Is he just playing with my feelings?

[silkysmile]

I'm actually very nervous of opening up about my issue since it's my first time publicly talking about the things that feel heavy on my heart. Usually I would go to friends but this time there's noone I can turn to.

I've been talking to a nice man whom I knew months ago but recently got into touch with. He's very-how can I say this? Attractive? And has quite the amount of female audience every goodlooking man would have. I, at other hand, am far from what one would consider a perfect match for him. I usually don't fall for the popular type since most of the time it's a big turnoff for me but after hearing his values in life, i developed interest.

He told me that he liked me and that he wouldn't want to lose me at any circumstances. I loved the little things about him and somehow we both felt the same way until I got anonymous hate on social media. Girls were suddenly mocking me for my smile and the way I look. At first I didn't care until it got intense and I reached out to him but he never really cared and told me that I shouldn't take it too close to my heart.

Recently he got asked if he was talking to THAT girl which was directed to me and he said yes, which I'm glad he admitted to. But on the question, if he's interested in a girl, he denied it and I felt like my whole illusion of him cracked as a whole. It hurts me because he made me look dumb and a lot of girls decided to laugh about it.

I don't know what to do.
I don't know if I should respond to his texts anymore or even reach out at all?

[Baggz]

Your situation doesn't exactly give us an entire, clear picture about what kind of relationship you have with this guy.

Have you both engaged in any intimate activities like what couples normally do (i. e., dating, holding hands, kissing, sex, etc)?

Liking someone and being interested in someone are two different things.

Maybe the guy likes you as a friend and doesn't want to lose you as a friend?

As for the side comments people make about you, you should ignore it. It's simple that haters will hate and jealous that he prefers spending time with you than with them. That still doesn't explain the relationship you both have. Any guy friend, a woman has, is able to say that sort of advice.

As a guy, you don't need other women to validate or certify anything about you. Do you and what makes you happy.

Also, if you haven't told him you're interested, maybe it is time to let him know how you truly feel about the guy and just be upfront about it. If it doesn't pan out the way you want it to be, there must be a grander design waiting for you over the horizon.

[silkysmile]

He calls me his girl but tells everyone else that he’s not interested in anyone. I feel like he’s embarrassed of me considering how he told me that he had something with a model which was unnecessary information. He asked me to meet him but I don’t know. Shouldn’t he be proud of me?

[Baggz]

He probably just meant he is not interested in other women, other than you.

There are guys, who are horrible in expressing their real feelings towards their better half.

Women are more expressive than men. That said, you should meet him and express how you feel and how you interpretted the response he made, on social media, rather than bottling it up. Having a clear and open-communication is one of many foundations of having a healthy, strong, and long-lasting relationship, especially when the relationship is still in its budding stages.

[Baggz]

I'm not sure if "proud" is the term you were looking for, in this given situation; however, not all men like to flaunt or brag, to the world, who they're dating or in a relationship with. Some guys may be embarrassed and some are not that expressive. So where does your man belong to? Again, only you know him better than any of us do and only you are able to find out, if you are willing to address the situation. How? Meet up with him and talk about it. He's already making an effort. Ball is in your court. Take up his offer and address it or run away from the problem and allow it to consume you.

Remember this may just be a misinterpretation in your part.

[Losalt]

Hum, my approach would be.
Invite him for a coffee or something.
Sit down with him and tell him that the above thing really hurt your feelings.
Don't accuse him of anything, but ask him why he decided to behave like that.
Then judge what to do next based on his reply.
If he wants you a girlfriend perhaps tell him that you'll want his word that he won't do those things that he knows hurts your feelings again.
If he wants you just as a friend, then enjoy spending time with him, but keep that in mind.

Generally speaking honesty and good communication is the best approach in my view.
Is he toying with your feelings?
Perhaps.
Perhaps not.
Either way I don't think you don't know enough to draw conclusions yet.

[Luvsmybabydoll]

You have not mentioned anything intimate for the whole lot of this have you met in person. He said he liked you and probably meant he wouldn't want to loose you as a friend. You have developed feelings for him and he did not. only stay in contact if you can just be friends

[Drowningkingfish]

He may be interested in you, but resigned from flirting from you because he didn’t want to foil his reputation with the other popular girls and now he is denying having talked to you.

Unless he somehow apologises and doesn’t begin behaving rudely to you, i’d find someone else that is worth your time and seems compatible to be around.

[PrincessGrail]

How far have you guys gone sexually?

[obi-wan_kenobi]

He's gay

[silkysmile]

I doubt so.
He's very prideful of his masculinity and barely has any experience with men.

[Anonymous]

Run away from him