If you were at a party with your boyfriend and another male friend offered you their jacket would you take it?

[Jazquee]

My boyfriend and I were at a BBQ. I was in a spaghetti strap top. Later in evening our friend asked if I was cold and offered his jacket. I said I was fine and no thank you (it seemed wrong to take another man's jacket) out the corner of my eye i saw my boyfriend's irritation of our friends offer and he smiled when I refused. About 20 min later my boyfriend gave me his jacket.
Ladies would you accept a friend's jacket over your mans?
Gentlemen would you be angry if your lady took another's jacket. ?

[loveslongnails]

Were you actually cold when it was offered? If you were, why didn't you ask your boyfriend for his jacket right after the other guy offered it? It's unclear if you WERE cold, or this other guy just "thought" you were. If it was obviously getting much cooler, it should not have taken your inattentive boyfriend TWENTY minutes to bring over his own jacket. Not a very attentive boyfriend, is that's the case? He should have seen that you were cold, or known that you would be.

I wouldn't be angry if you had taken the jacket and come over to me and said "hey dummy, I need your jacket cuz I'm cold and another guy was nice enough to offer me his !! Give me yours so I can give his back !! LOL But that wouldn't even happen with my girl, because I'd be well aware and make sure she was comfortable long before anyone else would.

[Jazquee]

That's very sweet. No I wasn't cold enough at that point. Was getting cold though

[loveslongnails]

Well thanks, but really, a truly attentive boyfriend would know the temperature drops at night (especially in Canada), and come prepared by making sure you have your own jacket along. If he has one for himself, he must know it could get cold, and he should be sure you or he brings one for you.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not at all.

where I come from (Newcastle) we really don’t do coats as such.

so it’s quit common if you are dating a non Geordie girl, that she might need a jacket, so if someone has one, then they will give her it.
item 10 lol

although the rest sums it up.

https://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/north-east-news/10-newcastle-rites-passage-you-18396943

[SnakeBoop]

Meh, if I'm cold, I'd say so. Boyf can always then give me his jacket and I'll return the other mans. I get it can be irritating to then be the "ah shit, i should have thought about that" but he should be thinking more of "ah great, she's warmer than she just was which is good as I care about my partner" rather than getting a red flag of being over possessive.

[loves2learn]

Man, if I was cold I would take the jacket. We have a lot of close male friends. My husband would never be mad at them for caring about my comfort. It’s nothing remotely sexual, just a 20 year friendship same as my 20 year relationship with hubs.

[Jazquee]

Fair enough. It was nothing sexual here either. But my guy looked really bothered by it. Probably felt being showed up because he didn't offer first. I was kinda giving him the chance. I guess I'm old fashioned in that way. If man wasn't there i probably would have accepted.
I guess it's reading your mate. ❤️

[loves2learn]

Very true. Important to read your mate. He should have been in touch with you being cold. :)

[Jazquee]

He also told me there was some "your wife" looks good comments... so he hyper sensitive... true he was slow on draw... but still took care of me

[loves2learn]

Ahhhh, yes. I can see how that would make him sensitive. And glad he came through. :)

[hahahmm]

"same as my 20 year relationship with hubs." -- ha ha. So your husband is on the same level as your friends. Got it. There's also guys who are cucks and let other dudes sleep with their wife. Your husband is on the cuck spectrum.

[loves2learn]

@hahahmm I believe you misunderstood my words. The *length* of the relationship is the same. The nature of the relationship is entirely different. I would highly recommend asking clarifying questions in the future rather than jumping to conclusions. Thank you. 😇

[Jazquee]

It was a very odd conclusion to jump to
It was very clear what your meaning was loves2learn.. xo❤️

[loves2learn]

Thank you @Jazquee my dear! 🥰

[Jazquee]

💓💕❤️💋

[hahahmm]

Yeah, it's funny how you being too self-centered to care about how he might perceive the situation spins into being about your comfort when actually you could get your husband's jacket or ask him to help you with your comfort and let him solve that problem. But not everyone has the social IQ to get it.

[Jazquee]

Actually asshole if you read my story. I did let him fix it... I took his jacket. Check your IQ

[Jazquee]

And obviously I cared about how he felt you goof... because again if you read the story instead of being a douche to my friend I noticed he was not happy about other man offering my jacket because I am NOT self centered and looked for his reaction once jacket was offered. So unfortunately... only one not the sharpest knife in the drawer..,. is u

[loves2learn]

It’s about knowing your man. I know my man would not care if I took a jacket from one of our close male friends. We have know each other so long it’s just not an issue.

[Anonymous]

It kinda like how some girls used to wear their boyfriend's team jacket in highschool and it's an indicator that they're together.
It's kind of a big thing to a guy.
I would be angry if another man offered my girlfriend his jacket and she took it.
It's like he's marking his territory.

[Jazquee]

Thank you ❤️

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome.

[FamilyGuy2020]

During the 80's when I graduated. It was common for guys to give a girl his class ring and football jacket. It just was a thing back then, I always ordered another football jacket, Class rings made out of gold

[Opinion Owner]

@FamilyGuy2020
Yeah that's true.
I even saw that a little bit in the 90's with the sports jackets when I was in highschool.
I grew up in a small town. Everybody had a pick up truck with a bench seat and we would also cruise around town and our girlfriends had to be squeezed right up next to us on the bench seat with our arm around her.
That was another indication of "She's mine." LoL!

[NathanDavis]

would I be angry? no...

it's just a jacket, and it's a party... and I am not this kind of insecure, is not like she accepted to go upstairs and have sex with him all night.

and I do understand all of the "implications" around this thing going on, but for me.. it's not worth to get angry

if anything, I would have asked her 20 minutes before that guy did, if she was cold and wanted a jacket... and not 20 minutes after the other guy offered

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn’t because I wouldn’t be comfortable taking another mans jacket when I have a boyfriend, no matter how decent of a friend he is. I have some pretty chill male friends, but I would still refuse and go ask my man for his jacket. He doesn’t get cold as easily as I do anyways. I also know he would be a little upset if I accepted another mans jacket.

[bowenw]

I'd likely be angry if my girlfriend accepted another guy's jacket over mine, but if I didn't have one to offer I'd be okay with it.

[Jazquee]

Would it just be because u didn't think to offer first... or is it a jealousy thing

[bowenw]

I'd be jealous and upset with myself for not offering.

[Jazquee]

Thank you..❤️

[exitseven]

I'm just trying to imagine you in a spaghetti strap top.

[Jazquee]

Lol... focus !!

[exitseven]

ookay= I'm focused-- If I knew this guy and he was okay I would be okay with it. Somebody else, maybe not so much.

[loves2learn]

Valid answer! My answer was concerning guys we have known for years.

[Jazquee]

You both have valid points... I dunno he seemed bothered... so I didn't. Lol

[Dinklex3]

If my friend offered me their jacket, I would take it. 💁‍♂️
If it bothered my boyfriend then I'd obviously return it and just be cold I guess, lmao.

[Anonymous]

no that's just weird...

also, if i'm cold i tell my partner i'm cold and he usually fixes the problem.

[Still-alive]

i might be a little embarrassed for not thinking of offering mine first but not really jealous or anything like that

[FamilyGuy2020]

To be perfectly honest it won't be a SLAP IN THE FACE

[Anonymous]

Nah. I rarely take stuff from people i am not close with. So no

[FamilyGuy2020]

In the end it taught me to live and learn. Right after HS I joined the Army and served 23 years

[MrCommodore]

Yes, you don't mow another man's garden 😀

[little_black_dress]

I would not accept another mans jacket

[SEBZER]

This would make me mad.

[pink_macaron]

Thats a question you should ask your boyfriend

[Jazquee]

? I don't want to start a fight over a jacket. Lol just found this behaviour confusing so came here to see if anyone can relate... lol

[888theGreat]

I can't believe this question is popular

[Jazquee]

Then be quiet

[888theGreat]

Are you sure he wasn't wanting you to cover your head?

[Jazquee]

Hahahha... oh little man syndrome. ... ok tough guy... nice burn... ohhhh so hurt... lol

[loves2learn]

Wtf? Back off @888theGreat

[Jazquee]

@loves2learn. Thank you sista.❤️💋

[Sketti2021]

Nope

[Anonymous]

nope never