Can we stop telling men to be more emotional?

[Anonymous]

Men are supposed to be manly. That means being strong. It's okay to cry if someone died or something extreme happened but that is the only time. I'm not saying this to be rude or make men feel bad about themselves. I'm saying it because I care and feel bad for boys and these younger men today because they are being set up to fail.

[MrOracle]

Women THINK they want men to be more emotional, but even if they enjoy it in the moment, they soon begin to lose attraction to him.

What women ACTUALLY want, whether they realize it or not, is for their man to be "their rock" - to be the bedrock that keeps them grounded when THEY are emotional - and that means the man needs to be stoic and tough and keep his problems to himself, or share them with another man.

I know women want to THINK it would be better for him to share his problems with her, but in practice, it doesn't work out that way, and many a man has destroyed a relationship by sharing his emotions with his woman, only to have her gone a month or two later.

[Lionman95]

I agree with the emphasize on "more" because there are moments where guy gets emotional and that´s ok and perfectly normal. But at least in my experience women cry more often than guys and are quicker emotionally attached to something than guys.

I don´t say that to judge but

[Lionman95]

I don´t think it´s good to try to teach boys being equally emotionally attached to something. There are simply situations where a guy crying or freaking out wouldn´t be attractive women and it´s not the right way to make it look it would.

[Vanidal]

I kind of get what you mean. But no one knows the line between enough emotional expression, too much, and repressed emotion a person has.
To me, for this, I'll just stick to what myself comfortable with. You'll just stick to what you're comfortable with. We adapt and negotiate what's acceptable from there. If we can't adapt to be around for each other, we seek someone else.
I guess whether to stop or continue telling men to be more emotional depends on the situation too. Depends on each man's condition.

[Sandeeppingping]

Agreed, not because of some philosophy but if I'm true to myself I know I shouldn't be acting emotional when I shouldn't be acting emotional, some dudes just go with it, like nahhh man stay strong and it's nobody's business knowing what's going on in your life, for your own sake

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding me because I'm going to get backlash for this.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Does this mean that if your son cries, they're bound to fail in the future?

Having repressed emotions leads to more damage in the long run. I do not believe that society encourages men to be "more emotional." We are simply accepting the truth that people experience sadness sometimes. May it be man or woman. Guys shouldn't constantly be told to act like "Hercules" because it would be unrealistic. Nobody is too strong, at least emotionally. (except the person is a psychopath) We shouldn't try to control a person's emotion, or teach them how to feel things.. they are not robots. Just my opinion.

[AngelOfLight258]

Exactly, bottling up emotions leads to so many problems which can have severe consequences. And these consequences aren't limited to impacting the person who represses because it increases the chances of committing a violent crime.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

@AngelOfLight258 Absolutely on point, girl.🤍

[Wolfy2424]

I can understand what your trying to say, but again just like society tells women how to dress, talk, and so on it’s the same for men. Everyone has where their most comfortable and most times crying is a human feeling when you’ve come to a point of not being able to hold back. Not for those who just cry easily. But of course everyone has their own comfortable levels with crying around people, in public etc. just don’t think making a big deal out of someone crying in general you don’t really know what people are going through.

[Light909090]

Yeah The whole to be more Human than the best person you have to cry 😭 and show you have emotions.
Doesn’t matter if someone is a psychopath there still a human being With feelings and a personality likes dislikes and with human Biology

[Cedman]

Yes, because it is a lie. If a man is emotional he's seen as whining or has just opened himself up to manipulation

[FilmGuy93]

I know that I would vastly prefer it if we could stop feminizing men.

[Anonymous]

You can tell me to be anything you like. But I'm going to be what I like. If you're cool with that, OK. If you're not cool with that. Well that's ok to. 🤣

[POSSY_HUNTER]

yes , i dislike mushy people , doesn't matter what gender

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Sure but give us an example of how society should do it?

[OlderThanILook]

Nope. People have feelings and emotions.

[FreeYourM1nd]

What exactly do you mean by setup to fail?