What are signs that a guy secretly cares about you?

[Alice2398]

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I just want to know the difference because he said but only reason he was ever nice to me was because we work together. I want to know if he actually goes out his way for me because he cares or because he's just a nice Co worker.

couples signs I've gotten that he turely cared about me was when he sees me smoking and gets upset at me for it and when I told him my manger threatened to sack me, he looked kinda gutted about it. I know it sounds bad but sometimes I smoke just to see if he cares.

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He smokes on a occasion as well by the way so he's being a bit hypocritical when telling me off for doing the same as him

[designer1]

You catch him gazing at you from a far or... up close tbh. You catch him finding many excuses to talk to you, making space in his schedule to talk to u. He’ll lean towards you when your talking. He’ll defend you to others almost every time. He’ll act different around you than with his other friends. His friends will act weird around you, like giggle and egg him on and stuff

[BrookeAshlen]

I think when he goes out if his way for you, doesn't matter how big or small. If he affects your life in some positive way, he cares about you.

[MrCryptic]

I'm concerned for some of my co-workers health but it's not that I like them like that it's just being a general caring person. You can see if it's JUST you he makes those concerns about or if there's others. You could tell him you like that he cares to see what he does. If you like the man tell him verbally.

[Alice2398]

Everyone else smokes and he used to but only on a occasion now and he doesn't care but when I do it he tells me to stop

[Avinashtrini]

Tbh just test it... Have a convo about going out on a Friday. And ask him his plans.. then tell him you were gonna hang out but your having a bad day, if he gives up his plans to hang out with you then you would know for 100% that he's into you.

[Alice2398]

by the way can I just say the suit your wearing in your pic is looking sharp. I just saw it and felt I had to praise you on that. Also thanks for advice ☺️ lol

[Avinashtrini]

Awe thank you, youve got beautiful eyes, but I'm sure you already know that🙈, and y'know if you ever wanna talk or want advice just message me.

[Alice2398]

Thanks that's very nice of you to say ☺️

[VIVANT]

I agree with both of you on each other !

😊

[SelfishGuy]

He probably has a soft corner for you, but with the information you gave it is hard to tell if he cares about you as a little sister or a friend. But I can assure you we men tend to be protective of the women we like, but that doesn't always mean we want sex from them.

[Knighted2170]

It would be similar to what you would do for someone you care about.

It’s not just the smoking. Some people just have strong opinions on smoking. Look for things that he doesn’t do for anyone else at work. Also, look for him going out of his way to help or assist.

A cruel and risky test is mentioning a date with some other guy. Then watching the reaction. I don’t recommend it, but I’ve seen people use it. Most unsuccessfully.

[MusicMayhem]

Screw "signs" they don't do anything but make you overthink. If you like him go talk to him and ask him out.

[BlackRocket556]

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[VIVANT]

Agree!!

[VIVANT]

Also bc people show things so very differently

There are ways people _should_ act if they lke you but most people don’t lol

[MusicMayhem]

@VIVANT it's not even that. It grinds my gears when guys are like "She did this and that blah blah does she like me?" Like go for a girl you actually like, not just for one because she likes you, is giving signs, and is perceived to be easier to attract.

[VIVANT]

Oh I assume people want to know if someone likes them bc they are interested — not just bc they think the other might be

That’s a bit odd 🤨

[MusicMayhem]

@VIVANT No what I mean is it's more a guy notices a girl giving him signs and only then approaches. So he's letting her be in control rather than going for a girl he likes.

[VIVANT]

Maybe he’s also interested Though

I don’t see the issue if he actually likes her

Everyone is affected by someone acting interested... whether it’s bc they give signs or ask you out

If a ask a guy out and he is influenced by that or vice versa I don’t think that’s bad

What’s bad is liking someone but doing nothing bc you’re not sure how they feel

Just go for it and see what happens

But we’re all influenced by people’a behavior. That isn’t them controlling things it’s just being human

[MusicMayhem]

@VIVANT it is bad when you later find out he wasn't that into you and dated you because it was easy or convenient.

I guess my point is if more guys were confident and learnt how to approach and attract girls, they wouldn't need to rely on signs from girls who like them and they could be more in control of their dating life. They could choose who to be in a relationship with rather than settling because they'd have more options.

[VIVANT]

You can approach people and still be unsure how they feel

I don’t wonder how a guy feels until after I appeach him- until then why would I think of care he self own way or the other

I think people look for signs when there is already a connection and this is normally after approaching

Also no one is in complete control... guys don’t always ask women out and women don’t always ask guys out. I don’t think askong is the big deal it’s what you do when you like someone regardless how you came to be connected to them

Though I DO think you have more control if you approach people - this goes for both sexes though so no sex is always going to be the one who Approaches, but being willing to is best

Still you can appeach a person and have good technique and they may still not be inro you... and you won’t know for sure which is usually when people look for signs

The answer hasn’t approached anyone though
I think she should ask him out and the only reason she’s looking for signs is bc she already likes him

I don’t know if people loook for signs from people they don’t like... this is news to me. Usually when someone is asking aboit signs it’s bc they already like the person

As far as someone staring just bc they got A sign, I mean ok it can still work out... as long as someone makes a move , I don’t see the harm in trying just bc someone likes you

Most dating doesn’t turn into relationships anyhow and there is no pure way to like a person when you barley know them

Everyone is just going along until they decide it matters

[VIVANT]

i also don’t see the difference in someone saying yes bc they were asked out and someone making ankle bc they got a sign.

If being in control means asking people out then what about the pweosn being asked out?

[MusicMayhem]

@VIVANT you can't truly know if someone likes you. All the more reason not to give a shit about signs. You can't sway someone in 5 secs from your looks or a cheesy pickup line. They key is too keep them interested enough for long enough to spend time with them and gradually escalate the flirting getting touchy, kissing etc.

Also if you approach a stranger in the street you might only have a few seconds before you miss your chance. So I'm short, don't worry about if they like you and just go for it! That way you rob your brain of time to think of reasons not to approach and you go in fearless (initially at least).

[VIVANT]

Oh sure I don’t disagree with any of that😊

[cashbackkid]

He'll go out of his way to see you during the day if he can (walk by your office/workspace/etc.). He'll offer to help you with projects or work-related stuff. He'll look at you frequently, especially when you're talking. He'll laugh at your jokes or tell you some of his. Most importantly, if you say you need to talk about something, he will drop whatever he is doing and listen. I'm just listing stuff I do with my coworker than I'm interested in. I'm probably leaving some stuff out.

[djmzes]

Sign or not
Ask him

[Nik1hil]

Get nice lip gloss.
Take breath mints.. Make him take some..
And then kiss him..
And see how he reacts

[Anonymous]

Just ask, if he would like to hang out after work.

Ask for some help after work, you know he is good at.

Yes, it sounds from your stories, that he is interested in you.

This is, if you actually interested and he is single.

You could wait and see where it will go, but usually it end up not where you want it.

[Ex0ticButterz]

He randomly does things for you. Or checks up on you and basically stalks you but not in a creepy way. He'll view every post you make on Instagram if you are upset he's always the first to message you. Things like that :)

[Logorithim]

Spends lots of time around you or texting you. Takes interest in you and your life. Smiles at you a lot, is friendly.

[Slim57]

Tell him you want to wait til marriage to have sex, if they stick around they care

[ChocolateCheesecake]

Yes!!! Truth

[VIVANT]

@ChocolateCheesecake

What about people who don’t want to wait ten years to have sex? They can still care lol 🤷‍♀️

[ChocolateCheesecake]

@VIVANT that's true too lol

[VIVANT]

@ChocolateCheesecake

It’s all true 😁😁

[A-man-22]

If you told him about something important you are doing he will ask how it went.

Defends you in arguments even if you don't have the same views.

Gives words of encouragement occasionally so that they actually mean something instead of being a nicety.

[AriesMale]

- He’s there and available
- lingers around
- mentions you
- loud voice near so you can hear conversations.
- overprotective
- overly touchy
- texts semi regular

[WalterBlack]

If you are both at a party or a large gathering and some random guy bothers you, the guy that cares about you will instantly appear at your side.

[AmourHoney]

guys that have to keep it a secret that they care about a girl are not worth it

[Sabrina_gomez]

HE ACTUALLY TALKS TO YOU
and when you say hi he says its backkk!!! :'(

[WhereAmI]

Still ignoring you, eh?

[Sabrina_gomez]

@WhereAmI yep *rolls eyes* smh well he surely doesn't know what he's missin😂

[Pinay_ako]

Offers you food, ride, his time and remembers minute details about you.

[JosyJosy]

When he does the same thing you'd do when you secretly care about someone

[Gopnik]

being overly protective, jealousy, stuff like that.

[Gopnik]

i still miss my ex, this is why if someone touches her or tries to take advantage of her i'll beat the shit out of them.

[amberstrawberry]

he will step out of his way to go through anything for you

[Bhragu]

While talking to the guy, look up towards the right of his shoulder. If you see an alien spaceship flying by then that's the sign that the guy secretly loves you.