How do I get over my girlfriends high body count?

[Anonymous]

She has a very high bodycount. I don't dislike it in a slut shaming kind of way, as sex doesn't make you any less of a person or lower your value. I'm in love with her, and my problem with her body count is my own jealousy. I think "Damn, This many other guys she's gotten wet for, moaned because of, she sucked a lot other guys off, she isn't giving me something that is sacred to her, I'm just another dick, but she loves me". I imagine her giving head to so many different guys, riding other guys, moaning, and it makes me jealous. I know its wrong but I feel like I wanted her ONLY to me.

[tysthename]

So I think every guy has been here at least once in there life, it's perfectly a normal insecurity especially if you yourself hasn't had that many partners, as you get older you might realize it's an unspoken rule that you shouldn't ask about numbers otherwise you risk not looking at them the same way, one thing you can do is tell yourself that what happened in the past doesn't matter what matters now is you're the one she's with not any of the other guys. This insecurity is something that can rip apart a relationship so if you happen to come to the conclusion you simply can't get over this then I caution you when it comes to having this conversation in the future.

[DryJake2015]

Unless she's showing signs of disloyalty or a potential break up, there's no need to be worried. You're going to have to accept that people have sex a LOT. If her body count is really high then she just may have a high sex drive. Don't let this eat you up. If you truly can't be with her because of her body count then break up with her. This option is really messed up though. I'd understand if she had an std or something, but judging someone on their past is not the best way to keep a healthy relationship. Tell her this bothers you and if she says she's not like that anymore then you have no reason to doubt her. You're going to have to trust her.

[Asker]

I do trust her. I'm not worried about her loyalty. She rejects men all the time, and she doesn't tell me to prove a point. Others tell me she does.

[DryJake2015]

Well to answer your question, You gotta accept her as she is! If you are willing to accept her despite this discrepancy, that shows how much you love her. That shows how much she means to you that you're willing to put aside your judgment for the good of the relationship. If you don't mind my asking, what is her body count? It will help me to access the situation differently. Her body count could just be high to you and normal to others. My mom had 4 kids and numerous exes when she met my stepdad. He didn't judge her on that. He accepted her and they were married for over 10 years.

[KawaiiPotato]

I think you have to come to the terms that even though she might have had a huge body count over all of those guys she is choosing YOU
YOU are way better than those guys because you get her for the rest of her life and not just a one night stand or something
Stay confident! Overthinking this type of thing might cause a rift in your relationship
Trust her to be with you and trust yourself to stay confident!

[Aerissa_Jade]

You don't, break up and find someone closer to your body count. Even if you fake it and say you'll be fine, down the road it will come back to haunt you.

Last thing you want is to be haunted and to cheat to try to raise your numbers to match hers. I've had men cheat on me, simply to try to 'balance' things out because they said they could handle it but in reality they couldn't.

[GetzRekt]

Start thinking of her as a person and stop thinking of her as a receptacle. She's had sex with other guys, deal with it. That doesn't make her a cum sponge, she's a human being who you are supposed to care about. If you think of her in such negative and dismissive ways then you are devaluing her and her love for you.

[Asker]

What part of "My jealousy is the problem, I don't slut shame because sex doesn't make you less of a person" did you not understand. Read thoroughly.

[GetzRekt]

I understood all of it. You are still reducing her to the sum of her past sexual conquests by fixating on them. If you truly valued her love and her as a person you wouldn't feel jealous. She's yours. You've won. You should feel happy about that.

[Anonymous]

You will never get over it. I could never be with a girl that wasn't a virgin because I couldn't stand the thought of her sucking and fucking other guys before me, and giving her virginity to some other guy. I'm a virgin so I have a right to expect my girlfriend to be a virgin. If you are a virgin then you should find a virgin girl and not give into your lust for her. If you're not a virgin then it's up to you because if you aren't a virgin then you have less of a right to expect your girlfriend to be a virgin because you also have experience. What you describe sounds like if you stay with her then you will be unhappy and never feel special, so you should find a girl that makes you feel special. Other guys might say it doesn't matter or she's with you now, but the truth is that it does matter and some girls are sluts and sluts cannot actually love a guy the same way a virgin girl will love her first guy.

[djmzes]

U cannot
And you will ruin either youe life or her life. If you do not like that, then go and find someone that you deserve..

[djmzes]

U will never really love her... u never be trustworthly to her
U will always feel nothing...
1 year is fine, but 5 to 10 years, it will explode... when her beauty fade away and what remains is her personality that you dislike which today is hidden by her beauty.

You decide

[PilotWhoPlays]

you're probably inactive now but I'm literally going through this rn. my girlfriend ex was with her for a week and they had sex on like the third day of their three week relationship and have done so many sleepovers etc whereas I haven't had that. It really sucks that she liked such a bad guy and it just annoys me :/. She was my first time I don't know... she's had multiple exes and DJAHDKA I don't know WHAT TO SAY ITS JUST ANNOYING

[tinydiva1991]

stop being insecure! Lol, everyone has a past. Try not to imagine her having sex. If she was honest enough to tell you her number than trust that she’s currently satisfied with you. Show her who her new daddy is!

[derek2017]

I learned that a lot of girls are like that (fucked a lot of guys) from a really young age so I did the same thing I fucked a lot of girls to get some experience because I knew I would be in the same place as you right now if I didn't do that

[Logorithim]

It's not realistic in this day and age to expect your girlfriend to be a virgin when you're an adult. That's the fallacy here.

You love her, that is what counts here.

[DryJake2015]

I concur

[Logorithim]

One other thought- she is with you, not some other guy. That is confirmation that you're just fine.

[tzdc21]

Dude, you're reacting the way ANY normal guy would. We are by nature disgusted by the idea our girlfriend/wife having sex with a bunch of other men.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Its also the pressure like you compete with all those guys before, you feel like you need to be better than them

[ErnieRBennett]

Dude just appreciate her

[Elid____123]

Ngl bro you just like me it’s really tough

[loraxian]

Hhhdff