What does it mean if he ghosts me after I send nudes?

[Anonymous]

We used to talk he liked me I made the mistake of doing him wrong twice and starting argument, we both said nasty things to each other.! But I wanted to keep him so I sent him a nude vid of my ass that he wanted saying I would’ve sent it without the thong he just replied on text like “I’ve not opened ur whatsapp message to see it yet but would’ve been better if you didn’t a lot better but that’s alright that’s cool as shit it made my day” then blocked me. Obvi he did see it if he Say “it made my day” I’m so confused. .. I asked him what does he mean but he Just ignored me

[Bananaman177]

It means two things:

1) He'll sell it for a good price.

2.) You're dumb as shit and you should literally hire somebody to filter your men for you since you're not smart enough to do it yourself.

That sounds like a really mean thing to say, but I'm dead serious. You're going to have a tragic life full of trouble and woe because you're so stupid. I'm not even saying it as an insult, I really feel bad for you. I hope you can make some really good friends who will help you and look out for you, because you can't look out for yourself.

[Asker]

I’m literally not stupid though that’s the thing I knew from as soon as he asked me for nudes that he had little respect for me, but I really liked him and figured what’s an ass video for a little more of his time I was pretty emotionally invested in him. We had been speaking for a month before it went bad. And sell it? Well from the min I pressed send I was aware he can now do what he wants with it. The thing is I didn’t add my face & I left no clues that would make people think it’s me so if he does anything malicious with it. It’s deniable

[Bananaman177]

Maybe you're like a savant, maybe you're really smart with certain subjects, but. . . just when it comes to judging people and judging relationships. . . you're retarded.

[Asker]

how am I “retarded” for falling for a guy I had known for months dated for a month and got a bit desperate so given into what he wanted. We’ve all been silly at times it wasn’t my brightest of ideas but calling me dumb is a reach

[Bananaman177]

I disagree. How should I put this. . .

I bet your grandmother would never send her nudes to some dipshit she barely knew. And I'll bet if she knew that that's what you did, she'd be ashamed of herself for not helping your mother raise you with any better sense than that.

Does that make sense? Do you know what I'm getting at? Just because all the other girls of your generation are dumb and they hand out nudes like it was no big deal, that doesn't mean YOU should follow the same stupid fucking trend of having no dignity and no modesty and no self-respect.

This guy you sent the nudes to. . . Do you really think he's gonna be a wonderful husband and the loving father of your children someday? Because if you don't think that about a guy, you shouldn't be concerned with showing off your nakedness to him. Treat your body like a temple for the Holy Spirit, treat it like the birthplace of your future children, not like something for some random dickhead to jerk off to.

[NorthShoreCalling]

You’re not stupid I’m sure, but you definitely have made some bad decisions here, but you’re young, you just have a lot more to learn and hopefully judging by those mistakes the quicker the better! Take this as a very steep learning curve and do not ever share something so vulnerable with someone who you feel doesn’t even respect you (that’s the part that looks stupid to people because it really isn’t a smart move). Be smart about feelings, you can’t control others, you can only decide who deserves your time, feelings and energy and the smart person only lets those who value them have access to those. Lesson learned.

[NorthShoreCalling]

If you decide you want casual sex it’s nobody’s business to shame you. That’s up to them what they do just as it’s up to you what you do. So long as you make choices for the right reasons, then you’ll suffer less for them.

[Bananaman177]

@NorthShoreCalling "If you decide to drink poison, it's nobody's business to shame you. So long as you poison yourself for the right reasons, that's up to you."

You're giving out bad advice that sounds good but when people get hurt following your bad advice, you won't be there to save them, so just zip it.

[NorthShoreCalling]

You're forgetting the fact that she's still young and has a few things to learn, admittedly perhaps more than others on this one, but still. Shaming people into certain behaviours rarely works - that's the point isn't it, to help her out, not bully.

[Bananaman177]

@NorthShoreCalling Shame is the only thing that works, but when people like you come along and promote mindless hedonism, that's when shame becomes less effective. That's why I told you to zip it.

Don't get emotional, don't get defensive, don't get the last word in, just shut up. You don't need to be telling anybody anything, you don't know what you're talking about, you just like to talk. Shut up. Can it. Hush. Shh.

[NorthShoreCalling]

You actually believe that? If that were true therapists wouldn't be more successful and have jobs. Shame is toxic on that level. Sound slike someone is projecting. Imagine being 33 and still a dickhead. 😂

[NorthShoreCalling]

Guess that's the only language you understand right! Haha loser.

[Bananaman177]

@NorthShoreCalling Okay, go tell your therapist about me and see if she can help you work through your feelings.

[Anonymous]

It's quite obvious. Let me translate from English into... English.

I haven't opened the message to look at it. (And I won't.)

It would have been better if you didn't send a nude.

It would have been a *lot* better.

But it's alright. It's cool. I can block you, and that way you won't send any more.

KA-BLOCK!!!

[Asker]

He literally asked meee for it multiple times?

[Opinion Owner]

But you didn't send it then. You guys had a big blow up of a fight. Things changed.

Personally, I don't want nudes from someone who annoys the shit out of me.

[Anonymous]

It means you should have sent them to a girlfriend first to see if they were okay.

[Asker]

I did lool I sent them to my group chat with my gay best friend and my two friends that’s a girl they do it too... they told me it was good. They’re usually honest before they have said. Retake it, try a better angle, fix ur posture etc so pretty sure they’d have told me if it was bad

[Opinion Owner]

Well then he wasn't interested in you; just interested in seeing you naked.

[djmzes]

Simple

[JackSmy]

Any ideas of where your Nude video is, now? ONLINE!!! BAD CHOICE!! HE is a D-BAG, and you let him play you!

[Asker]

thankfully I didn’t show my face in the vid

[Anonymous]

so this guy and you fight, and your reaction was to send him inappropriate photos of yourself?
how does that even work... it would be like me sending my enemy things they can use against me.

He blocked you because he doesn’t want anything to do with you. He obviously looked at the pic but that doesn’t stop him from not wanting to deal with crazy.

[spartan55]

Did you learn anything here? NEVER send nudes... i cannot believe how many girls are so stupid...

[Asker]

usually in the past when I send them nudes they stick around at least for a while I’ve never been ghosted after it, was an interesting time of events

[spartan55]

There is almost nothing positive that can come out of it for you.

[Asker]

well I hoped it would make him like me more but that has proven to be untrue... as truly like comes with respect and asking a girl who isn’t your girlfriend for nudes I suppose sadly equals that he has no respect

[spartan55]

You are exactly correct.

[Tobi_Lerone]

Obviously he just wanted some nudes. It's sad if he was nice before. But if he starts ghosting adter he got some nudes, that's all he wanted...

[Jamie05rhs]

Instead of sending naked photos or videos as a substitute for real communication, couldn't you just address the actual issue at hand and apologize for what you did?

[KrakenAttackin]

In his mind you shifted from potential girlfriend to "whore I can tap". So the sending of nudes really degrades your brand as it is likely you regularly send nude pics and have sex with a lot of men.

[Browneye57]

You're a fool and a combatent. This is going nowhere.

[In_Trance]

He got what he wanted. Next.

[Anonymous]

He got what he wanted out of you and has moved on.