Why do guys want to sleep with a girl but tell her to keep emotions away?

[Nazgol]

Why does he want some of her and not all? Why try to get in the pants but toss everything else out? isn't that "objectifying" women then?

[MrOracle]

Men and women are different, despite the BS lies we are taught that men and women are the same.

One of the biggest differences between men and women is that (most) men have the ability to separate sex from love, while (most) women cannot. As a result, most women find it nearly impossible to think about sex without putting it into the context of love/emotions/connection. For men, sex CAN be, and often IS, just something we like to do, like eating or playing video games, and we do not have to have any kind of romantic or emotional connection to want it or enjoy it. We can enjoy sex strictly for the sake of the sex itself.

in my opinion, this is something that should be taught to women around their first year of high school, because almost no younger women understand this about men at all, and many older women, who SHOULD have figured it out, still haven't. And because they don't understand it, they make all kinds of awful choices with men based on incorrect assumptions and projected emotions, and then wonder why they get hurt all the time.

Men and women each have a short list of biological imperatives - things that our biology and instincts strongly compel us to do, and are responsible for a HUGE amount of our daily motivations, whether we realize it or not.

For women, that list looks like this:

• Survive.
• Find the best man to reproduce with (generally, the "best" is defined by status and resources - the better to provide for and protect her) and have children.
• Encourage that man to stay with her and protect and provide for her and their offspring, rather than abandoning her and/or choosing another.

For men, the list looks like this:

• Survive.
• Have sex with (i. e., impregnate) as many different women as possible, which ensures genetic diversity that will greatly improve the chances that at least some of his offspring will survive long enough to reproduce themselves.
• Build status and resources, and pick one (or a few) of the best women to provide and protect for. (Realize that, due to wars, dangerous jobs, and other factors, there was almost always a shortage of men throughout history, and that in most places, women couldn't survive without a man, so plural marriage was a common and practical solution)

Radical Feminism (aka Marxism) has been doing its best to reprogram women away from their instincts for the last 60 years, with only partial success, but it's been enough to make most women miserable (in this case, they teach women to avoid relationships, and to have casual sex with lots of partners - which ultimately doesn't make women happy). And their instincts STILL influence most of their behavior anyway.

But men's instincts don't change. The survival of the entire human race depends on men having an incredibly strong desire for sex (with various women), because if we lost that, our species would go extinct within a few generations.

It's FEMINISM that has been encouraging women to act like men and to have casual sex like men, but (the majority of) women weren't built for that and aren't mentally equipped to handle it without problems with committed relationships. And that's exactly what's happened: women are increasingly unable to have committed relationships, and it makes them miserable.

[Nazgol]

So if it's because of feminism and men are supposed to have sex with many women , how are women able to provide that and go along with the sex without emotions? doesn't really make sense since men need the women in order to do fulfill their "biological" need

[Nazgol]

Wouldn't that throw down the male's effort and mission then?

[MrOracle]

Feminism - which has taught women that they can be promiscuous too - has women working against their own best interests and their own mental/emotional health (fully 25% of women in the US are on anti-depressants, and many continue undiagnosed). Yes, this benefits men in the short term, in that they have an easier time getting casual sex, but it also destroys the ability to have long-term relationships for both sexes. AND THAT WAS THE INTENTION! (Of course, there have always been a few women who slept around, that men could sleep with easily - but that number increased exponentially in the 60s and beyond. Today, girls routinely give BJs at 12 and 13!)

Men have always wanted sex, but in the past, men largely had to MARRY to get sex. And because nearly everyone got married, the pool of single people was relatively small, and people were forced to be realistic about their options. A person who was a 4/10 generally understood that they weren't going to get a 9/10 partner - they'd have to accept another 4/10, or, at best, a 5/10. This motivated people to improve themselves in the eyes of the opposite sex to improve their prospects.

[MrOracle]

Feminist teachings have taught women not to value marriage and children - ESPECIALLY in her 20s - and so with far more people being single, and now with dating apps where (IT SEEMS) that the entire world's population is available, it allows ALL women to believe they have a shot at the 9+ guys, so they largely ignore 8s and below when they're in their 20s. But also because of this, those 9+ guys bang tons of girls, but they feel no need to settle down with any of them. And this means that, while a girl who is a 6 or 7 may get casual sex from a 9+ guy, she's not getting a RELATIONSHIP from him - but she's also ignoring "reasonable matches", so she's not getting a relationship with ANYONE. Her Instagram may depict an amazing life, but so many girls are single and miserable, even if many would never admit it.

Then her 30s come, and the attention from men seems to evaporate, and the loneliness hits her really hard, and now she wants to take a relationship seriously - but she's going to try to have the same high standards she had in her 20s, PLUS additional ones - without understanding that her market value has dropped significantly, and the men who wanted her in her 20s don't want her anymore, and she'll have to accept even less. By the time she can fully accept this, she's often 35+ and is only attractive to a small percentage of men.

The marriage rate in the US has fallen to 50%, and while the divorce rate is dropping (fewer people who were less serious about marriage are getting married in the first place), women still initiate divorce almost 80% of the time - and college-educated (i. e., fully feminist indoctrinated) women initiate 90% of the time.

[Ceslovas]

Because he ia clueless or has lied to himself a lot and way for too long.. or the last and most sad version of truth- he just want to play with your face and affraid if that person in a process of openimg heart may start falling in love with you...


For God sake Everyone knows it is not possible to separate feelings from this! Everyone who isn't lying to himself/herself.. person who isn't disconnectes from their TRUTH! deeply knows this harmful to both, it is a sin.

It is very shelfish of him being ignorant to this.

It is greatest evil ones can commit to his and other person's soul.

... Getting close to someone without being sensitive to the facts an absolute devine truths i've meantioned... attracts lots of pain and evil.

Getting close to someone just for a sake. of having FUN.. without intention of loving her-leads to onesself destruction...


I did it once or twice... Or more than twice... but it is like a curse to one's soul.

If every Men would not hate God's for his truth... many mistakes could be avoided.


I promised not to go threre... not to loose my mind over someone... be rightful and never get close to someone... just because i feel lonely inside...

the woman deserves more than just FUN... she deserves all undevided attention and commited Man!

We Man must hold responsobility for her feelings once we get close to!

[loves2learn]

They want no strings attached sex.

[HugoThe2nd]

Because, quite frankly, the "all" isn't good enough in such cases.
Now, I'm not saying that they are "only good for sex", I'm saying that it takes a lot more to connect with someone romantically than it takes to connect with them sexually.

Sexual attraction is easy, many can do it without really even expressing anything about themselves.
But matching your personality, values, life expectations, quirks and all that which represents the "all", well that's going to be a much more lengthy of a search.

It's not "objectifying" it's just accepting the reality that you aren't a good fit in other ways.

[Tunasub]

I think that you are questioning what has been going on for a very long time... believe it or not women do the same thing to men.

Men get the same treatment. It's just that men would be thought of as less than a man or too sensitive if they opened up about it like women.

It's casual sex, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, side chick, side dick. Whatever you want to call it or however you feel about it both men and women are guilty of it.

[Belgie]

" isn't that "objectifying" women then? "

yes. of course it is. were you under the impression that it wasn't? or that men who do this were unaware of it?

[Anonymous]

Opposite biology. We are supposed to spread our seed around as much as we can because most babies didn't survive in the olden days, girls are supposed to raise one baby at a time and find a good provider for it, but back then the whole clan would help each other.

[Anonymous]

I never heard anyone saying that but if your boyfriend does it's probably because he doesn't want to get emotionally connected to you
his relation with you is more of a sex pals or sex buddy

you get what I mean?

[DaMack999]

a lot men will tell you I want sex. Its not true. Like a women. Men want more then just sex. They want a women that treat them with respect, dignity, most of all love and attention. Both sides need sex. No lie. But it isn't the core.

[Danish87]

No he is not objectifying girl. Infact making clear what he wants from relation. It's just sex.
If you agree can move ahead or can deny it.

[Anonymous]

Because that girl is not the type of girl he would fall in love with, that's why he only wants her for sex and that's it. Or he may have feelings already for someone else.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Depends if both parties are on the same page or not. People have purely physical interactions all the time.

[Wiredone]

That's the only thing that a lot of guys are interested in. They just want to get in women's pants. They are very selfish.

[Ceslovas]

But it is very warm over there... once you down there , it feels like you finally back where u belong😁oh and spooning! is best pose-purely comfortable and so pleasant to both😏..

Selfish? hmm both parties benefits from it-aslong as this romantic connection is in loving relationship then it is not morally wrong:)

[Ceslovas]

And yes, you are right-they just want to get in women's pants... they think they want 'fun' or 'just plain wild sex'but trully.. they want to feel that sensation two bodies conects united become ONE.. Oneness;)
So many reasons... behind each of an individual but not every man conscious of it.

Some of them just so ignorant tonthe truth and really very not 'selfish' but 'shelfish'they full of pain... and sex is just a way to mask it... like distraction for they mind...
In an end... the Woman that says 'they all just want to get to they pants' are really telling to us... she is not satisfied, dissapointed and upset.. hurted.

Yes. Some man really smart but also real bastards and deserve nice slap. l because they manipulate just to get what they want..

But most girls are so lost.. and put 'emotions' in first place.. and 'racional' mind put aside... it is attempt for freedome.. and want just to have fun and some guys just take advantage of it..

Sexual energy is one of most powerful one... it bonds people for lifetime... it is not just physical act... there is more going on behind a scene.

But it is not fun to hear this so i better say no more.

[TallAnon]

When you just want to fuck, but she's getting attached, yet it's too time consuming to get a new one.

[DWornock]

Perhaps but so what? If women have the right to seek what they want, men have the right to seek what they want.

[Anonymous]

Cause they just wanna play games and aren't looking for anything serious

[EaterPeter]

Coz he wants friends with benefits only?

[EaterPeter]

Or worst just fb

[Nazgol]

Yeah I get that but still. isn't it cruel & shallow to just want a person for one thing?

[EaterPeter]

Ver cruel and shallow if you ask me

[EaterPeter]

Very*

[Erron_Black]

not all men