Why do some people think bragging/showing off is attractive?

[beebella]

Hate to break it to you guys, but it's not attractive.

I know why

I don't know why

I find bragging attractive

[akihon]

I've done it in the past and found that it worked for me, first I got the attention and then when I was actually talking to the woman one to one she found out that I actually wasn't like her first thoughts about me at all and she was surprised by that.

So a lot of men do it because they too know that regardless of how things work out they get some attention good or had it doesn't really matter because it's attention that matters, after that you are able to clear up what that other person thinks about you by being more honest and again surprisingly many women seem to be attracted to the more honest version and attracted to that surprise that they find out out you aren't like they thought to begin with.

Now of course this applies in a general sense to more younger people, as I've aged and meet more people I find also that as I've accumulated wealth and status I tend to talk about it irl far less than here.

That's usually because people can see it so there isn't a need to talk about it and because it's actually really uncouth to flaunt your wealth, but talking about her adds context, talking about it as a mature adult irl is really boorish and a major eye roller.

So most mature people just don't talk about themselves in a bragging way because they don't have to and don't want to and they know that others have heard it so many times from so many other people in their lives they just switch off

[morrowlow]

I never do that and that's one of the greatest, most interesting things about me.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I chose I know why, but really, I THINK I know why.

It's usually an overcompensation for insecurity and low confidence. It's a way of "faking it till you make it" or sometimes even just lying to oneself to feel better. Usually, they are trying really hard to convince themselves that they are all that.

I think with some guys, it's a macho thing as well. Personally, I've never been attracted to the macho attitude and don't understand why some girls seem to like it. It has always come off as assholish, arrogant, and full of shit to me. I guess some people can't see through it and think it's legitimate. It's also rampant with high school age kids, and so it's usually a sign a guy hasn't outgrown that mentality.

[Jaye234]

I think people brag because they think they have to in order for people to like and respect them. That they think they aren't good enough.
Then again sometimes I think people brag because they really really love themselves and know others should too

[WhistleForTheChoir]

I think it's because women don't recognize the achievements of unattractive men. Generally, we as human beings are biased, and we judge the character of the opposite gender dependent upon whether we are attracted to that person or not.

Here's the thing, if a hot guy is bragging or even putting another man down, then it's 'confidence' and most women will say it's attractive (assuming they are attracted to that guy.)

However, I'm not attractive. I've been accused of bragging, when I wasn't saying anything at all. I'm a short guy, so women expect me to be weak and arrogant. Anytime there is any situation where something heavy has to be moved, and I move something heavy, there are always two women there:
1) The well-intentioned, condescending one who says things like, "Oh, that's too heavy, let the big boys handle that."
2) And the other one who accuses me of having "Little Man Syndrome" when I am wordlessly doing my job or what was asked of me.
The second one is accusing me of bragging. Why? Because she assumed I was weak, and she doesn't like being proven wrong. So she's going to keep assuming I'm weak, but now in her mind the rest of the men in the room, who seemingly can't lift as much as me, are in reality just as strong as me, they just aren't "showing off".

TL;DR - I don't think that bragging/showing off is unattractive. I think "bragging/showing off" is what you call it whenever a man you find unattractive defies your expectations. When an attractive man does it, it's called "confidence".

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Insecurity for one. But also trying to act, think, or prove they're better than someone else. I knew someone who bragged about how "intelligent" he was, but funny he was the only one I ever heard say that about him.
But then on the flip side, I have a daughter who not only never says that about herself, but seems uncomfortable when others do. Which they do often. Anyone who's met or known my daughter is forever telling me how intelligent she is.
There's a difference between being confident, and being cocky. Anyways, but especially if you don't have anything to back that cockiness up with.

[anon1903]

Despite being a bragger, I never work for impressing somebody. If someone likes me, I'd like to be liked because I'm a freak and not the other hundred things I brag about.

With that outta way, people think it's a good idea to nuzzle other's faces into their cushiony big ass achievements and such because :

- they want attention
- and validate their feelings of superiority somewhere
- big assets = big person
- they've worked really, really hard to get there.

[ChiTown33]

Because it works Beebella, maybe not for you, but you would be in the minority then. Even most women that say they don't find it attractive will choose the braggard 9 times out 10 over the other guy.
Don't believe me?
Why do we call Muhammed Ali "the greatest". Because he told the world he was the greatest every 5 minutes. Don't get me wrong Ali was a great fighter. You have to have game, you can't just have a big mouth. But women are drawn ro guys that talk the talk, walk the walk, and talk the talk a little more. Sorry i don't make the rules.

[Lman3000]

I find it as them just saying, hey just come fucking spit at my face cause I'm a man or woman born above all others and everything should be handed to me easily cause I'm good looking. it's true what fucking dude who has looks or genetics built like a god lives or struggles with anything in life like finding work or their love life or even social life, they don't cause of looks ha if only one day the roles would swap and attractive folk could go through what's like to be below standards having to work for something or try hard just to achieve something they desire that isn't handed out like candy to them

[frostwalrus]

Like attracts like. Disgusting, vulgar people like and admire the disgusting, vulgar behavior of others. People of low moral character and taste make for good partners for other people of low moral character and taste.

People who envy douchebags are misguided since they fail to factor in that douchebaggery attracts the sort of people that you don't want to be associated with anyways.

[Anonymous]

I talk about what I have done and I am happy about it. Many take that as bragging. Every now and then I find someone who has had an amazing life and I am intrigued, not put off when they speak openly about it.

I think so many people haven’t really done things that they have passion for that they also see it as bragging.

Then I think of the depressed people who also don’t have passion or excitement. Overall, I am happy and happy being a braggart... as I just see it as having passion and being happy about my life which has some very good achievement.

[JetJas]

I hate it too. Especially when some guys try to approach u and they’re like “u wanna know how big it is?”
and then they keep nagging about how attractive they are because of their size when they’re ugly af. Like fr just shove it up your own ass if you’re that proud of it cause I don’t give a shit.

[iohannes]

So... I think bragging can really make you seem confident. Honestly confidence is a big turn on for women but also guys so... That might be partially why..


But yeah a lot of guys are desperately trying to not only keep their confidence up (fake confidence until they get it) but also trying to just compete with others.. At the same time Some people are literally proud of what they're bragging about and don't even realize it's arrogant..

[ImSparkly]

I'm an over-achiever by nature, so if I say anything I have done, guys think its bragging because I'm pretty accomplished for going on 25. I have to shut up and play dumb though. It makes people uncomfortable and insecure, while questioning theirselves.

While many who do brag are insecure (or an 'Influencer') and need external validation of what they do.

[WACeltRomans12]

I possibly know why ;) Some males may be or think they are ALPHA. What type of topics do we brag about?
A front man in a band I was in was a bit like that he even admitted it EGO. It could be a personality thing. Performing in front of people. For others insecurity. maybe even the past present and future? Maybe DNA as I've mentioned (personality). For me I try and share my thoughts but I can deliver them in many different ways (does that sound like I'm showing off YOU decide)

[Ruby3]

Actually when i was small , that time i was the only small child in our surrounding so they love it when i say big things, and now it became my habit, but i am not rude, and even i tell my friends to don't mind me when i overdo something, and they understand it.

[CaliforniaSun22]

People with a show pony mentality- are super insecure - the are caught up in how they are perceived vs. what they truly are- and that shallow. They often crave attention and it really is something deep rooted. They want to feel superior to others so they can feel good about themselves

[Smccoy217]

Maybe, because they feel that if they don't brag they won't get credit for it? Ut might be their way of showing you they don't have very good social skills if they can't find a way to relate and tell you their experiences. I try hard not to one up. I'll tell my awesome story, and how it relates to them, and make it in a way that isn't bragging. (Did I just do it now? Idk)

[Meropatrick]

I never bragged , but i found people like you are rare. Most people respond positively to bragging. When a guy start driving an expensive car (its a sort of bragging) gold diggers starts to come out from between the cervices to go after him. When you say you are Harvard graduate people will assume you are smart. Respect you more. Its why we have company ads. Its not bragging. Its marketing (pimping) your self. To get a girl, a job, respect... etc

[TheFlak38]

Never accept advice from women, guys. What they say and what they respond to are always two different things. All it takes is the man of beebella's standards to show off and she will bang him without even knowing his name.

[beebella]

Lmao

[jamesgoldman]

Some people view my jewellery as a show-off thing but I view it as a billboard in regards to my business

N. b. when I just had my gold ring it was very, very showy I remember someone (total stranger) on a table in a restaurant say look at this guy trying to play the big man but I was also in a suit but I had an appointment and the bank then broke my last £50 to buy lunch

[EABsTUQ]

Because it is a way to show value. Unconsciously it is turn off cause it symbolizes insecurities. They feel the need to overcompensate and this is a form of it. They don't go into a situation knowing this though, otherwise they wouldn't do it. They are just trying the best they can.

[Connordiz18]

I used to brag about things but that was bc I had a lack of confidence in myself. I also showed off my car before but it wasn't to brag. It was just to pull the girl that I liked away from her mom so it wasn't awkward when I hugged her goodbye. My confidence level has changed over the years and I don't find it necessary to brag. I know that I don't need to try to change who I am or brag about what I have to please someone. I just need to be me

[Jonny_]

Because they see winning as the be all and end all, same with many things. Sometimes they think it makes them look good/better because it's something they want to excel at, some people like attention regardless if it's good or bad attention.