Did this guy mean that he's not interested in me anymore?

[Anonymous]

This is a conversation between me and this guy. I'm the one talking in the blue the previous texts were me saying that I hopend that he's not sick. So I asked him what was is it then and this is what he replied with. I haven't responded to his message the last thing I said was that I'm not contacting him anymore.

[Aethereal]

One of the rules I live by : "No one is ever too busy, if they care they will make time for you". There are 1440 minutes in a day. Taking 5-10 of those minutes to at least apologize and schedule a time to chat later really shouldn't be difficult, unless there is a serious emergency with the person (or someone close to them). Personally, if I'm interested in someone, I'll even slack off on work (and I have) to write. So I don't see why I'm not at least worth 5 minutes before bed to the other person (if they really were busy throughout the day).

[akihon]

For what it's worth I don't see why you're on here asking about it when you've made a choice to not accept what he said and not contact him anymore.

It might have been that he was busy with family, it might have been that you were only dating and not serious enough yet so he was playing it cool and not being too pushy, only contact every few days or such.

Either way it Rey doesn't matter, you said your not going to contact him anymore and there's nothing more to it

[Asker]

I’m asking because people are saying I’m needy. And that I shouldn’t have said what I said to him.

[akihon]

Well that's really a bit harsh and unnecessary I don't see there being neediness in your message and I also don't see there being a problem with wanting to know where you both stand, personally I prefer that with any relationship to be clear where both stand. I'd caution you then for listening further to these people saying you are needy in future it would seem to me they have ulterior motives to say that when it seems to me clarity is all your after

[Anonymous]

Try not to overreact, it's easy to do when you haven't heard from the person you're interested in for a few days. People do get busy around the holidays, it's expected. If you regret the situation and telling him you won't be contacting him anymore, give it a couple of days and reach out. Otherwise, move on.
Some guys and girls for that matter just aren't that great at texting. You know how many times I've read a text and even came up with a response in my head, but then totally forgot to actually send it? A lot.

[DiamondQueenOfAce]

You know that some people don’t text others while they’re with other people? The guy said he is interested so better take his word for that.

[Alanfra]

By your responses to people on here trying to help you it sounds like you’re pretty needy.
You’ve made an assumption that because he hasn’t contacted you for a couple of days then he’s not interested.

You’re making a mountain out of a molehill and actually I wouldn’t be surprised now if he truly isn’t interested in you because of the way you’ve spoken to him

[Asker]

How do I sound needy? You really need to get a clue because clearly you are just a troll. My response to people makes me sound needy? Are you slow? Seems like it.

[Asker]

At 55 you should know how a relationship works. You sound clueless to be so old. When a guy is interested he’ll want to talk to you.

[Alanfra]

It’s probably a good idea to re-read all of the responses to your question, then more importantly, read your negative responses.
If you’re open minded enough and want to grow as a person you will see your neediness for yourself, however at present your blinkered outlook on this situation really shows a level of anger which is really not very intelligent for someone who is asking for help.

[LovelyVenus]

It's negative because I said I'm not talking to him again? Really? Are you really 55? Or just some kid trolling? Neediness? I haven't replied to this man and it's been two days. You can't comphrend what you read and don't know what it means to be needy. I'm needy because I said he's not interested? If a person doesn't talk to you then clearly they aren't interested that's common sense. So if that's me being needy then fine.

[Alanfra]

It’s negative because you’re insulting people who are trying to help you by trying to tell you what we see.

We all live separately around the world and we’re all commenting on your neediness because that’s what we’re seeing based on your behaviour and the information that you’ve given us and your aggressive name calling responses to us all.

You talk about it being “common sense” that someone you liked would want to talk to you within a couple of days and yet it’s clear that you like this guy and yet you’re not talking to him, where’s your common sense?

[LovelyVenus]

Oh and I'm not being insulted? Being called needy when I'm not? Yeah, whatever. Now you are asking why am I not talking to him after you called me needy? Wow, now I'm confused. Wouldn't that make me more needy? Which one is it sir? Lol troll...

[LovelyVenus]

Needy? You don't know how easy it is for me to get another guy. I always have men after me. So calling me needy is pure stupidity. I actually liked this guy which is the difference. I have no reason to be needy for this man. You don't know anything about me to judge me.

[Alanfra]

Your level of thinking is very poor, it’s not at all needy to contact someone after a few days to say “Hi, hows things?”

People have busy lives and your guy friend is probably just busy, as he told you.

What makes you needy is that you’ve messaged this guy at 6am in the morning to give him the ultimatum that you’re not going to contact him again and now you’re on this site asking for advice from good people and you’re not listening to the advice that people are telling you.

You keep going on about common sense and people contacting you if they’re interested.

You’re clearly interested in this guy, but you’re not contacting him, why not?

[Alanfra]

You also talk about judging you, you need to take a good look in the mirror as you’re judging everyone on here as trolls when they don’t give you the answer that you want.

You’re very disrespectful of the people on here as you have no idea what any of us have been through in our lives to make us who we are.

You should be ashamed of yourself for talking disrespectfully to people who are trying to help

[LovelyVenus]

I'm very disrespectful? Yet here YOU are judging a complete stranger online insane lol. Take your OWN advice and look in the mirror you are not perfect get off your pedestal. Just because you are older doesn't mean you can belittle people.

[Alanfra]

Lol, nice attempt at trying to play the victim.

You’re clearly a Narcissist (Google it) taking your anger out on innocent people who are trying to help you and disrespecting them by insulting them and calling them names when you don’t get the answer that you want... all to make you feel better and feeling no so worthless because a guy you liked hasn’t contacted you in your allocated timeframe.

[Alanfra]

I look forward to receiving your next insulting response

[LovelyVenus]

It's sad that a man your age sits online badmouthing strangers. At your age, you should be giving real advice and not judging people. But there are old people who are clueless so I'm not surprised.

[Alanfra]

Everyone on here tonight has tried to give you real advice, myself included and you’ve called us all trolls because you didn’t get the answers that you wanted.

I feel very sorry for you

[LovelyVenus]

You are nothing but a troll first you attack me and call me needy because I told a guy he wasn't interested. Then you turn around and ask me why I haven't contacted the guy. Not only are you a troll but also bipolar.

[LovelyVenus]

Why would I talk to a guy who isn't interested in me? You don't have common sense go away troll.

[Alanfra]

Lol Just re read your last message...

YOU told a guy that HE wasn’t interested in you...

How do you know this?

[LovelyVenus]

How do I know this? Because when a guy is interested he talks to you.

[LovelyVenus]

You're a man! If you like a woman wouldn't you talk to her? Think! It's not really that hard to understand.

[LovelyVenus]

A man who is interested in a woman will talk to her. I can't believe people really can't comprehend this. Anybody who has ever been interested in or liked someone would know this!

[Alanfra]

I understand exactly what you’re saying...

but it was only two days that he didn’t contact you...

over Christmas, the busiest time of year for lots of people

So you decided that his time was up and YOU told HIM that he wasn’t interested...

And talking of your “common sense” why didn’t you contact him?

[LovelyVenus]

Did you actually read the last thing he said to me? Why would I contact him? I'm not going to be interested in a guy who isn't interested in me.

[Alanfra]

This is the thing, you don’t know that he isn’t interested in you.

You’ve told him that he isn’t interested in you!!!

Why would you do that?

He told you that he was and that he had family visiting

You haven’t responded to him, so he now thinks that you’ve dumped him, which is why he hasn’t contacted you.

You’ve caused all of the drama by sending your message, you’ve completely overreacted

[Alanfra]

You need to contact him, meet up and apologise to him

If he’s a good guy, he’ll agree to meet, but if he doesn’t respond then you need to take responsibility for your actions.

You’ve caused this trouble, not him

[LovelyVenus]

Yeah, I actually did respond I told him that it's called not giving a fuck and that it takes like a second to text someone and I said peace. I'm not going to be a fool ok? I understand what you mean and I appreciate you trying to help me. But it's just insane for me to keep this up. I'm not going to beg a guy to talk to me when he's not interested. It doesn't take long to send someone a text. It's fine really I'll find someone else.

[Alanfra]

Ok, the world is a busy place now and people need time and their own space,

you have to be more patient and not have deadlines in your head that guys have to respond by or they’re not interested

[LovelyVenus]

When you like a woman do you go days without talking to her? Ask yourself that question.

[Alanfra]

Yes, however my life is not the average persons life.

Maybe your guy was just simply trying to play it cool

[Liz_thorne]

Sis, he was busy. There's nothing more annoying then being needy about text messages

[Asker]

Needy? Can you read?

[Liz_thorne]

If you can't deal with not getting any answers for a few days that's somewhat needy

[Asker]

I haven’t texted this guy period and it’s been two days I’m not needy.

[Liz_thorne]

He didn't answer you for two days and you infer that he's not interested anymore. Jeez that's dramatic.

[Asker]

If a person really likes you they wouldn't go days without texting you.

[LovelyVenus]

Needy? You don't know how easy it is for me to get another guy. I always have men after me. So calling me needy is pure stupidity. I actually liked this guy which is the difference. I have no reason to be needy for this man. You don't know anything about me to judge me.

[Liz_thorne]

Just because you can get other guys doesn't mean that your reaction was justified

[LovelyVenus]

So if a guy doesn't talk to you for days you wouldn't think he wasn't interested? When a man likes a woman he talks to her.

[Liz_thorne]

W8 are you still the asker?

Also, no, if a guy doesn't talk to me for a few days I'll assume that he's probably just busy. Other people have private lives, I can't expect anyone to be at my disposal 7 days of the week.

[Cryostatic]

"It's called being busy".

Nah bro, it's called not giving a fuck. It takes like, ten seconds to text someone.

[Asker]

If he didn’t give a fuck he wouldn’t have said he’s interested.

[Cryostatic]

Yeah, sure. You run with that.

[Asker]

So I shouldn’t believe him when he says he’s interested ok.

[LovelyVenus]

I actually texted him what you said thanks lol.

[MzAsh]

His attitude sucks. He’s already getting defensive. You can do better.

[MzAsh]

But you also look desperate in your text telling him he’s not interested and you won’t contact him anymore. Don’t say it. Just do it.

[Asker]

Why comment if you aren’t actually going to answer the question? How am I desperate because I said he’s not interested? You clearly don’t know what desperate means. And I haven’t contacted him at all.

[MzAsh]

He’s not interested enough. If you have to ask, you already have the answer.

[Asker]

I guess you missed the part where he said he’s interested.

[MzAsh]

No I didn’t miss it. He’s saying it, sure, but is he showing it?

[Asker]

Ok, so I shouldn't believe him when he says he's interested thanks.

[MzAsh]

You just gotta make sure he’s proving it with this actions too.

[Sapio]

look.. it's holidays and he was busy with his family.. he didn't do it in purpose, and if he wasn't interested in you, he wouldn't explain to you what was going on.. don't be too needy

[Asker]

Needy? You are obviously retarded.

[maxvz1]

This is probably the most annoying text someone can send, people can have a life outside of texting you

[Asker]

Obviously you missed the point go away troll.

[maxvz1]

No I got the point, I just think you only wanna hear answers that you like

[Asker]

If a person likes you they will want to talk to you I think that's common sense. I'm not needy I haven't replied to this guy and it's been two days. You clearly don't know what needy is.

[LovelyVenus]

Needy? You don't know how easy it is for me to get another guy. I always have men after me. So calling me needy is pure stupidity. I actually liked this guy which is the difference. I have no reason to be needy for this man. You don't know anything about me to judge me.

[Anonymous]

Did you say anything before that? His reasoning is pretty normal, I would not think that he lost interest in you.