Why do guys find the need to go to strip clubs for bachelor's parties? (Page 4)

Question

I think it's disrespectful that my fiance is going to a strip club for his bachelor's party when we talked about it before and he did it anyway and got a lap dance. I'm very upset and feel betrayed and want to call off the wedding at this point. He betrayed my trust and thinks it's not a big deal saying that he was drunk and it wasn't his idea it was his friends and they took him there. He may have been drunk but he still could have said no. I'm hurt and he could care less. He knew it would hurt me if he went and he agreed to not go and did it anyway.

Grimwaldo · Answer

Why do chicks find the need to binge watch rom come and then bitch that their dude isn't as ripped af and over emotionally sensitive af simultaneously as I don't know fucking Ben Afleck or whatever the new bullshit fake crap is. Your probably the same chick doing this shit while complaining when he wants to be more experimental with sexuality in minimal ways like just watching you disprove more slowly and seductively like those strippers. Its just a fantasy. We all have them. Get over it.

iHelp · Answer

If you can't trust him enough when he goes out to a place where a girl's job is to grind on top of his clothes and take his money. Then don't marry him. He is having a good time legally and left the place to essentially came home to you. Didn't even have any relations with that girl... He just paid her to do a task. I don't think you are right for each other if you both don't feel the same way about it.

gps181 · Answer

Common, he's not going to get emotionally connected to a stripper. There's nothing for you to worry about. It's not like he's going to stop getting physically attracted to other women if he's a loyal husband, I'm sure you would too. You're just being insecure.

mau5trap734 · Answer

I actually don't get it. I don't understand wanted to be grinded upon, made hot and bothered just to leave that way.
You can argue some strippers do extras but why would you want to? That means she does that with all of her customers. Yea, I'm good on that. Biggest wasted of money.

CharlieUnicorn · Answer

I hail from a place were strip clubs isn't a thing. I do know however that it's a cultural thing in the US so..
... maybe you're reading too much into it?

Maybe it doesn't really mean much of anything?

liTeWave · Answer

Holy lord. What a controlling, insecure girl. Give the man a break. You are the kind of girl who is only interested in putting a man in a cage. God, your boyfriend should be breaking off the wedding.

CandymanJ · Answer

I'm not even gonna answer your question... but if you can't handle it, maybe you SHOULD call off the wedding... being how you are, you'd be doing the poor guy a favor in the long run

BigRyan13 · Answer

Its just a long long tradition even all throughout history before strip clubs they had different sexual ceremonies and customs before couples got married for both man and woman, old habits die hard if you will, it is pretty grimey he got a lap dance and whatever else he did he definitely didn't have to participate in anything and just let his boys have the fun I agree with that part

Chaseb88 · Answer

First things first I must say that some immature guys think of marriage as monotony (only being able to see the same woman naked for the rest of their life, which I think is stupid). Therefore to counteract that, those same guys think that the best things to do is see multiple women naked. It is stupid, the best bachelor party I went to was one where we out on the town.

BillyB4 · Answer

I’m a guy and I don’t get it. I agree with you, I think it’s disrespectful, and when I get married and I’m not going near one.

Anonymous · Answer

Well for one he is still young to be getting married, I never suggest getting married so your late 20s at least , so he gets it out of his system thinking marriage is the end that will be able to hang out with his friends anymore it’s basically why they go to strip clubs

Samual_Jennings · Answer

That was very counterintuitive of him. Leave him before you're stuck with him.

ritxi · Answer

I don't find it disrespectful, but that's the general vision. Why do you find it disrespectful? Do you have strong religious beliefs that make you think that way?

DualityGreen · Answer

I don't do the strip club thing. It is ultimately pointless. Go because horny, but get worked up and you can't touch. May as well stay home and watch free porn.

DollySummers · Answer

-it is normal -it is a right of passage for the guys last day being a bang.  -you’ll cause relationship problems if you show paranoia. Cool it. He is marrying you. He loves you. So show trust.

deanlarouche · Answer

Wow. I'm a guy who doesn't like strip clubs. If I'm not with a woman I dont wanna see her naked either. To me it would be a form of cheating. And total disrespect

letssee89 · Answer

You'd be doing him a favor calling it off if you're that "hurt" by his friends taking him to a strip club. You're clearly too insecure in your relationship for marriage if you want to control him.

LukasSkyy · Answer

usually it's the best man's deal to organize a bachelor party and I can understand that you can't just say no to a fully organized event set up for you personally. In fact I wouldn't decline this either, BUT there is still a better way to tell this to you in a caring way and I think this would make this much better for you, right?

ajna67 · Answer

For all the girls who thinks this is normaln; I would love to see your faces when finding out about half naked woman being in your beloved husbands lap and doing sexy dance. Sounds right? No. Cuz it isn't. Just the fact that he did it cuz of his friends makes things even worse, he needs to man up and say fucking no, even more if you told him it would bother you. Same goes for girls parties.

AnnLust · Answer

I am frm India. We dont have that tradition here. Not any that I know of anyway. But as much I know, they do it caz they know there won't b another chance. Like if a person knew he would be sliced into pieces the next day thn s/he won't just sit around and do nothing. They will get up and do something that they always wanted to.
I personally am not a fan of strip clubs. But i can understand y they feel the need.

MScifiwriter · Answer

Never make life alter choices when you are emotionally anything, use rational thinking. Besides, the same question could be asked about girls who visit male strip clubs. And I'm rather certain the answer will be mostly the same.

NJ_Casanova · Answer

The WHOLE... reason for a Bachlor/Bachlorette party is a 1 last Hora of single life. If you didn't trust him/were that Insecure then you should have told him you don't want either.

danpossibly · Answer

the common saying that its supposed to one more night of "freedom", I don't personally get it myself, the one time I went was nothing particularly special (maybe the town I live I don't know) it was just real expensive and not my cup of tea

HangrySanderson · Answer

First of all, monogomy is such an antiquated concept. But the whole point of the bachelor party is to celebrate marriage by enjoying all the liberties of being unhitched before you share THE REST of your lives together. If you dont trust him or dont want to marry him then dont, marriage is a social construct and is artificial

snatchkisser · Answer

Try to look past this one shoog. I know it's hard but this is good training. After a couple years you'll look back on this one and have a good hefty laugh. You'll see that if this could only be the worst of your issues that are soon to come it would be considered a perfect world.

Guanfei · Answer

Because that's the ultimate "single guy" thing he will never do again when he'll be married. A way to celebrate the end of a single life, and the beginning of a married life.

Nicms · Answer

Being real I think guys just go cause it's expected or trained in. It's not really that fun, and at the end of the night, unsatisfying.

Anonymous · Answer

His friends will not have taken no as an answer this happens at every bachelor party. Plus it's like smoking your last cigarette before you quit. It is the last time he will get to see any other women for the rest of his life. It really did mean nothing to him it is just a good laugh and a fun night out.

EmmaMary · Answer

So what are you doing for your hen/bachelorette night, or are you not having one?

Sam16_92 · Answer

Call off the wedding now. Save your life. You need to make your mind before getting married next time because being married is not like we see in the movies.

A-mac · Answer

Sounds like you already know the answer. I say just use the money you already spent as a reason for a family/friends reuinion. No reason to not have a celebration if you can't have a wedding.

dizmuhjam · Answer

But if he wouldn't have done it, every other guy has done it, only he didn't.. making him feel like he's not equal compared to other men who were allowed to.

winterfox10 · Answer

Don't call off the wedding! Going to a strip club is like... well it's like a bachelor saying goodbye to the reckless things in life. It's nothing more than harmless fun.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're that insecure and overly sensitive, your marriage wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes anyway. The first major argument, and you'd be screaming for a divorce.

Cancel it. You're not ready for a lifelong commitment to anyone.

Professor_Zoom · Answer

Because it’s fun. That’s why. Why are you so insecure about it? Do you think he’ll see something better and choose her over you?

JeremiahIam · Answer

I try to go twice a year, and not the cheesy ones around here, I mean full nude and the occasional girl on girl. I think a guy needs that freedom, he might agree to not touch, but not look? I'd say that's a bit to far.

apple24 · Answer

He clearly not my boyfriend. Lol I promise you my husband or future husband is going to be old fashion and traditional. Someone who isn't crazy about sex. Lol also wouldn't it be cheaper to watch porn?

nikki10 · Answer

Now listen. He's gonna look at other chicks. He's a man. Why not be honest and open about it. Nobody is having sex at the strip club. It shouldn't matter where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home for dinner right?

FatherJack · Answer

Not me , my stag night prior to my failed marriage was low key , out for a few drinks and nothing more. I don't see the appeal of strip clubs , it's paying for sexual frustration... pointless waste of good money.

Anonymous · Answer

Omg my husband went to a strip club and a year later I’m still mad about that shit 😭😂🤦🏻‍♀️ their so annoying with that shit tbh

HereIbe · Answer

You LUCKY girl! You've got yourself a bald-faced LIAR! You can look forward to decades of STDs he gives you that he picked up from prostitutes, baby-mamas dropping by, and general fun of that nature.

You are so LUCKY to have that one!

Ambercolby97 · Answer

I feel the same way, why can't we be enough for our significant other? Why do they always have to look at other girls? Makes me insecure

SirBarristanSelby · Answer

Can't you at least wait until you're married to run his life for him? I feel sorry for the guy already.

Purin · Answer

Ask him to go to gun range for parties. Nothing beats shooting guns with pals and not anger your fiance

banksy14 · Answer

Imagine a funeral for the fun part of your life. That’s what a bachelor party is. He’s choosing to marry you. Just let the man have one last blast

Repa33 · Answer

Its to celebrate the last night of "freedom" its basically tradition

blueskies1 · Answer

Its the social norm to go. If he didn't he would be ridiculed. But even so he did betray your trust. Maybe you should do a hen night with a stripper to even it out.

BannanaTRAIN · Answer

if i were her id let him do what he wants and if he goes to a strip club so be it there's plenty better fish out in the sea id just object at the wedding ;)

esparc · Answer

Honestly friends that don't respect his promises aren't good friends. Drunk or not, his friends should never violate his trust.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Wow, well if you feel that way so strongly in the first place, your marriage isn't going to be a happy one anyway. So go ahead, call it off. You'll be doing him a favor.

FlamingoJones73 · Answer

Never been to a bachelor's party but I've been near them. Chances are he said no and his friends pressured him. If your that upset the marriage was a stupid idea from the beginning.

john1714 · Answer

I ain't a fan of strip clubs so I don't really get it but some people enjoy them.

iamshan · Answer

That man is still immature thus unworthy of marriage.

Snyxthetics · Answer

probably most women posting omg so horrible here are getting cheated on by their guys/grooms but will never realize. don't cage what u love. the old fashioned way of view here is the real disgusting thing.

taylor_21 · Answer

It's a tradition and a cliche that seems to be normal for a wedding event

ryanlightning · Answer

Wow it's going to be a fun marriage fun for him... fucking lighten up

Jayjay613 · Answer

Seriously you’re the reason why good guys don’t want relationship now a days. Get over it, if that was me I’d say go at it and let me watch lol. I’d probably be getting a lap dance at the same time hahahaha

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Anonymous · Answer

I couldn't agree more with you. I think it's a stupid rite of passage but we never did that, my wife and I before hand. We had our best friends and had a big party at a ski resort together. None of that nonsense. Was the best time!

mutedaisy · Answer

He's going to do things like this for your entire marriage.

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