If your girlfriend showed up unannounced, would you let her in?

[Kacik]

It was a spontaneous decision - after the movie I went on with my friend (a girl), I wanted to stop by my boyfriend´s place - just to kiss him (or have sex with him if we felt like it) and leave. It was around 10pm. I rang the doorbell, tried to call his phone and nothing. I went home, we chatted later and I found out he was out biking and then exhausted and ignored the doorbell and phonecall completely. He knew it was me and it is extremely likely he was exhausted as he often goes for long bike rides in the mountains... Would you get mad at him? Guys, would you get mad, that your girlfriend hadn't announced herself? Would you let her in?

I dont do this often, just when I am nearby and have a bit of time. I was also a bit of in a shitty mood (bad day at work) and wanted to see him, because it lifts my spirits...

We are dating since November...

[NathanStrat]

Just always look at it as if the roles were reversed how you would feel, also try and see it from their point of view. Its hard to have an absolute in this since people date different personalities. I've been in a hike where after i laid down i could not move for hours. A girlfriend is always welcome but id be useless at that point for entertaining her and id hollar for her to just break in lol. So i dunno...

[Anonymous]

Wait did I read that right? You AND your girlfriend? Hell yes I would! Nothing would put a spring in my step other than the very real possibility of my beautiful girl and her girlfriend!

[Kacik]

I went to a cinema with a girl friend. She went home and I went to see him alone.

[Opinion Owner]

I still would let you in.

[TPI93]

I mean you can't be upset it they don't want to see you if you came over unannounced and without permission. Although he could of just answered the door or phone and just say he wasn't in the mood. Relationship are all about communication on both ends.

[MrOracle]

All of this!

I love spending time with my girlfriend (sex or not), but when I'm exhausted, I'm not fun to be around and I don't really want to see anyone - just the insides of my eye lids.

If I've had a light day, then a surprise is great. If I had a day like today (14 hours and 360 miles driven), then she's not doing either of us a favor by stopping by.

[Jonny317]

He sounds like an idiot. I've been married for 20 years to a wonderful woman, but when were dating I couldn't get enough of her (still can't). Sounds like a self-centered tool. Even if I was exhausted I would never let her stand around waiting to hear from me. Repulsive.

[Kacik]

I guess I am not really mad at him, just very upset/disappointed about the realization that he´s just not really that much into me... otherwise he might have at least told me he´s not in the mood. I would not make a scene, I never do.

[Jonny317]

Please find someone who is truly happy you're there. i'm not joking, after twenty years I'm truly happy and excieted to see my wife, whether it's a surprise visit or coffee in the morning or coming home from work. If his eyes don't light up EVERY TIME you walk in, get someone who deserves you.

[Fuentes]

Don't come by unannounced ever Thats a huge pet peeve if anyone does it. girlfriend or not you better text or call me asking to come by, if not ill ignore you too just csuse were dating doesn't give you a free pass to just knock on my door like were kids again asking to come in or over lol hella annoying

[Jonny317]

Why?

[choooo]

No matter how tired i am i would let her in regardless she's my girl i want her too know I appreciate her stopping buy to show she cares & loves me. Even if i didn't want company i would still let her in just because she's my Lady if im tired she can relax with me & be there to aid me 😀

[TheBigSoftie]

I don't know cos I don't have a girlfriend to rudely barge in while I'm getting... AHEM... down and dirty... with myself.

[MrSociopath]

Fuck no my room is a mess but then I don't have a girlfriend in the first place!

[Kacik]

if it was not in a mess?

[MrSociopath]

Then yes why not?

[jessture]

Yeah I'd be annoyed, that she feels the need to check up on me as if I'm doing something wrong.

[Jonny317]

wow, she said she was coming over to visit? You read a lot into that. Passive agressive guys are the worst.

[jessture]

I don't know what you read... but here in reality she stated her visit was unannounced.

[Jonny317]

so what?

[jessture]

Troll.

[Kacik]

who said anything about checking up on him? I wanted a kiss or maybe a quickie. I thought guys like that. We don´t see each other that often. And he could have answered the door and just tell me he´s not in the mood. I don´t make scenes. And I dont nag him about things. Ever.

[jessture]

If the roles were reversed, you're about to crash, long day, you're exhausted, and he shows up wanting a kiss or sex. How would you feel?

[Kacik]

If I wasn't in the mood, I would have told him to come up and explain - might not invite him in. Or he might be ok with crashing together - giving a massage or something. I wouldn´t just ignore him. That´s not polite and one shouldn´t do it to your family or SO. But if I felt like you described and saw him having a bad day and wanting to talk I would let him know that I am terribly tired, but he can come in and talk it out.

[MindTime]

I'd let her in, just letting her know I was not in the mood to do much since I was tired

[Kacik]

well, that´s a reasonable thing to do and I would completely understand. But he could have pick up the phone and tell me that...

[MindTime]

Yeah I don't understand the completely ignore part :/

[Eldunaro]

Probably I would, though I can understand not as well. I don't think it's worth getting mad over.

[Kacik]

I guess I am not really mad, just upset/disappointed about the realization that he´s just not really that into me... otherwise he might have at least told me he´s not in the mood. I would not make a scene, I never do.

[Eldunaro]

I'm sure it's not that he is not into you. I'd imagine it's other factors, the exhaustion and so forth. Yes it may have been more polite to respond, but I know personally I get really snappy and get annoyed quickly if I'm tired.

[JimRSmith]

If I knew it was her, I would.

[Anonymous]

I would let her