Why would a guy want to sleep with a girl but not date her because of her race?

[Nazgol]

Is it because of that guys like variety thing?

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And if someone doesn't date you because of a different race, does that make them racist? Or it's just their preferences

[Anonymous]

I’m on the fence about whether not being attracted to someone due to their race has to do with racism. I think there are a variety of reasons for that. Most of which are socially ingrained. Because very few features are exclusive to a specific race. But I think it could have a lot to do with the image that people are fed of what a family looks like.


However, if a guy wants to sleep with the girl, then he’s already attracted to her. Not wanting to date her due to race makes me think it’s likely racism. Lots of men are perfectly happy to see women of different races as sex objects, but they still think they’re above him, so they won’t be associated with them.


One of my cousins is like that. He was perfectly happy to sleep with a Latina woman. (Who he knew was married by the way). But then she got pregnant. And he refuses to acknowledge his daughter, because she’s half Latina. His mindset is disgusting. He eventually got married, to a woman who had a daughter about the same age as his. And she convinced him to bring his daughter into his life. But I still can’t imagine he’s a good father, since he had to be convinced to acknowledge her. The girls are good friends though. And my cousin’s wife is very nice.

[crazyish]

People sleep with people and not want to date them for so many reasons. It happens all the time.

It's a normal human thing amongst society but because he is a different race, that must be the main reason?

I understand that because of society we are nurtured to assume race must always be the cause so we subconsciously put a lot of emphasis on race but that is what is the problem. He's a man plain and simple. And yes it could be because of race because of how he personally feels but there are so many other possible reasons for a guy wanting to hit it and quit it.

[RingOfFire]

"And if someone doesn't date you because of a different race, does that make them racist? Or it's just their preferences"

Different races have different cultures. One reason that someone might not want to date someone of a certain race is that they don't like the culture associated with that race. That doesn't necessarily mean that they can't find individuals of that race sexually appealing. They might find members of that race sexually unattractive. But then again they might not. There is a difference between culture, physical appearance, personality and sexual attraction. A person can have some and not others that another person finds appealing.

If someone doesn't want to date someone of a certain race does that mean they are a racist? It depends on how you define racist. If you define racist as not wanting to date someone of a certain race then obviously it is racist. But that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Taste and attraction has nothing to do with right and wrong. The problem with the word "racist" is that it is so overused today that it lost its meaning.

[SunnySonia]

It depends from individual to individual. Upfront I could say, either he's looking for variety or he's attracted towards her, however, he understands that different races would normally mean different cultural differences and so it might not be an easy thing for a long term relationship.

Is it racism? Again, an individualistic approach. But if he would be a racist, most probably he won't like to have sex with her either, until and unless he's into revenge sex kinda thing.. (May be in using the wrong term here, but hope you understand what I mean).

[SunnySonia]

Thanks for the MHO

[Xyglo27]

Because some women just aren't worth dating.

For ex:
I'm an Indian guy. I would love to fuck white women but I'd never date them.
Why?
Well why should I?
I don't want a white girlfriend. I don't want to marry a white woman.

It's my life, I have a choice of which type of women I choose to marry.

That's what it means when men say that they'd fuck someone but not date them.


P. S. By white I'm referring to Europeans or people with the white European gene/DNA.

[Sarahr123]

White is European.

Would you marry any Asian or specifically of Indian ethnic groups. Do you have a preference? I am Bengali and would prefer Bengali but I don’t mind marrying Tulu or most Madrasi men. I also don’t mind Punjabi Hindu men but not Sikh.

[GirlyGal20]

@Sarahr123 north Africans can be white, like the berbers in the northern mountains of algeria with blond hair blue eyes

[Sarahr123]

@GirlyGal20 they are not racially White. White race is Europeans. Caucasoid refers to skull structure in that case many Indo-Aryans fall into this category. I have a caucasoid skull myself but my race is Asian whereas a Chinese person is Asian but have a Mongoloid skull. Berbers are generally referred to as “Caucasoid Arabs” although almost all Arabs have Caucasian skulls. An Arab is basically anyone who speaks Arabic, holds citizenship of an Arab nation which follows Arab cultures and can range from North Africa, the Mediterranean and Western Asia. So this makes most Arabs Asian and African.

Also we must consider the impact of colonisation on the Eastern world. A lot of people in the Eastern parts have lots of different ethnicities that make individuals up so everyone looks so unique. In India you can find natives who look European like Greek/Spanish/Portuguese to people who look like Black Africans and even people who look Chinese.

[GirlyGal20]

@Sarahr123 That's fair that by society's standard's they're not white, but no not all north Africans are arabs. The berbers are a native tribe of north africa lots of them still exists and from what i gather some of them still live in the mountains and have avoided arab colonization for the most part. Arabs in north africa are more common in urbain centers.

[GirlyGal20]

@Sarahr123 *not arab in terms of ancestry

[Xyglo27]

@Sarahr123
In the Indian subcontinent I'm ok with marrying almost any mildy religious Hindu or Buddhist girl. I'm a mildy religious hindu but I'm also ok with having a buddhist wife.

As for the skin color, I don't really care that much but I do care about the beauty of the face. I've seen a lot of beautiful dark skinned women & I've also seen a lot of unattractive white faces.

[Sarahr123]

Yes beauty hasn’t got much to do with colour at all. It is more the texture of the skin and how clear it is - that is if we mean physical beauty. I have seen aesthetic looking people of all colours and like you I have seen my fair share of unconventional looking light skinned faces. It depends on the features overall.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol this irks me so badly. In Hs and college thats aaaaall the nonblack dudes would talk about. They wanted to “try” a black girl. It got so annoying to hear. And they’d always say “i wanna date you but my family doesn't support interracial dating. So maybe we can just fool around.” And i’d respond “well i doubt they’d support interracial fuckery as well. Goodbye.” Lol

[Nazgol]

Wow.. what a d***! And you did have a good response 👍👍👏👊

[DizzyDesii]

Haha thanks

[Xoirwinkan]

Thats something I haven't seen anyone say yet. It is necessarily racist, it can be family pressure, like the stereotypical Asian parents trying to find a same race husband/wife for their kid.

[ladsin]

There’s a saying about something like, “that’s not a girl you take home to momma.” Typically in reference to a girl who’s really hot and freaky that you want to get with, but wouldn’t pursue a serious relationship with. I presume it could extend to the race of a partner though. I had a “friend” (acquaintance/ person I knew of) in college who was in love with a black girl, but his family were involved in their local kkk club and would disown him for race mixing. He was torn between the two and went to our professor for advice. If I recall correctly he decided to dump the girl because he viewed his familial relationship as more valuable than a potential lover. A hard choice to make I’m sure. I doubt it’s that common of an issue though.

[Anonymous]

Because some men are pigs and will sleep with anyone, regardless of race. Even if they're not interested in dating them. You can be attracted to someone but not want to date them.

As a black women, I've sadly been in this situation before.
I've had guys of different races interested in me and want to sleep with me, but would not date me because I'm black. Out of fear of what their friends and family would say, they have racist parents that would not allow them to be with a black woman, or they saw me as a fetish.

And that's unfortunately how it is, even today.

I'm wary to approach or talk to guys of other races because it's hard to tell if they're interested in me or only after sex. Obviously that can be the case for any woman, but it seems predominate when someone tries dating outside their race.

[TruthBringer]

Answer to your main question: Because he wants to get laid and nothing more. That's really the only reason.

Answer to your update question: Most of the time it is a preference thing. The only time it is a racist thing is if he of course has a prejudice. You wouldn't really know if he only wants to use you for sex, unless he says shitty things about that race.

[menina]

I'm sorry if that happened to you. Yes, some guys do that because they have a fetish for girls of a certain race. They just want to have sex with them, but they're ashamed of being seen with these girls, to date or even to marry them.
To me that's racism, it's not just a matter of preferences. As for your other question, I would say it depends on the reasons why they don't want to date someone of another race. Sometimes it's really just a preference.

[Ditto626]

It might be because it's taboo. Or it could be a cultural thing. Like parents wanting their children to date their own kind. For example Greeks like to marry other Greeks. Black women shame other black men for dating any other race besides them.

I myself would date outside my face as long as my potential partner doesn't have a problem bringing a white boy home to meet her parents and family. If she's fine with that then I'm good. 😂

[EmbraceThePain]

Men will sleep with almost anything.


History is filled with white slave owners raping black women...


Do you think these men really liked these women?
No


Was their lust and objectification?
Plenty


In a sense, many men today operate on the say system, where a man doesn’t necessarily have to LIKE the woman to have sex with her.


Men don’t require much at all.
At all...

[Nazgol]

The last part. Why?

[EmbraceThePain]

Very easy...

Biology.

I think I’ve explained this before on a few of your posts

[Anonymous]

I think it’s kinda racist tbh. Like it’s fine and not racist to be attracted to your own race or a particular race or something like that, since it’s just attraction. But, when you’re attracted enough to sleep with a particular race, but you think they’re not good enough to date just because of the characteristics of their race, it seems racist to me.

Quite often it’s because they don’t wanna bring home someone of another race to meet their parents. My dad is a little bit racist and he doesn’t want me dating black people, it’s so stupid. Thank god I don’t have his beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Did he actually specifically say it was because of race? Or are you assuming? It could be the variety thing (we do like it and are curious, especially when it comes to sex). But aside from that, it could be preference. It could be family pressure (if he thinks they won't "approve"). He could be concerned about appearances and how others will view the relationship. All depends on the guy. I don't believe it makes him racist because it's likely one of these reasons, which doesn't make them racist. And if he was, he likely wouldn't even sleep with you. He'd want nothing to do with you at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it has nothing to do with race and he simply doesn't want a relationship?

[loves2learn]

That is very racist. And wrong. If they are attracted enough to have sex they can be attractive enough to date.

[Nazgol]

Well said

[loves2learn]

Thank you :)

[Browneye57]

Dumb guys have their reasons. And they will say and do ANYTHING to get in your panties. Race is irrelevant - it's about the sex.

Girls are the keepers of sex.
Guys are the keepers of commitment.
Don't be giving up yours till you get at least a little of his.

[Achilles1]

I wouldn't date someone unless they were the same race as me (a Hellene).

For the simply fact that I wouldn't want to mix or dilute my race away. As that's what would happen if most of my kind started inter-dating/interbreeding.

However, I guess guys don't think of sleeping with a girl for a one off, as the equivalent, and they're not marrying nor breeding with them.

[Nazgol]

Are u Greek

[Achilles1]

yep :)

Hellene is another name for Greeks

[Nazgol]

Ohh true

[DaisyM23]

Well he might like to just vary/spice things up, he could just be having fun and wanting something to joke about with his friends, he might just prefer his own race of girls but want to experiment, may be because his family or friends might not like other races so no point dating?

[Espléndido]

Just because someone sleeps with you doesn't mean they're going to date you. Not being into causal myself I don't understand why women (and men) have so many problems differing causal from meaningful relations.

As for not dating you due to your race that doesn't make them racist, per se. It's cultural mostly. Make, as an easy example, E. Asians. Japan and China have different cultures and in either country there are even subcultures that are different from one another. Dating is harder when there is no cultural, religious, etc. similarities between the people. It's possible but not necessarily easy.

[Espléndido]

*Take, as an easy example,

[The_Maphio]

Cultural differences. Standard behaviours and customs that don't quite go well together. It's a part of the single person that is VERY difficult to change or that the person would hardly ever let go for that's how they live their lives.
For what regards the single date or one nighters, those are of little incidence, but through a lifetime... Embers that could go ablaze in a very short time.

[doopayo]

That would be more of a nationality/ethnic background issue

[GirlyGal20]

I don't think it's racist as long as you're open to the possibility if attraction ever happens. I've met women who only like black guys. I myself only really like white, hispanic, and less often pale Asian guys. Those are the kind of features that attract me, how is that racist?

[Dinklex3]

I mean.. dating and fucking are two different things.
So you could just be interested in someone's body, but not interested in them as a person.
I do think it's weird not to date someone just because of their race though.
One of my best friends said he'd have sex with women of different races but would only date and marry a black girl.

[Soteris]

I hope there is not a big surprise that men can have different standards for a relationship and for sex. A relationship is more personal and you need to connect to the other person which means that if you have prejudice against races its going to hinder you from having that. There are also countless other reasons that impacts relationships but does not come into effect for just having sex.

[Coulis]

Men like vagina. He can utterly hate a woman and still have sex with her. Marriage is a social contract and depending on the social position he wants to have and community he wishes to be linked with, he will marry accordingly.