"Forbidden" might be a stretch. It does go against the man code though. A guy has every right to cry at anything. And society has the right to call him a p***you for it. The simple fact of the matter is gender roles exist. A man is expected to be a man. Not just on mon=Fri for 8 hrs. But every gott damn day. I hear a a lot of women complain they can't be whores. The want to get their f*** on with random guys. But they're called a whore if they do. And as I told them. You can choose to stop being a woman these days, That's allowed. You can also be a whore any time you like. But as long as you're society has the right to call you a whore for it. Sorry, that's just the way it is.
My grandfather was a hard character. Grew up in the mountains and more or less lived off the land until he met my grandmother and moved to a town. I guarantee he could outdrink, outfight, and outwork all these loudmouth internet people here telling us that men should never shed tears. When my grandmother died after 50 years of marriage, he fucking cried and he cried a lot. And you won't find many men more rugged than he was. But losing her broke him. So to the dickheads who say men should never cry. . . . kiss my ass.
Because of stupid stereotypes propagated by patriarchal society and the media
I feel as if society has propagated the stereotype of the “ideal” male. This practically states that a man must be: tough, strong, secure, etc.
I personally find it to be bullcrap. Not all men are built the same way, and none will be. If you feel like your current self is who you truly are, don't try to change. There's only one of you in the world. Don't become a slave to the rhythm.
No of course not, men are humans too and therefore they have emotions. Bottling it up makes everything worse so I don't know why they’re expected to do that. I think it’s good to know that a man is able to show emotions rather than act apathetic all the time. I let my boyfriend rant or cry or let it out to me whenever he needs it, and I think his sensitive side is cute.
Its expected because men fight wars and do dangerous jobs. And you can't do those things if you start crying and complaining if you hurt yourself at work or when the bullets start flying... dooh
@grega239 um I don’t think you read the question... they asked about men and emotions in general, not just men in the military. All I’m saying is that it’s okay for men to be vulnerable, why are you so mad?
They aren't forbidden, men just have unrealistic expectations, just as women do. We are all human, have emotions & should be permitted to express them without being or feeling judged.
Man we are raised like this from decades, right from childhood days we have been taught that Hey you are going to be a man some day , so man dosen't show their sensetive sides. And in our family and society we have seen our father , uncle and neighbors like that. So we accpet it as a truth.
It's not. But you might see it that way because society's a bitch. Fuck society; do what you want. If it bothers someone, that's their problem. Most women want a guy to be emotional, it makes them feel trusted and stuff. 👌
Welp, it's sad. I always try to reach out to my guys about their feelings and problems, but most of them don't bother being sensitive. It's totally fine to be emotional, but because people (men more) are not as tolerant, mindful and thus sensitive, they will always try to make fun of it and mock it.
It's more about unrealised jealousy because being sensitive is not a con, but a pro. It's also about a lack of understanding.
Probably because you listen to the lies that you were told, and what a "Man SHOULD BE!" Sad. Many fathers didn't know, and had shitty role models, but now, YOU can CHOOSE, and you can see, read, and understand how their OLD WAYS were just bullshit! If you cannot be honest with yourself, how is any woman, or partner going to be able to trust you, when you cannot deal with, and feel your emotions?
I think it goes back to ancient Sparta where men were expected to become warriors and not show any fear or vulnerability, or they would be thought of as weak by their fellow spartans, since then it has become the norm in the known world at the time, but those beliefs are technically ancient, and men don't have to be kept to such strict warrior codes these days if they don't want to
I like when guys show their emotions. I also like it when they protect me. They can do both.
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The right people won't! It took me 2 years into my relationship to tell my girlfriend about my past. About my demons. I thought she was never going to see me the same and leave me. Do you know what she said? "You didn't deserved the life that you had." And hugged me. I have no idea how I didn't just start sobbing on the spot. Probably still in shock at her reaction completly opposite to what I expected.
Fuck who tell you are less of a man if you show emotions. Fuck them! They have no idea what a man's worth is.
Men being emotional is actually quite cute to me! I have yet to find an emotional guy, but I'll know he's the one when he isn't afraid to cry in front of me!
I think it's partly due to the fact that while women say they like emotional men, and that might be true, it's not exactly sexy.
The whole "men not showing emotions" thing is a misrepresentation of the virtue of stoicism. Knowing when it is the best time to be emotional and when it isn't.
Because if a girl who your not with sees you cry you may be considered weak to some of them. Lol its something that a man's man dosent do. Its not like they are going to walk up to you and say whats wrong. But if the roles were reversed a guy would do it in a heartbeat.
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"Forbidden" might be a stretch. It does go against the man code though.
A guy has every right to cry at anything. And society has the right to call him a p***you for it.
The simple fact of the matter is gender roles exist. A man is expected to be a man. Not just on mon=Fri for 8 hrs. But every gott damn day.
I hear a a lot of women complain they can't be whores. The want to get their f*** on with random guys. But they're called a whore if they do. And as I told them. You can choose to stop being a woman these days, That's allowed. You can also be a whore any time you like. But as long as you're society has the right to call you a whore for it.
Sorry, that's just the way it is.
My grandfather was a hard character. Grew up in the mountains and more or less lived off the land until he met my grandmother and moved to a town. I guarantee he could outdrink, outfight, and outwork all these loudmouth internet people here telling us that men should never shed tears. When my grandmother died after 50 years of marriage, he fucking cried and he cried a lot. And you won't find many men more rugged than he was. But losing her broke him. So to the dickheads who say men should never cry. . . . kiss my ass.
Because of stupid stereotypes propagated by patriarchal society and the media
I feel as if society has propagated the stereotype of the “ideal” male. This practically states that a man must be: tough, strong, secure, etc.
I personally find it to be bullcrap. Not all men are built the same way, and none will be. If you feel like your current self is who you truly are, don't try to change. There's only one of you in the world. Don't become a slave to the rhythm.
No of course not, men are humans too and therefore they have emotions. Bottling it up makes everything worse so I don't know why they’re expected to do that. I think it’s good to know that a man is able to show emotions rather than act apathetic all the time. I let my boyfriend rant or cry or let it out to me whenever he needs it, and I think his sensitive side is cute.
Its expected because men fight wars and do dangerous jobs. And you can't do those things if you start crying and complaining if you hurt yourself at work or when the bullets start flying... dooh
@grega239 um I don’t think you read the question... they asked about men and emotions in general, not just men in the military. All I’m saying is that it’s okay for men to be vulnerable, why are you so mad?
@grega239 men in battlefields cry too. Dooh! They wouldn't be doing all that if they didn't cry.
Go back to Disney land 😬
They aren't forbidden, men just have unrealistic expectations, just as women do. We are all human, have emotions & should be permitted to express them without being or feeling judged.
No it's not forbidden men need to be more sensitive if you ask me
Exactly, i think there's little difference between men and women, men's strength is overrated.
I agree
@_bunny_ You like the ideal but not the reality.
Man we are raised like this from decades, right from childhood days we have been taught that Hey you are going to be a man some day , so man dosen't show their sensetive sides. And in our family and society we have seen our father , uncle and neighbors like that. So we accpet it as a truth.
It's not. But you might see it that way because society's a bitch. Fuck society; do what you want. If it bothers someone, that's their problem. Most women want a guy to be emotional, it makes them feel trusted and stuff. 👌
Welp, it's sad. I always try to reach out to my guys about their feelings and problems, but most of them don't bother being sensitive. It's totally fine to be emotional, but because people (men more) are not as tolerant, mindful and thus sensitive, they will always try to make fun of it and mock it.
It's more about unrealised jealousy because being sensitive is not a con, but a pro. It's also about a lack of understanding.
Probably because you listen to the lies that you were told, and what a "Man SHOULD BE!"
Sad. Many fathers didn't know, and had shitty role models, but now, YOU can CHOOSE, and you can see, read, and understand how their OLD WAYS were just bullshit!
If you cannot be honest with yourself, how is any woman, or partner going to be able to trust you, when you cannot deal with, and feel your emotions?
Being emotional too much is bad, being less sensitivity is bad too... what u should be is to be moderate.
And that comes through knowledge... that where u should be like a man and where u should be like a child.
And when u gain the wisdom about acting like the way above thats where u would be known as matured man.
Men are expected to lead, and emotionally sensitive men don’t make good leaders.
True, i suck at being a leader
Join the military
I think it goes back to ancient Sparta where men were expected to become warriors and not show any fear or vulnerability, or they would be thought of as weak by their fellow spartans, since then it has become the norm in the known world at the time, but those beliefs are technically ancient, and men don't have to be kept to such strict warrior codes these days if they don't want to
very interesting take
I like when guys show their emotions. I also like it when they protect me. They can do both.
The right people won't!
It took me 2 years into my relationship to tell my girlfriend about my past. About my demons. I thought she was never going to see me the same and leave me. Do you know what she said?
"You didn't deserved the life that you had."
And hugged me. I have no idea how I didn't just start sobbing on the spot. Probably still in shock at her reaction completly opposite to what I expected.
Fuck who tell you are less of a man if you show emotions. Fuck them! They have no idea what a man's worth is.
Men being emotional is actually quite cute to me! I have yet to find an emotional guy, but I'll know he's the one when he isn't afraid to cry in front of me!
Would you like to pm me? I would cry in front of you
@shydude1991 🤣👌👏
@lakotabebebe you most likely found several guys like this. But they don’t even enter your radar because you friendzoned them all
@rounddablock Yeah. I actually fell for one dude who was an emotional guy but then he moved before I could tell. him how I felt. I miss him...
Not if I cry in front of her first 😂
It's the guys that mostly call their mates "sissy" for showing emotions. I've personally never head a woman complain about a guy's sensitivity.
It's true..! 👍
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Because that shows you are vulnerable, and men are less allowed to be vulnerable. We need to be strong, iron-willed and heroic.
I think it's partly due to the fact that while women say they like emotional men, and that might be true, it's not exactly sexy.
The whole "men not showing emotions" thing is a misrepresentation of the virtue of stoicism. Knowing when it is the best time to be emotional and when it isn't.
Because if a girl who your not with sees you cry you may be considered weak to some of them. Lol its something that a man's man dosent do. Its not like they are going to walk up to you and say whats wrong. But if the roles were reversed a guy would do it in a heartbeat.