"He cares because he hasn't fucked you yet!" how true do you think this is?

[Anonymous]

so I can't get it off my mind after seeing this post (above) recently and then just reading another post a sec ago saying "nobody is nicer than a guy who hasn't fucked you yet" or something and lmao its bothering me cos what if its true. I mean it probably is since a lot of people agree with it. but I don't know what y'all think and do you have an experience that could say this is indeed true or not? probably depends. but this really happens to people huh and that fucking sucks. I dont wanna be able to say "been there, done that" when I come across a post like this again lol.

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+1 y

im currently seeing someone and he seems like an amazing person but now im paranoid.

[MrOracle]

Obviously there's SOME truth to this, but people of both sexes sometimes use the opposite sex, and it's never something you want to happen. Unfortunately, there's just not a lot you can do about it beyond vetting the person as best you can and, maybe most importantly, don't let infatuation cause you to be blind or in denial about the other person's bad behavior.

Most "users" are very selfish, self-centered people, and even if they are nice to YOU (at first), you'll see their character in how they treat other people - especially people they think are below them. People who are infatuated with someone will often overlook these red flags, and will later be SHOCKED when they get treated the same way their partner treated the mechanic or the waiter or the guy at work.

It's not a perfect system - the majority give themselves away, but a few can put on an impressive show, even if it's all fake - and there's only so much you can to do avoid that. But listen to your instincts, and if something seems wrong, it may well be wrong.

Nothing great in life happens without taking a risk, and when you take risks - even well-considered risks based on experience and education - you can still lose. It happens to everyone on occasion. You will sometimes find an amazing, kind, and loving person too, and that's worth the occasional "loss" in the game of love.

[NamerOfStars]

How safe do you want to be in life? Yes, people are often nicer than they would otherwise be in order to get something from someone. But sometimes people are just nice. Are you really willing to embrace that level of paranoia in order to avoid being hurt?

[ArrRenn]

In that arrangement, it sounds more like he is hunting and horny and wants to conquer the mountain. He “cares” in order to keep you around so that he has more time and opportunity to get in your pants.

If it was reversed—“he hasn’t fucked you yet because he cares”—the statement makes more sense. He “hasn’t fucked you yet” because he recognizes the worth in you as your mind and personality, beyond your body.

[Anonymous]

Here is the rule of thumb: If the guy would enjoy spending time with you without sex on the table, then he actually likes you. Otherwise, it's anyone's guess, but most likely you are being used as a temporary cum dump

Like obviously if you are married and still not putting out then you are fkd up lol like if the guy gives you serious commitment and you have known eachother a long time and trust eachother and know you will be together forever, then, AND ONLY THEN is when a woman who wants to be respected by her man puts out. Most men will hate you for it, but a lot of us are testing you... seeing how easily you give it up. That's how quickly you will cheat and most men don't want a cheating woman who can easily get comfortable enough to sleep with someone else. If I spent 4 years with a girl and took her virginity on our wedding night, I am not worried, I know we are together forever <3

[Star177]

What I can say is that people are different but that's what fuckboys do.
Someone Just have to take her time to know the person very well before having sex with them
With time you can know their truly intentions

[DevC784]

That's not true at all. Just depends on the person, some guys are like that but I dated a girl for 5 years and we had sex like a week after we met and things were just fine, the breakup had nothing to do with that aspect.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the person, some guys are shy and don't know how to go about it. In my longest relationship we had sex the first time we met and I truly loved her. It didn't work out because our lives were going different directions.

[Liam_Hayden]

"A player pretends to care only because he hasn't fucked you yet."

Fixed it.

[TheFlak38]

As if you have anything else to offer besides your vagina. There is another saying that is also true "She only cares about you when you can do something for her."

[Anonymous]

If you make sex something awarded for certain behaviour then you will trigger that behaviour. You will also trigger resentment that they have to appease you to do something meant to be mutual.

[Anonymous]

Guys with small dicks are more gentle and caring because they have to work harder for some action.

[Posterboy56]

Uh, it isn't. And whoever wrote that is a moron.

[SeaSprayBreeze]

Definitely truth to that.

[In_Trance]

That's dumb

[Distants]

Ok cool probs