Intimidation vs. disinterest in a girl?

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Guys, how do you act around a girl when you are INTIMIDATED by her (as in you like you but are afraid to approach her for fear of rejection, shyness on your part, or a number of other things) VS. YOU NOT LIKING HER? Are these signs DIFFERENT? how?!

GIrls you are welcome to chime in, too:)

thanks in advance for this VERY helpful advice as I can not figure out this guy if he likes me or not and---yea yea you know that deal. =)

Mystique01 · Accepted Answer

Good question! I'm not a guy, but I've often wondered this myself.

I can offer a little bit of help however since I've kind of gone through the same thing.

A guy who is INTIMIDATED but interested:

-He probably won't go up to you to strike up a conversation (because he's shy/intimidated by you), but you'll kind of sense that he wants to say something to you

-You will probably catch him/sense him staring at you from afar (all the time), but if you go up to him or near where he is, all of a sudden he won't be looking at you

-If/when you say hello to him, he won't be able to keep eye contact with you. This MAY come across as disinterest, but think about it.if a guy is acting this aloof towards a girl, and you're nice to him, why would he have any reason to be mean to you unless he likes you but is afraid of rejection? Unless he's a real JERK! LOL!

-He may never actually tell you that he likes you, but you'll hear "things" from either his friends, or people around you that he likes you.

-Once you talk with him more, and or flirt with him more, you'll sense that he relaxes a little bit. He seems to loosen up MORE around you.and may strike up conversations with you, or will invite you places.

-He may tease you about stupid things. If he didn't like you, why would he even go through the trouble of giving you ANY time of day at all?

Signs a guy is DISinterested in you:

-You don't sense any "nervousness" about him. Why would he be nervous? He doesn't like you like that!

-When you talk/flirt with him, you notice that he seems more UNCOMFORTABLE or wants to leave the area. If he liked you, he would be more COMFORTABLE with you flirting with him and would actually welcome it!

-He can usually look you in the eye with no problem. But if you're coming on TOO strong, he'll probably avoid eye contact so as to NOT give you the wrong idea.

-You won't notice or sense him looking at you from afar

-He won't be around you or your friends

-He'll never call or text you

-He'll rarely try to strike up conversations with you

-You WON'T hear from other people that "he likes you"

-If you try to invite him somewhere because you think he's "shy" and needs encouragement, he will either NOT come, or he'll act very guarded, quiet, or just not into it when he's around you

-You'll just get the feeling that he's not as into you as you are into him

I hope this helped!

Trust me, I've dealt with this scenario on both hands for quite some time! If you sense that this guy likes you, then he probably does. Trust your instinct ladies! If he's just shy, I would say try flirting a little more. Make good eye contact with him. Smile. See what he does! If he eventually makes a move towards you, then you know that he likes you back. If he doesn't make a move, or if he seems very wishy-washy (you just can't figure him out!), then it's safe to say that he either doesn't like you, or doesn't like you as much as you like him.

oolbl549 · Accepted Answer

When I'm intimidated, I will often look at her from afar, even going so far as to catch her eye once in a while, but will never approach at these times. I will seldom make an effort to get closer or start conversation. If I'm in a conversation I will speak in short phrases, and won't follow up on he conversation, leaving a lot of awkward silences. I'll also avoid eye contact, and sit/stand not facing her if I can do so without being obvious or rude.

Whn I don't like a girl, I'll never look at her unless I then want to speak with her or she is the center of attention (same as I would look at a guy). Conversations will run much smoother (though I'm still not good at keeping them going) but I may start rambling on about something, which I can only do if I'm comfortable with them.

Mosachu · Accepted Answer

If I'm intimidated, I probably would look at the girl but not say a word. If I were to talk to the ntimidating girl, I would probably be really nervous and either be really talkative but lame or be really quiet out of fear of sounding like an idiot.

Sorry to say this, but personally I think the signs that a guy likes you can only be clear if you are friends with them. otherwise, the signs of whether or not they like you can resemble each other.

If I like a girl, I would call her, text her, f-book/myspace her or talk to her. In conversation, I would just talk to her about anything. If I didn't like a girl, then I would not pay much attention to her and not look at her and overall just not seem enthused by her.

ncstrike · Answer

ok I'm a guy that has a lot of intimidation problems and if I like some one ill glance out them more then normal. and if your talking and he keeps his distance then might be INTIMIDATED.or if one on one things are just kinda seems like he is having problems talking it could be that too. because in a group I'm funny but one on one its hard for me to talk

cavalier · Answer

I don't agree with mystique wholeheartedly. Things like this can get more compex depending on how complex the girl is in regards to relationships.

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