Your friend could have bisexual tendencies even though he identifies as gay. In other words, not all self-proclaimed gay men can be 100% gay, even though most of them are in my experience.
Another possibility is he really likes you in an aesthetic sense, but not sexually. I could closely relate to that case, because I'm a gay man who often felt the same towards my female friends. I adore female beauty, so much so that sometimes I catch myself openly staring at beautiful women. Obviously, this kind of interest on my part can easily be misconstrued as sexual attraction by women, while, in reality, it is nothing more than envy in my case. I know that, because I feel zero sexual attraction towards women, whereas I do look and act feminine, and often find myself emulating female behavior. I am also always the passive partner in my relationships with men, on and off the bed, a complete bottom so to speak.
That kind of interest in all things female results in behavior that resembles some aspects of what you friend does to you. However, my close female friends know the reason of that behavior, so it doesn't come across as odd or confusing to them. We even exchange our romantic stories about men, including sex, so they see me as another girl in their circle, and don't think twice when I act intimately as one girl could towards another without meaning anything sexual in the process.
Is it possible a big part of your confusion results from the fact that you have not been close to this guy as a friend, so his behavior remains ambiguous? In other words, if you straight out ask him whether he's attracted to you, would that be an odd move that can hurt your friendship?
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What you never mention is whether you are interested in him. If not, then it doesn't actually matter whether he is gay, or interested in you or whatever. If you are interested in him, the next question is why do you think he's gay? Does that come from him, from rumors, from your assumptions? That could be a way in. You could simply ask him about it. By asking, you are suggesting to him that you want to know if he's available. It also explains to him why you haven't acted earlier.
He is being nice. Gay guys don't have any interest in the other sex.
Guys that like you will outward tell you. He might be comfortable around the opposite sex.
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A straight guy who is a theater major? That would be highly unusual.
That dude's not gay. He might be bi, but he's not gay.
Maybe he’s bi and like you
i assume every boyfriend you had, it was because he spoke to you first or asked you out first.
the dude might just be lonely
He's just being nice
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