit too clouded with experiences to give a good opinion.

Silver158 · Answer

Innocence or at least the perception of innocence can be attractive. Used to work with this girl and the way she dressed/styled herself sort of said she was innocent/possible virgin or didn't sleep around. One of the biggest sluts I've ever known lol.

Naivety... If she's a genuine dumbass no, it's not attractive in the slightest. It's more annoying than anything else. Hate people that don;t want to educate themselves.

seeknseek · Answer

Real innocence no. Pretended innocence yes as hiding behind is an alpha woman,

Anonymous · Answer

No... because it's all fake as hell. No such thing as innocence or naivety in this culture..

ghost91m · Answer

Naivety I guess not , but for innocence ofcourse yes , I think that's will give me a happiness, a feeling of love , trust and safe  I think there is nothing beautiful than spontaneous reactions

AM-205 · Answer

I like innocence... It's almost like Purity... (or they're good at hiding.)

winterfox10 · Answer

I guess I never really thought about it one way or another.

hellacray · Answer

Yes I do. Unfortunately women these days seem to be a know it all.

wilco999 · Answer

It can be for the initial attraction but it can also get boring quick

MLGbreezy · Answer

I can be pretty naive so yea i guess in a female it would be and attractive trait to me

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a girl and I seem to attract the wrong guys... like ones who prey on my naivety thinking that they can easily manipulate me

daisyriddle · Answer

Why? guys want a virgin, guys want nativity... Like why are men so keen on finding a girl who hasn’t had any experience? Manipulative behaviour, that’s why.

Anonymous · Answer

I kinda prefer "bad girls" because they are more likely to be dominant, unlike the innocent or naive girls.

dolemite68 · Answer

I find nice and good sense of humor attractive, not a big fan of naive it comes off as dumb

ryancg · Answer

It's cute for a little while, but it wears a little thin eventually.

MeatPuppet · Answer

Not particularly unattractive, but I do find those opposite from the aformentioned ones attractive.

BronzedAdonis · Answer

yeah, within reason but I think its weird when guys fetishize that trait in women

ThreeSheetsToTheWind · Answer

I don't think it's attractive personally. It'd be like dating a child.

Ramsey99Apeman · Answer

A shy person can be attractive. Although, super gullible ones are not.

TallAnon · Answer

Yes, but it can also be very annoying and it can change both ways very quickly

JackJD · Answer

No. I hate girls that play dumb. I hate it more when they criticize guys for not "taking a hint."

LesterJester · Answer

There is nothing attractive about ignorance... But it can be excused in some situations.

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