Girls: Do you ever lose interest in a guy you like if you haven't seen him in a while?

[Anonymous]

I met a new coworker last fall and was instantly attracted to her. We developed instant rapport and even a friendship on her first day. We went on one great coffee date but she turned me down for a second date. In the few times we've seen each other in the following months, we have been flirting and teasing each other both in person and via text messaging. She's rather shy but she was always smiling and making prolonged eye contact with me as well as a lot of giggling. I really enjoy her company but I haven't been able to see her much in the past month and likely won't in the coming months. I sense she likes me but would she lose interest in me over time?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, yes it's possible. I can't speak for all girls but I know that in the past, I had tried having a relationship with a guy who I didn't get to see very often and it was really hard on both of us. Text/calling each other is good for awhile but I'd say try not to let it go too long without actually hanging out with her cause it makes things really tough.

If you really won't be able to see her much in the next few months, at least make sure she knows that you're still interested in her and you do want to hang out when you can, that way she won't think she's just wasting her time.

[62893]

If I don't see the guy I like, my interest is still there...just the intensity decreases. For example, there was this one guy I liked in obe of my classes. I thought about him all day, everyday. The semester ended and I never saw him again. Over the next few months I still thought about him but it was more like once a day/everyday to about once a week to now about once/twice a month (and its been 9 months since I last saw him. If he were to ask me out for coffee or something today, I'd say yes. He's still the great guy I met months ago even if I'm not as crazy over him as I used to be.

[yagurlnira768]

For me Yes...unless I some how communicated with him...but yeahh.

In you case...she might...because it seems she might not want a "relationship" with you if she denied a second date...but she still talked to you over time so she may like you but really doesn't want a relationship...especially that she is gone now...she could loose some feelings.

[Asker]

About a month ago I asked out for coffee again, she said she would but had plans with her family on the day I chose. We're both busy with school and we have shifts on different days, making it so difficult to see her in person. I know if I don't make a move soon, she'll lose interest all together. If she rejects me again, then I can move with no regrets.

[yagurlnira768]

well try...but I am glad you have an open mind about views from both sides.

[Anonymous]

I would deff keep in touch with her because as long as you are still in her life she will always be interested. As soon as I guy stops talking to a girl and they never see them any more is where things get difficult because there will always be other guys in her life and eventually a girl will forget about a guy if he leaves her completely.

[darlanoy0510]

Keep in touch with her. Even if you're not dating but if she thinks you'll interesting than you will never leave her thought. That if she is not talking to other guys.

[Anonymous]

If I'm still talking to the guy and it isn't boring, I typically won't lose interest, unless someone else comes along (sorry...). However, seeing you would make me feel a lot more "tied" to you, if that makes sense.

[K8888]

No, UNLESS another guy I start to like gets introduced into the picture!