My girlfriend broke up with me saying that she just wants to be single? Girls and guys please help.

[Anonymous]

She broke up with her last boyfriend because he hurt her a lot and treated her like sh*t. She said she also did it to be with me, but after a month of dating and another month of being together, she said she felt like we rushed into this relationship and that she wants to be single, but still good friends. I don't understand what happened. We became the best of friends after only a couple of weeks and had so much in common and were so alike...

She's an amazing person, inside and outside, and many guys see that, I'm afraid by the time she wants to have a boyfriend again, she won't want me. A crap load of people flirt with her, and she'll probably fall for another guy. We still hang out and talk and I still care about her so much. What do I do?

[wiamb]

never WAIT for a girl and focus on you .don,t sit around "waiting" for the little tidbits of crumbs she is throwing your way.Let the birds swoop down and eat those crumbs:) You deserve much more, and she is not willing to give it.

I think you should, for your own benefit, let this girl go at least for now. Go into no contact, otherwise she is keeping you on the back burner whenever you respond, and you don,t want to be in that position and end up getting burned.

show her that you're OK .. it's not the end of the world after all .. and IGNORE HER for a while believe me it works .. don't be her friend .. tell her it's either all or nothing ..

Allowing her to keep you around as friends only serves her, not you. she gets to enjoy your company, and the thought that she has someone who pines for her, and someone she can keep on the backburner if she chooses to start things up again...

The solution is to remove all that from her world altogether. A woman needs to miss you and notice you've gone. One of the benefits of disappearing altogether from her life is she gets curious and starts to wonder what you're doing.

But more importantly, it allows you to stop placing so much energy outwards towards her. You get to focus more on your life, and creating a life free from the ties of her and how much you've lost. Focusing on you is the most fundamental thing you can do for yourself right now.

hope this can help you :)

wiam.

[wiamb]

just agree with the breakup ! AGREE ! don't beg her to stay I know cause I'm a girl!

just agree with her and tell her that you understand ..and completely ignore her for a while ok

and show her that you're doing just fine without her .. go out with your mates and have fun try to forget about her .. shell wonder why you're not beggin her to stay, that's what she didn't expect .. be positive around her and just live your life and have fun

you'll see!

[lion214]

Okay I'm going to be brutally honest. This girl seems like she has some underlying issues. In girl speak when we say we just want to be single; that mean we have 3 other sex dates when I'm done with your ass. I'm sure she's great to be around and lots of fun too, but she's not intrested by the sounds of it, so move on see other people and if things spark up again, great! and if not, then at least your still friends!

[jj1990]

Get away from her immediately, no contact, forget her! I've had this happen to me enough times to make me an expert. When a girl says things like " I just want be single" "I'm not ready for a relationship right now, I rushed in" "I need to be independent, start living for me and make friends" " I just want to be friends" IT IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF CRAP! Girls say that sh*t to try and throw guys off. Honestly It all simply translates to " I want to be single, do what I want when I want, with who ever I want, I don't want to be with you right now." THEY SIMPLY WANT TO GO OUT WITH OTHER MEN! In many cases they have some lined up already. Take it from me, I had it happen too many damn times. Honestly, your just the rebound guy that's there if something doesn't go right AND the worst thing of it all is that you give her the power of knowing your there when she needs you. No man, screw her. I know its hard to resist her beauty and charm but keep in mind its all apart of the act. It's important to accept that. Women like that are usually very disloyal.

[ladsin]

bro, you gotta chill, just give her a leash you sound clingy and if anything that's gonna turn her away from you... its what we call cradle puppy death syndrome

[Anonymous]

I believe that if you give her time and her space and seem interested in other stuff, she will ask herself where did you go and will start to miss you. like for example, instead of seeing her 2 times a week see her once and if she asks you to hang out tell her sorry youve got other plans, but still show you care for her in a way

..hope this helps!

[meccamega]

This is usually what guys say all the time