More time spent together, more feelings will develop?

[Anonymous]

Do you think the more a guy and a girl spend time with each other and hang out, that one or both will eventually develop feelings for the other person?

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. I mean, I had a lot of guy friends but I never found them to have the qualities I was really looking for. so I never developed feelings for them although we hung out a lot. I wanted someone who had morals and who was around my age. He had to at least have those two things first before I went for him. So if he didn't and he had some morals I didn't like or he wasn't around my age, then I would just be friends with him. No matter how much he liked me or how nice he was to me. No matter how much time we spent together. I would not fall for him or have attraction to him, because he has some morals I could not live with. We would be friends though, forever. I have a lot of guys like that. to develope feelings for someone, I think they have to meet certain criterias that I have. Have to have morals, have to be around my age, has to be some what attractive to me, has to have this and that and etc etc. Then maybe when I find out that they are madly in love with me I will start to have some feelings or put more value into our relationship is more like it.

[Boogaloo]

Yes definitely. A guy and a girl cannot be friends - one of them always develops feelings of attraction at least for the other. Always. Given enough time spent together - now I mean close friends I don't mean a friend of a freind you see once a week in a group. I mean a guy you spend time alone with on a regular basis. Feelings will always develop. Even if just feelings of lust.

That's me speaking from experience. Either I've starting fancying them or they have ended up fancying me.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel like that has happened to me a couple times too! I just don't know what to do!

[brettb]

I mean if you both were attracted to each other I think there would be a connection after a while cause he would start to see some quaities in you that you don't display around other people like if you like cuddling or stuff like that.

[Asker]

Yeah,

i guess I mean the more two friends spend time together...since they are already friends they clearly have some kind of connection.

[brettb]

Holy sh*t I used the word like 3 times in 1 sentence. But since he is friends doesn't mean that he is nescessarily attracted to you. However the more time I spend with a girl and get to know her, I personally become more attracted to her.

[Asker]

Hahah you did use like alot!

Yeah, I feel like its hard not to get attracted to someone the more time you spend with them if there is any attraction.

[brettb]

Exactly so if you wanted one of your guy friends to start liking you, just hang out with him some more but don't come off as too clingy or sh*t like that. Flirt with him a bit and he'll get the picture

[Asker]

We spend a lot of time together now and I talk to him ALL the time! Things are just so confusinggggg

[brettb]

Ok well what's so confusing about your situation?

[Asker]

We act just like a couple. I don't know if I want to be a couple and risk our friendship or what

[brettb]

Well if you both have feelings for each other, then I believe friendship is something to risk for a chance of being close to one another and a possibility for love to develope.

[Asker]

Yeah I just don't think we know how to go about it and if it does not work out then I know things will never be the same.

[brettb]

Here. I think you should just bring up the "Is it official?" question and see what he says. If you don't ask this, maybe ask questions that forces him to answer but not to seriously. Like just maybe subtly ask him if he likes you. But don't le tthat be your first question. try to play into it a little bit and I think this is you will be able to tell if he likes you or not.

[Asker]

Okay, thanks I will try that!