Yes. Even I do this.
I even did this with a girl who wasn't my girlfriend last week, a coworker of mine, while she and I were leaving our office and walking down a rough area of my city to grab a coffee. It's just a male instinct, lady. Call it leftovers of our evolution but we're just hardwired to be protective of the nearest vagina. We're bigger and stronger than you, that's a fact. And if we care and another bigger stronger male gets near us that we don't know it's just kinda natural that the protective instinct immediately kicks in.
I'm a fit guy, fucking 6'4 and 240lbs. My girlfriend is 5'6 and 140, so a small little thing, quite a bit smaller than me. My coworker is also only a little bit taller than her. So it makes just a little bit more sense for me to be in front of the women than it does the other way around I think, hell I'm one intimidating and imposing bastard man I can end a conflict just by standing up.
Men are just creatures and agents of action, women can be too but more often than not they're creatures and agents of inspiration. The mere presence of a woman will generally inspire a man to action, in my case with my girlfriend or my coworker, it's protectiveness. Welcome to the world of men and women.
This is two parts. One is a societal thing where higher value is placed on women and children's lives. Watch just about any rescue type movie and you will hear "Women and children first." Men are supposed to be the protectors of women, and kids.
Second, is how he was raised.
I have a pretty keen eye for trouble. I deal with it on an almost daily basis. Reading body language, eye movement, watching the direction of the feet, and of course a persons hands.
Your boyfriend might have noticed a movement the drunk guy made that you may have missed.
Or, he just wanted to demonstrate that you are safe with him. The drunk gave him a perfect opportunity, without any real present danger to either of you. In other words, playing hero for you.
What? You are complaining about that? That sounds hot. I would love to have a protective boyfriend. But it's just male instinct, just in case the homeless guy is a problem he wants to be prepared so he can protect you.
Why wouldn't they be? Most males have that innate instinct to protect their girlfriend seeing as we are less likely to be effective in a fight.
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Haha i did that recently even with a gal i was "just going home with" because you never know what intentions people have. Even if he's not giving off a threatening vibe he might just be acting and waiting for us to come closer for whatever he has planned. Maybe he has friends waiting around the corner, or watching from over the street. At least that goes for "thugs" as it was in my case. But for a homeless person its still the same, you at worst obliterate at least any physical negative consequences that might arise from him doing something surprising and at best negate the whole thing he might have had planned. It could be anything from him actually attacking both of us to just him wanting to create a bad atmosphere by lets say couping a feel of her breasts or ass as we walk by. a lot of street rats are smart enough to walk the fine line of whats legally allowed, or in more practical terms whats going to be accepted without any mentionable consequences for his part. Let me ask you if the homeless guy wouldve couped a feel of your breasts what is your boyfriend supposed to do? No matter if he does nothing, straight oit knocks him out, or something in between it would undoubtably dampen the evening right? He negated or at least lessened the chances of all that having the ability to happen by moving just 2m. All guys know aboit this that why gangs love harassing a dude with a gal even more than a lone gal
That's just him being careful. A guy who's willing to do a gesture like that rather than just ignore a potential, if unlikely, threat to you is a keeper. Honestly, I'm the same way with any girls, or guys that I don't think can protect themselves as well as I can. It's just something in a person's nature. Your boyfriend probably knows that there isn't likely going to be an incident, but if there is, he wants to make sure you're safe, and that's awesome. He cares, and doesn't want you to be hurt. Not all guys are like that anymore, so good for you, I suppose :D
It’s basic evolution, he wants to make himself look strong and dominant to you so he protects you from what he sees as potential threats. Mates do this in order to assert their dominance to other males and to you as to say I am top dog don’t mess with me or my girlfriend or there will be trouble. Honestly it’s a good thing he just wants you to be safe. Guys feel they must protect and show they’re dominant otherwise they may think they look weak and that you’ll leave them and go to another man, which is the worst feeling in the world. It’s romantic and you’re lucky to have a partner who actually cares for your safety.
I see it as your boyfriend trying to protect you from any potential threats. He's also trying to prevent anything from happening but if something does happen he will take the hit/will be the one in harm's way. Basically sacrificing himself to protect you. If you think about it that way. It's nice to have someone that cares about you n doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. I guess it could get annoying if he's doing it every minute, everywhere you go but see it as a sign of affection. He's showing you he cares about you & puts you first.
He was being protective (which I hope you wouldn't question and overthink to death) I mean, would you prefer your boyfriend just stands back and lets you become a violent crime victim? That being said, I think he took it pretty overboard, and likely did it so you would know he had your back. The homeless are not typically violent threats, but they certainly can be. ANYONE can be. If it were me I probably would have kept a close eye on the guy and kept my situational awareness on orange until we were safely past the guy. I would have casually positioned myself between the guy and you until we were a safe distance.
Be glad your boyfriend has your back, hopefully he never takes it overboard unnecessarily.
It's in their nature. I don't think he even realized what he did, it's just an instinct.
Isn't it attractive though?
What a flawed logic it is for those who call a protector insecure. Ain't no little bitch will protect his girl. He'd let other dudes take her as long they leave him alone because he is afraid and insecure. Afraid they'll harm him. It takes confidence to claim someone yours, to defend and to protect her. Jealousy isn't playing any role here. I doubt her boyfriend thought the homeless man is going to steal her lmao.
Man We just kinda feel it, Ready to go. I've had confrontations and that adds to it I know if it can happen to Me it can happen to her and I will not think twice, I opt to avoid because it's bad and ugly but I feel like a lot of men have this understanding especially if they have had been in or grown up in stressful environments. I think some guys mainly younger will misjudge non threats for threats but safe is safe really. Can't tell Me holding onto they're arm, shoulder or hand for safety and warmth doesn't feel nice, A guy with a pretty woman he loves on his arm brings confidence as well.
Because physical + unknown = danger. Simple. Yes, men are protective and yes it's nice that your pissy gets wet from that BUT women are also protective. The sign cancer ♋ is about protection. It's a feminine sign. Doing it is all about courage. Men just have more of it on average than do women and men aren't raised being told that you're only supposed to do mars. Women however are told that doing mars is wrong as a woman when it isn't. Men do venus by getting women why wouldn't a woman be able to mars? It's all psychology and self esteem. Who the person is inside tells you everything.
Women are the more vulnerable sex and it's in the men's genetics to protect the weaker, whether it is a woman, a child, a defenseless animal, etc. Especially if it's someone he cares about. It is not something your boyfriend does consciously it's an instinct.
It's natural, no immanent threat needed, rather safe than sorry. Anything could happen, I've seen some unfathomable situations unfold out of no where & it's already too late if something actually did happen suddenly. The fact that because you're having to walk right up to someone to get past & who probably has nothing much to lose. More than likely extremely desperate & possibly looking for a dark opportunity. One never really knows what's going on in someone elses mind. He might spot something on you or think he has because he was drunk as well & could do something stupid the moment you're close & there's nothing in the way. . . Good man, good question as well but you should start by asking him. What was his answer? ☺
Because he’s smart.
Most homeless people are mentally ill, drug addicts, alcoholics, or all three.
They have great potential for violence and unpredictable behavior.
Even if you didn’t perceive danger, why be closer to him if on the off chance something happens. You’ll get at least a little hurt before your boyfriend can end it.
Your boyfriend was wise enough to put himself between you and him because if he does try anything... he’s going to have to go through your boyfriend first and I’ll bet he wasn’t having that shit.
You should be thankful he’s street wise and cares enough to look out for your saftey.
I ensure as much distance as possible when I pass the homeless on the street.
Well... As a biochemist I only can explain these scientifically. Indeed it's much easier than it seems to be. There's an hormone that's called oxytocin which is secreted (gave to the brain) when it meets someone it loves, it can be a girlfriend or a family member or something similar, there's necessary a very strong bond. Well, this "drug" makes the brain think that it's important to keep this other safe and alive... Normally these types of hormones and reactions are related to man, because of their vestigial masculinity and strong, and that stuff... I hope I've helped you, and you understood everything.
natural instinct, he protected so you didn't need to worry. pat on the back for him and tbh probably deserves a treat too.. wink wink
Because biology. Males are built to protect (that's why we are bigger, stronger, and hardier then women), he just did what his instincts told him to do, protect, he didn't know whether or not the man was a threat but he wasn't going to take any chances.
Because he loves you. Men protect what they love; even when a threat has not surfaced. Women are vulnerable (or more so) than men are. So a lot of men still see us as someone who needs protecting, even when sometimes we don't. Take it as a kind and caring gesture. He felt as though he was protecting you from any possible harm and that's extremely attractive.
I can understand him, I also wouldn't want to take any risk whatsoever, even if there's no apparent threat it can't harm to be on the safe side.
Especially if in the past a seemingly safe situation turned bad on him it's pretty normal he'd be very cautious even when things seem safe.
... I mean it's instinct. If he didn't do that, it would be a sign he doesn't value you, or he's thoroughly unaware of his surroundings.
As to the deeper why of the instinct? Men see other men as potential threats, it's even part of our socialization with each other, and we especially see other men as a threat to women we have some sort of tie to or "claim" on, because we know how other men generally think. It's very primal. See also "My Best Friend isn't allowed to date my sister" 😀
Better safe than sorry! There are a lot of situations that are probably going to be OK but there is some risk, it still makes sense to try to reduce the risk, for example when you drive to the store you probably won't crash, but it is still a good idea to have airbags and wear a seatbelt just in case you do. To me this is like that. JMO!
He could have been a bit more smooth, but I don't think he did anything wrong-he was being proactive and thinking about your well being.
I've had crazy insecure "protective" boyfriends, and that wasn't bad in my opinion. But you were there, so was his vibe awkward and caring or aggressive?
Lol when I was with my ex (who lived in a shifty part of town) he would ask me to walk him to his door at night. One time I walked him to his door - a block away from my car - and while we were waiting for his roommate to buzz us in, a man started walking in our direction. As the guy got closer, I saw my boyfriend get more and more nervous. Then his roommate opened the door and he JUMPED inside and went "see you!" Totally left me to fend for myself 😂
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