Does it mean he lost interest?

Question

I know this guy from Tinder for 5month, and we date 3times, every dates are great, the 3rd date he stayed in my place, we had dinner together, made love, everything seemed normal; we kissed goodbye the next morning, but after that, he nearly lost contact.
He said he's gonna take a holiday with family, he said just weekend, but it changed to be 10days unexpectly, i wanna call him one day, but he refused with the reason he's in the same room with mom, and he said he will talk to me when he back, during holiday he rarely text me.
when he back, he said he also missed me, but when i want to talk to him, he still refuse with the reason he's tired. it's been near half month we didn't talk, I don't know if it means he lost interest.

before that change, we text frequently, and video chat somtimes. in the very begining, he said he wanna take me to holiday one weekend, even if we were not familiar with each other at that time, he said the first person he wanna see after quarantine is me. and every time we date, he must drove 1h to my city, I really like him, but I don't know what should i do after that change.

Edentina · Accepted Answer

Actually he didn't loose interest because the interest wasn't there in the first place. He might have found you cute or attractive enough to have sex with but that isn't the same thing as having an interest in someone so all he did, the frequent calls, texting and making hour long journeys was just for one thing in mind, to get into your pants and he has succeded so there is nothing else in there for him. Do not contact him again and move on with your life, soon enough you will meet someone else because you deserve better.
Ps: Never have sex again on the 3rd date, ever.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Honey most people on tinder are not there to be serious. He got what he wanted from you and now he doesn't need to chase you anymore because you're chasing him and men in general do not appreciate being chased. He's not mature enough to tell you he lost interest because he wants to keep you as an option in case he feels bored in the future and doesn't have anyone else to fuck around. Stop contacting him, stop texting him, stop chasing him, stop caring about him and don't have much expectations that this will become serious because most likely it won't.

Mehzmeh · Accepted Answer

Okay a few thing's.

1. He treated you like a tinder date. They barley work out. Tinder dates are pretty much let's hook up once and be done.

2. He has lost interest. Instead of telling you. He is avoiding you.

3. There is already someone else. Or, he was already with someone else.

4. If it has been that long. He is not going to contact you again unless he is really horny.

Sorry that happened to you.

Adam1978 · Accepted Answer

Might be a family issue, ie you won't be good enough for his family. Or its he that doesn't want to reveal you for his family which is a bad sign. Either way it's not a suitable person to date move on to someone that doesn't want to hide their activity with you from friends and family.

KitKnickKat · Answer

Unfortunately it sounds like he did lose interest. No guy is “too tired” to talk to a girl they are interested in. He may keep messaging you to have you as a back up plan just incase, or he doesn’t know how to tell you he doesn’t like you anymore. I would seriously move on from him, I know it hurts but he’s just going to keep wasting your time when another guy is waiting to treat you so much better.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He saw you, he wanted to fuck you, he did what he needed to get you in bed, he fucked you, and now he's finished. Can you learn any lessons from this experience?