Guys, Why does he take ages to reply?

[Anonymous]

Hi!
I have met this really nice guy a couple of months ago, but we've been seeing each other for like 3 weeks. At the beginning, before our first date, he would text a lot, we would have a very fluid conversation. But after our first date he started taking hours (never less than 3) to reply.
So I'm very confused. We have had 3 dates and he is really nice, we have really nice conversations and when face-to-face he is always the one who proposes the next date (and goes through with it) He only cancelled once, but immediately proposed another date. I don't know, it looks like it takes him longer and longer and longer each time. I don't get it. But then he is the one to start the conversation, with simple messages that makes clear that he's thinking of me...
When he's with me, he doesn't look at his phone much, but I think that when you're really into someone you want to talk to them a lot, don't you? :\
I am one to hate texting, but I understand that nowadays is an indicative of how into you he is. And I wouldn't care if he was like this with everyone else, but I don't know if it's just me or what. I feel it's very early to ask this question without looking like a crazy.
Guys, does the amount of texts represent how into the girl are you?
Thanks! <3

Updates

+1 y

Well, here’s an update.. he ghosted me haha

But hey, good riddance

[SuperManiac]

I deliberately avoided texting as much as possible as well as phone calls. It's like I don't want the girl to fall for the imagination of who I am (or me for her) or get into conflicts that we wouldn't if we were face-to-face. I want her each early interaction we have to provide maximum "data" so that whatever feelings we develop for each other are reasonably accurate and true.

That said, I made up for it by dating the girl almost every single day. I kept the texts to when we would next meet, and I was okay with just meeting directly after work without getting dressed and ready for it.

[SuperManiac]

[...] I want [each] early interaction we have to provide maximum "data" so that whatever feelings we develop for each other are reasonably accurate and true. [...]

I get a little more comfortable with texting once we've had lots of time together and have become serious. But early on I avoid texting like the plague.

[SuperManiac]

From my standpoint at least, texting is a *horrible* way to bond with a person. I rely so much on body language, facial expressions, proper delivery of punchlines for a joke. I also have no charm over dry text. I'm much more charming in person. :-D So I don't want a girl to fall for me over text. Chances are that if she does, she has a different idea of who I am than who I really am.

[SuperManiac]

Sorry, I kind of just went into what I do. But I don't know what other guys do. I just wanted to provide my rationale for why I avoid texting and aren't so responsive on dates. There might some chance your guy is similar.

[ecfresh]

Texts don’t indicate how much a guy is into you. It’s likely that he is dating other people so he can’t reply instantly to your text. As you said he’s great one on one so enjoy the times you spend in person. When is your next date?

[Asker]

Thank you for replying!
He suggested to meet this week. But we haven’t set a date yet...

[TahoeHiker]

Very well written piece you wrote.
Personally no its not an indication. Especially if your texts are while he's working. Because two years ago when i first my girlfriend, I was replying back in minutes. Sure my job suffered for a month or two. But then eventually its time to not push the envelope. Same with her. It sucks when there are long gaps between texts. I think he's great for proposing the next date. And only cancelled once. Good luck

[Avicenna]

Just communicate well with him and don't overanalyze things

[Usernamesrdumb]

Lol text too soon, he looks desperate, text not soon enough whats wrong. Welcome to being a man.