Why are girls so protective of their guy friends?

[Anonymous]

I've liked this guy for quite some time... and we have all of the same friends. There are these two girls that are CONSTANTLY around him when we're all hanging out, and they both have boyfriends and HAVE HAD these boyfriends for 4+ years! Not to mention, the boyfriends are best friends with the guy I like.

It's not even like I try to compete or have him all to myself, and I don't get jealous when he hangs out with girls. But these girls... it's like every time I say ANYTHING about me and him hanging out or spending time together... they always rebuttal with something like "Oh well, he and I went to this concert together..." or something that refers to a time THEY spent time with him.

They act like they have the biggest crush on him, but they have great boyfriends of their own that they live with and love a lot. So what's the fascination?

Granted, he's never had a girlfriend and he's never had sex. One of these girls mentioned to everyone last night "Well he and Claire hooked up last summer but I was not gonna let him have sex with her because she's a dirty whore... he hasn't had sex and he's waiting for the right girl, and she obviously hasn't come along yet..." and she looked me right in the eye when she said it.

They constantly flirt with him and treat me as if I'm a threat. Sometimes it seems like he likes me but I don't know...

Why are they so protective of him? I have guy friends that I am extremely close to but I don't treat them like they're my property..

I just don't understand it. How can I make them stop? They're acting like they're in highschool when we're all adults now... I mean when you're 22 there's a certain level of maturity that you should have and these girls obviously don't have it.

Opinions?

[spoonman2014]

From it sounds like to me is this poor guy was someones emotion husband, basically his caregiver felt alone so she basically made him fill in the void in her heart. And anytime he tried to establish independence she smothered him even more, when he no longer wanted training wheels, to stop kissing her and hold her hand she felt betrayed and made him feel like shit. Every girl he liked was a whore, not good enough and the ones she did like smothered just as much as she did. Because of this, he learned to connect with women emotionally on a superior level and physically it pretty much never happened. So he goes through life connecting emotionally with many people who develop the same feelings for him as caregiver and it has ruined his life because he becomes someones best friend without realizing it, the rock to lean on and another girls emotional husband. I bet you 1,000 American dollars if this guy fell off a cliff and broke his neck your friends relationships would end within a year. Because their boyfriends are dicking them every way from Sunday and this guy holds their hand and calls them pretty, has fantastic memories with him and all the emotional stuff their men can’t do. I went through this in my life, I think your best bet is to make him realize he’s in a 3 way relationship with these women, the only part that is missing is sex, they are having an emotional affair with him. Because if they didn’t like him, they would have just cock blocked him and went their way, but the fact they do this and drag him back into their lives is proof that his mom did the same thing to him and made him feel guilty and now when he wants to do things like have sex and a relationship they make him feel guilty for wanting it too.

[l-hedoniste]

Standard female cock-blocking. Some girls beneath a certain maturity level don't like watching their friends--male or female--get laid, and do their best to prevent it. It's what wingmen are for, to run interference on them.

Hence, your strategy. You can't stop them, so you have to distract them. Find some guy/girlfriends willing to run interference for you, then grab the guy and go. The boyfriends should be understanding; cock-blocking is a sin among the brotherhood.

Make your intentions clear; if he's letting his girlfriends cock-block, he could be socially stunted.

[BBGyrl]

Well I kinda get them, I mean they're probably looking out in his best interest and they don't want him to get hurt. I have a pretty close guy friend and I certainly wouldn't want just any girl to come along and try to take advantage of him, not saying that you plan on doing that, but you get what I'm saying. Being that they are older though they shouldn't be acting so child-like with the comments and all. If I were you I would talk to him and let him know how his friends make you feel. Maybe he'll be ablel to make them back off some. Also tell him that you'd like to spend some time with him without his two friends there that way they can't influence what might happen between you two.

[Aguy29]

Wow. Look at this reasoning. Listen hun if you were trying to help the guy out you'd be helping him get laid not "trying to protect him from getting hurt". The only thing that is sure to hurt a guys self esteem is not getting laid. Breaking up with a girl we get over. Not being able to even get a girl for a while is what starts men having confidence issues in being able to attract a mate.

Men love the attention. They aren't going to "be hurt" that is more or less saying the guy is a complete sissy. Everyone can and does get hurt. We aren't little boys we don't need our female friends standing around us ensuring we dont get any female affection in fear of us getting "hurt". Who needs woman like that around?

If you think a girl coming up to a guy and possibly having a sexual relationship with him is taking advantage of him you are seriously delusional. Men live to conquere women in the bed rooms and really its only woman who need to watch out about being duped.

[ayerhockee]

my roommate is the same way. every time our guy friend tells us he has a crush on a new girl my roomate tries to shut it down before she even meets the poor girl. I believe its because she jealous, I don't think she likes him, but she craves male attention, our guy friend gives her attention, but I thinks she afraid that if he gets a girlfriend he'll stop paying attention to her. its stupid and petty and she should really be concerned with his happiness, but whatever

[Aguy29]

She likes him for 100% certain to some extent or she wouldn't get jelous. Women are liars when it comes to admitting when they like someone. Their status is threatened whenever they do like someone. A women would never admit to liking a guy until she is sure HE likes her.

I think if this guy ever paid her attention? He'd have her. Whether she'd admit that in a million years or not is another story. Woman play strange games.. they secretly lust after men just as much as guys lust after woman but woman are extremely guarded in admitting those details in many cases even lying to themselves about their interest.

In my experience if a woman has any type of relationship with a guy her admitted interest in him (just friends or otherwise) is always several notches below her true feelings about him.

[Anonymous]

Either they think you're a whore/bad person or they are jealous because they like the attention they might get from him and they will lose it if he stays w you

[toguro16]

wow dos chicks are dirty rotten hobags. plain and simple not much to do but ignore em. sry but its da truth. deal with it even if it sucks. because life sucks