Guys, Is it really true that your guy friends would fuck you given the chance? I really think these guys are my buddies, and I don’t wanna believe it?

[oogaboogahoobala7]

I love my guy friends, they’re my buds and they’ve helped me through a lot of shit over the years. They mean the world to me. I don’t think they would fuck me, and i don’t want to believe they would. In your experience, do you think they’re only keeping my around for a potential fuck? Do they even really like me as a person? God. I really hope not. I know you guys are just random people on the internet but i’m never gonna ask them in person. I told them about how i’m bi (and lean towards women) and my sexual harassment thing, and they know i’m batshit terrified of intimacy or sex in general. I love them so much, and maybe i’m just being dramatic and it’s no big deal, but damn it would suck if it never really meant anything this whole time.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

If the girl is decently cute then sure. I don't see the problem.

What I always find in these situations, and I'm straight up seeing it again with you, is that you think that being sexually attracted to someone completely undermines a friendship. Well, here's the thing, that's totally a girl thing. I can be attracted to a friend enough to be willing to have sex and it in no way means that the friendship was a trick. That's just a nonsense thing to believe in my opinion.

Guys are opportunistic, they can't "keep you around for a potential fuck". That's what a girl could do, because she has that power. For a guy, he's there for the general friendship and that *consequentially* means that there is a potential fuck, but it's not the focus and that's a very different context. If you wanted more with them then they would be into it, but that doesn't reflect on the friendship at all. There is also the caveat that with a single guy, his energy is primarily going toward finding a partner. So for me, any male friends I make come from circumstance e. g, people who I take a lot of the same classes with, and it just grows from there. It's coincidental. With girls, I will be more active and even go out of my way to form a connection even when we aren't coincidentally brought together. Now it doesn't mean the friendship formed can't be real, it's just that I have limited time and energy and it needs to go into looking for a partner, so I would subsequently end up knowing lots of girls who I kind have the hots for. But it's only girls that flip out as if the guy is lying to them somehow. I've seen it happen to me, I've seen it happen to others. Girls "friendzone" guys and then are totally blindsided by the idea that the guy could be attracted to them and for some reason that something devastating.

Here's the bottom line. Guys like physically attractive women. Personality matters even more and if he's attractive and a joy to be around then that's 10x more attractive. It should go without saying that most single guys would go for a romp with a close female friend they thought was cute, should the opportunity arise. And only girls are weirded out by that, and that relates to the essence of friendzoning. But guys don't do that stuff, so they don't have that problem.

If you consider yourself at all attractive and you've got straight male friends, odds are they would be good to go with you. And sorry, but I believe you'd be an idiot to believe that's not the case.

[oogaboogahoobala7]

that’s, really helpful actually. Thank you. You’re right, i don’t know why i think it’s such a big deal, it kinda bugged me, but it makes sense. Thanks for givin me the slap in the face i needed dude. You deserve most helpful opinion for this one. Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

Thanks. Too many people want to softball their criticism to be more palatable, but often I think people need a firm contraction to set them straight. It’s to see it actually works sometimes. ☺️

Gotta make a correction as well.
*... if she’s attractive and a joy...*

[PrudentGuy]

TBH us guys are animals too. Hence the instinctive desire to mate is always there.

But yet we are evolved creatures. We learned morals since young and possesses the capacity to love too.

This means we can do things for free too. If you're a "nice lady", we'll likely be a "gentleman" too.

Hence my opinion is, deep in, we crave sex, especially when we are horny. But we can also manifest unselfish attributes when we know the opportunity is not there. Ah yes, opportunity. If it's there, I think we will smash you. Put my words to the test and see if it's true with the most gentlemanly guy you know 😝😝😝

[Anonymous]

Well don't mistake sleeping with you if given the chance meaning they don't also think of you as a person and friend or care about you. I've had a few female friends that are true friends, and nothing physical has ever happened, however if they all of the sudden wanted to or the opportunity came, I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't have been tempted (especially being single). But that's me and every guy is different. In your case, I'm guessing these are good friends and I wouldn't worry about it. Especially if they know some of your personal history. Go with your gut instinct, which is they are great friends, not what "people say". There is some truth to that statement, but it certainly doesn't apply to every guy or friendship.

[oogaboogahoobala7]

that’s really wise, i appreciate the well thought out response. I think you’re right, while i might not be a dude, these are my friends, and i know them as people, i know they care about me and even if they wouldn’t be entirely opposed to the idea, that doesn’t discount our friendship. thanks dude

[Thatsamazing]

Only if you're at least decently attractive. Then yes, most of them or all of them do. Though if you're bi and lean toward chicks, then not as much maybe. Anyway, don't know why you care, if you're not planning on getting fucked by any of them.

[oogaboogahoobala7]

I guess i just thought it was weird, it makes me a little uncomfortable to think about but in all honesty, when you being it up, you’re right. they’re not hurting me or actively making me uncomfortable, and this doesn’t make everything we’ve been through together void. I really jumped the gun on this one. thank you

[Thatsamazing]

It's alright.

[abc3643]

This is a good question with a complicated answer.

ALL heterosexual males have an instinctive drive to be near or assist females because of the possibility of mating with her. This is not a conscious thing at all. Through countless generations of women being selective with the men that they mate with, they have evolved males to be like this - helpful to females (because of the possibility that, at some point in the future, that female may reward us with the privilege of mating with her).

[theChineseWASP]

Guys need friends too I don’t think they’re only thinking about sex...

[oogaboogahoobala7]

short and sweet, and correct. Thanks, i mean, you’re dead on.

[Thisperson98]

Has the thought of sleeping with passed through their minds? It depends if they see you as a sister or a friend. If they see you as a sister, no. If they saw you as a friend, most likely they thought about it at least once. But even if they thought about it, it means nothing. Think about it, if they just wanted sex and they knew they wouldn't get it (they know it won't happen), why would they hang out with you when they could spend time trying to have sex with someone else.

[0112358]

If they’re regularly having sex with hotter girls than you, probably not.

If you’re better looking then what they’re getting, definitely.

it doesn’t necessarily mean they are “only keeping you around for a potential fuck”.

[Shyguy206]

Ok. If they're respectful of your boundaries and aren't touching or looking at you sexually then you dont have anything to worry. If they do all the things I have just mentioned then avoid contactacting them. Simple. In this case you being paranoid is gonna ruin your friendship with them. No I would never want them to "fuck" me because I'm straight. I think you asked a wrong question to a demographic here.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Depends on people some truly help it doesn't mean that if you offer they are gonna deny I am saying this with your qoute if given a chance 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Straight males do not make time in their world for girls (outside of family) that they are not sexually attracted to.
No guy wakes up and texts the ugly girl just to see how she is or make time in their day to hang out with her.

You will have simps tell you otherwise but they are trying to win pussy points.

[Bhavin2184]

Not always necessary that the guy friends have sexual things for their female buddies. Around the world
Guys also like to be friends with girls without sexual/romantic feeling.