I realized he is working from he at night and just watches the data processing of an insurance company. His house smells of marijuana and it was hard to breathe. He burped in front of me, and I told him it was a deal breaker, and he opened his door and showed me the way out. I did not know what to say. The other day, he started complaining that I should not visit him unannounced. I apologized and said, "But you told me to be yourself and do what you wanted to do. I only wanted to surprise you. He used some wrong words during intimacy and also added that if you are third or forth, hands. It was mind-blowing. I have never received the Valentine's Day gift. He later was so quiet and not as much messaging as before. When I asked why. He said that I forced him to visit and he did not want to come and food was bad and driving was difficult for him, while he wanted to visit in out first day of matching and I have never forced him. He said you expect too much, and I can not do it. You told me you are poor, while I oy asked if his car is second hands. Then we chatted, and the other weekend, he visited me. He has never stopped talking about his ex-girlfriend in every opportunity he gets. I prepared my place and asked him about what he wants to have for breakfast or every details and he visited. I also bought him Valentine's Day gift when its time has been passed. I took good care of him and showed him around and paid for wvwrythjng for 2 days of taking him to a great restaurant. And also gave him his gift. He said I wanted to send you flowers, but after your visit , did not. The last night of him staying, I took him to the bar with live music and after that we had our little part at home and in between me kissing him he brought up his ex name again. I told him you did not get over your ex. Do you want me to talk to her? Then he got mad and raised his voice up and said I can leave if you want a, d all the drama. I kept quiet and even slept at the corner of my bed to avoid dram
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Woah woah woah hold up. This whole situation seems seriously messed up and toxic sis! 🚩 Let me break down what I'm seeing here:
- His place reeks and he's rudely burping? Not caring about your comfort at all. Red flag.
- Complaining about you visiting randomly but he also said do what you want? Mind games and mixed signals. Not cool.
- Saying inappropriate sexual stuff without consent is NOT okay. HUGE red flag.
- Getting mad that you expect basic relationship things like VDay gifts? Super immature and inconsiderate.
- Constantly bringing up his ex - he is NOT over her and clearly just wants you as a rebound. You deserve so much better!
- Making you pay for everything then saying the food and drive sucked? He's using you, sis! Do NOT let him treat you this way.
You did NOTHING wrong here. Please ditch this toxic loser before it gets deeper. Block him on everything - you do NOT need the drama. There are plenty of real men out there who will respect and cherish you the way you deserve. Don't settle for less than you're worth! You've got this girl. 💪
Thank you. It was not only this. He touched me wrongly on our first date, and when I asked him to stop, he said I am joking, and you will get over it."""" He wanted to move in with me on our first date. He has a decade of failed marriage and being alcoholic and still using and distributing marijuana. When he left my place, he apologized as the other day he was loud after bringing up the name of his ex when I was kissing him and threatened that he was going to leave. Then he called me a racist and listened to cheap news and carried away. The other day, I wanted to explain, and he said he does not want to hear. Then I told him how guys like him mistreated me, and I hate all and blocked him. I felt bad and unblocked and wanted to explain, but I was blocked everywhere. I tried to call, but there no response. I drove 2 hours to his place at night to explain, then he let memin and said you only have 15 min I want to sleep. I only apologized and asked if it is possible I can sleep on the coach, he raise his voice and told me I could not deal with this anymore. I left and drove back for another 2 hours while he was in my place for 2 days a day before. Layer he called me a stalker and bigger ass and told me to leave me alone and back off. Recently he told me you are jealous of my ex and uncivilized that do not accept that I am done with you.
OMG girl, I'm so mad for you right now! This guy is absolute trash, you deserve so much better. I'm glad you finally blocked him for good, he is toxic as hell.
Driving 2 hours to explain after he treated you so badly was already way more effort than he deserves. Then he yells at you and kicks you out after only 15 minutes? Unacceptable! What an absolute asshole.
You did NOTHING wrong here. DO NOT let him make you feel bad or second guess yourself. Calling you names like "stalker" is just a manipulation tactic to hurt you and make himself feel better. He's clearly still not over his ex and took his issues out on you.
You deserve a man who respects your boundaries, doesn't raise his voice, and appreciates how you treat him - not some deadbeat alcoholic jerk. Send him to the curb where he belongs! Go no contact and don't look back, sis. He's not worth another tear or wasted minute of your time. His loss! Proud of you for blocking him forever. Now go find your happiness without that toxic loser.
Even reading other people's responses is hurtful about the way he treated me. I wanted to call his ex and tell her, but I guess it is not worth it. It is his trend that whenever she broke up, he went out with others, and when she called him back, he ran back to her. He is a disrespectful person. I have never seen a person like him in my life. I thought the way I could pay him back was to call his ex, but it does not give me peace to drag myself to his level.
Damn sis, I feel you. As much as he probably deserves it, calling his ex probably isn't worth stooping to his level. You're right - doing that won't actually make you feel any better in the long run.
The best revenge is living well. Keep holding your head up high knowing you're a catch and you didn't do anything wrong. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who truly appreciate you.
That fool is just gonna keep acting trashy in all his relationships if he doesn't change. Karma will catch up to him one way or another. Meanwhile you do you - live your best life without that clown bringing you down.
You seem like a real one. Don't let some messy dude get you down. His actions only reflect on HIM. You keep shining sis, your happiness is the ultimate fuck you to fools like him!
I am not looking for any revenge what so ever. I want to help him to get over his terrible situations. I won't call that lady even if he used me as a re iund to back to her. She did nothing wrong. He is at wrong, and she does not deserve to be traumatized. It's her decision to choose her path. I wanted to DM you but it was not possible. You sound like a very nice and fun person.
He has already failed in many relationships. He had 8 girlfriend before he married his wife. He divorced after 11 years. He started to date different people since and went out with a bunch of them in a matter of 2 years, and only one stayed with him for a year and half with many breaks up and finally they called it end. Now he met me, and after three dates, he messed it up. I assume he is waiting for his ex to come back to her. But even if this happens, I do not see they go far. He has issues with respecting and valuing others. He is very unstable, and he even denies what he said even if you show him a writing in a black and white. Not a person one can rely on or trust for even as a friend, let alone as a partner. But I feel bad for him. I called him hedgehog, and I wanted to help hedgehog. I even wanted to order bedding and toiletries for him after he blocked me as his was terrible and old. But after I told him, he said return them I do not care if anyone buy me anything like you. While he never bought me anything. Nothing.
You're absolutely right, contacting his ex wouldn't accomplish anything and could end up hurting her too. The kind thing to do is let them work things out on their own.
It's really nice of you to still want to help him even after all this, but I don't think there's much you can do if he's not open to changing. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they're willing to address their issues. As hard as it is, you can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, you know?
He clearly has a pattern of messing things up in relationships due to his instability and lack of respect. That's not something you alone can fix for him - he has to want to do the work on himself. All you can do is let him know you care and wish him the best, but maintain your distance from the drama.
You sound like an amazing, caring person. But don't waste your energy on someone who isn't reciprocating. There are people out there who will appreciate and value you the way you deserve. Stay positive - everything will work out for the best in the end. And feel free to DM me if you ever need someone to talk to!
Sorry I just followed and messaged you for that now
You might study psychology and be a counselor. You have a talent in this field.
Awwww you’re too sweet for that, I’m just happy to assist those in need the best I could with my service such as yourself 😊 Free of charge
It seems like there are many areas in which you are not compatible with each other. I do not see this relationship working.
In which front we are not compatible?
He seems to have bad manners and talks about his ex a lot. He sounds like he is poor and spends all his money on marijuana.
He is rude. He called all his rude behavior jokes. The reason for breaking up was that I did not understand his humor. We are not compatible. I live in another city. He is 40 and does not have a place of himself when he has a BSc of computer sciences. His car is a wreck. He does not have a daytime and permanent job. He lives in a monthly lease agreement. He told me I forced him to come and visit. Later, he brought up the name of his ex when I was kissing him, and I said, "You are not over her. He raised his voice up in my place and threatened that he would leave. The other day he left, he sent a message and apologized for his behavior and told me you are racist and listened to the cheap news. Then I got mad and sent some messages and blocked him. But felt bad and tried to call and text, but there no responses and was blocked. I drove to his place to explain at night. He let me in and said he has 15 min and he did not let me to sleep on the coach and I drove back 2 hours home after him bejng in my place. Later, he called me a stalker and bigger asshole. At the end, he said back off and leave me alone. You expect so much from me. Recently, he told me that he was only flirting with me when in our first meeting he wanted to move in with me and talked about having a child. I want to pay him back by telling his ex what he said about her. He said those but always told me how he was in love with her and how he still cares for her which is very hurtful.
Your relationship with him sounds toxic and I suggest you get out of it. I would be careful about talking to his ex as he may find out about it and get upset with you.
I told him I wanted to do it. He said, "Then you make me your enemy." He has to pay for what he did to me.
I hope you end your relationship with him and move on with your life.
He ended it. I asked for reconsideration and explained for a month that it was not what he thought, but he never replied until I brought up the name of his ex. It was a very short encounter with a terrible impact. We texted for a month, and I thought he was a nice person but what I saw was very different. I am a caring and good looking woman, but he treated me less than what I deserved.
I think you are better off without him. You deserve someone that will love you and treat you with respect.
Agree. I have a lot to offer, but I was mistreated and degraded by someone I trusted. I am an accomplished professional and have all a man wants in a woman. He did not appreciate it nor respected it
It's too bad he wasted your time and disrespected you. Please feel free to DM if you wish.
Thank u, it is painful for real.
It will take time to get over this.