You need to understand this from both party's POVs.
The guy friend doesn't want his girlfriend to think that he's being unfaithful by consistently hitting you up to talk.
The girlfriend won't like that he keeps talking to you often. It makes her feel like she isn't priority to him, and she may even feel threatened by you.
This happens when the girlfriend feels insecure, or controlling. The jealousy is there, which is normal, but DON'T ever march right up to her and your guy friend and demand for answers. You'll look crazy and desperate, and it may come across that you have feelings for your friend.
In a healthy relationship where there is trust established, the girlfriend wouldn't mind him talking to his female friends, provided that they have a talk and establish boundaries. My boyfriend talks with some female friends he met while playing games online. I did throw a fit about it once but him and I were able to sit down and have an honest heart-to-heart, and now I don't feel angry, insecure or worried whenever he talks to another female. I trust him fully 100%.
Bottom line is, please don't take this personally. Nothing is wrong with you, you didn't do anything wrong by existing in your friend's life. Give him some time, and he'll come around to talking to you again. Maybe you can take the initiative and text him once in a while and see how he's doing. Remember, you don't want to be overbearing and text him on a daily basis. You two are just friends, it's not like you are dating him.
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Maybe the girlfriend isn't comfortable with him having female friends but if he's still talking to other females maybe she just doesn't want him being friends with you too? My best friend is a guy and he's in a relationship but his girlfriend is also a close friend of mine now and they both hang out with me and my husband sometimes 🤔
I had a lot of female friends when I was younger. I don't know why, it just worked out that way. They were all very nice and I never had sex with any of them. There were hand holding and maybe a little kissing but that was about it. We stayed in touch for years until I got married. I sort of set them adrift. I had such an intimate relationship with one or two of them. We used to be able to tell each other everything. I figured my wife would get jealous or something.
Now that I am old I wish these people were still a part of my life. I know one of them had died.
Guy do things for pussy.
If they go in relationship. And their girlfriend says to them "don't talk to that girl if you do I ain't giving you my pussy."
Here "That girl" is you..
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When people start a new relationship they go for weeks or longer not talking as much to their friends. If you see this pattern go beyond a few months then you know the person was using you for emotional support.
I don't know what's normal, but I still talk to my female friends even with being in a relationship
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