So, there's this guy. We're both shy as crap though, and I think we're both faking any level of confidence. We could work really well together though, and always manage to encourage each other without trying. I think he's too shy to have had a serious relationship. He always made me feel so much better about myself when I would be a total nervous fool, and he HAD to be internally judging me. I can be awkward, and it's worst around him. I think given more time, we were on our way to something unless I totally just read everything wrong. He's just a total nice guy with no ability to say no or put himself first, or there were feelings. We're talking shoving everything off a table so I could sit with him, getting progressively more nervous around me, making excuses to be around me, and when I got hearing loss and started reading lips he shaved his beard a couple days after I told him about it. The dude has thrown his shoes on while running uphill to get to me faster.
The problem? COVID. We went home for the semester in 2020, he graduated, we half lost touch. I've seen him twice since, and we message on social media semi-frequently. Usually kinda just catching each other up until it dies down and he doesn't respond. He's always super friendly though, with many lengthy messages/questions. He's super busy though, and honestly is bad at replying to anyone, especially on social media. Well, I decided I'd had enough of that crap, and after a several days of talking on Facebook, I decided to send my number. Basically told him if he got bored or needed to talk, to call/text. An awkward thing to do, but I was tired of it. Well I had decided when he didn't reply that day that I was ghosted. Well I woke up 12 hrs later to a paragraph basicslly saying thanks and ditto, and so I have his number. I replied, he read it, haven't heard anything. I feel like the ball is in his court, but he's never going to make a move. Did I misread it? Have I just made one too many awkward mistakes?
The problem? COVID. We went home for the semester in 2020, he graduated, we half lost touch. I've seen him twice since, and we message on social media semi-frequently. Usually kinda just catching each other up until it dies down and he doesn't respond. He's always super friendly though, with many lengthy messages/questions. He's super busy though, and honestly is bad at replying to anyone, especially on social media. Well, I decided I'd had enough of that crap, and after a several days of talking on Facebook, I decided to send my number. Basically told him if he got bored or needed to talk, to call/text. An awkward thing to do, but I was tired of it. Well I had decided when he didn't reply that day that I was ghosted. Well I woke up 12 hrs later to a paragraph basicslly saying thanks and ditto, and so I have his number. I replied, he read it, haven't heard anything. I feel like the ball is in his court, but he's never going to make a move. Did I misread it? Have I just made one too many awkward mistakes?
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So we've been talking a lot the last few days, to the point where he texted non-stop while on an insane bike trail. I'm sensing a little bit of self-consciousness from him still, but he literally told me not to be self-concious about texting him. I kinda thought things were pointing my way until he also said something about talking to other people and getting to hear what they have to say. Que the self-consciousness, but if he was interested, would he have lumped me in with literally everyone?
