Do guys actually ask girls to be their girlfriends anymore or does it usually happen naturally?

[Anonymous]

[MannMitAntworten]

Here’s how it happened last time. Paraphrasing of course:

Girlfriend went out with her best friend and others to a club. Some guy hits on her. She shot him down telling him she has a boyfriend who makes her very happy. She tells me this on the phone. Also she realizes it was the first time she said aloud that I was her “boyfriend”. Too which I reply, “Guess that makes you my girlfriend.” ... and that is how we became, well, “official”. We are split up now as she realized she has a lot of being single left to do, but anyway, that’s how my last relationship essentially became office. But yes, we already new without actually saying it before them. Which was very shortly after we first stumbled upon one another.

[ecfresh]

Yes I ask. I want to woo her, date and get to know her because I have longer term goals and plans. So a part of that is entering into a committed relationship so I ask her to be my girlfriend. Kinda logical.

[Yads_Is_Back]

What do you mean by “happen naturally”? If you mean that they keep spending time together and communicating and he assumes it’s to be official, he shouldn’t be surprised if she gets tired of waiting and starts liking another guy who has the guts to ask. So yes, there are still some decent ones who do.

[CoffeePossum]

Every guy i've dated asked me to be their girlfriend/be exclusive. But that may be because I don't think we're exclusive before that.

[meesegoMoo]

I would still ask if she was open to a romantic pursuit if she was super traditional. If we're dating than I would only date if we were in a relationship so it wouldn't come up.

[Thatsamazing]

Uh without the actual label of "girlfriend," agreed-upon by both parties, there is no "happen naturally" going on. A discussion needs to take place and both need to decide that is what they want.

[winterfox10]

I just let it happen naturally. My life experience has taught me that asking a question like that is a surefire way to guarantee that everything will fall apart.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I'd think that a guy asking a girl to be his girlfriend is the natural way? That's how I've done it at least.

[chris_987]

I don’t think so, if men and women are equal we shouldn’t be doing something the other gender doesn’t want to do

[Anonymous]

This question is a reminder how I've always hated the gender-role that guys have to be the initiators in starting a relationship.

[BeachMaster]

Shut up ugly.. No ones going to ask you..