Why do guys want a girl's body but not her heart?

[Nazgol]

[MrOracle]

Nearly all guys want sex, and guys don't need an emotional connection to want, have, or enjoy sex, because guys can separate sex and love in a way that most women just can't. This is because the natural reproductive role of men is to fertilize seeds - to pollenate, essentially - and we evolved to be attracted to many different women (for most of human history, there was a chronic shortage of men, due to losses from dangerous jobs [farming, hunting, mining, fishing/sailing, etc.], war/battle, and travel, and because in the majority of the world, women could not survive without a man, it was common for men of means/status to have multiple wives).

Okay, but so why don't guys want relationships? The answer is that many do - just mostly not the ones that women really want. Women are hypergamous - meaning they seek the best man they can get - and that's always been true - but until very recently, the norm was for people to get married. It was typical for 90% of the population to be married, which means the pool of single people was fairly small, and this forced most women to be much more realistic and grounded about her choice of man. With relatively few single men, and with high-status men going after high-status women, a woman of average status knew that her chances of landing a high-status man were virtually non-existent. It was also understood that children were the goal of nearly all marriages, and so there was even more focus on marrying women near the beginning of her fertility window, because her options would fall to nearly nothing by her early 20s.

All of this changed, at least in western society, following WWII. The 1950s were largely safe - in a way that just wasn't true before - and especially for the US, which was being paid to rebuild much of the rest of the western world - it was a prosperous time. There was lots of time for leisure, and for developing luxuries. Many of these luxuries were for the home, to make the woman's daily tasks easier. Refrigerator/freezers, gas and electric ovens (with timers!), dish washing machines, clothes washing machines and dryers, vacuums, etc. This turned 6-8 hours of work into 1-3 hours of work per day, which led to women wanting something else to do.

The Baby Boomer generation, growing up this way, and the first to go to college en masse, were taught in some colleges (by Marxists) that they should have careers instead of being moms and housewives, and though many ignored that, many others did not. The mid-60s saw the beginnings of the Radical Feminists - the prior Red Stockings (Marxist RadFems) having taken over the entire movement - and not only pushed for women to have careers, but also to radically change marriage and divorce laws to strongly favor women. And while there weren't that many full-fledged career women, there were a ton more who tried to be both mothers/housewives and career women - mostly by leaving their kids. The term "latchkey children" was coined. The mental realignment was successful even if the behavior took a while to catch up.

It was really not until the next generation, "GenX", that this all hit with full force. Men were still being taught to be traditional men and take traditional responsibility, while women were taught to be "modern women" (but mostly still with traditional responsibility, which means "minimal"). Tons of men got steamrolled by divorce and loss of child custody or even visitation, and largely got blamed for it. Many had seen this happen to their parents, but it wasn't nearly as widespread among Boomers as it was GenX.

[MrOracle]

Women, via Radical Feminism, had made the cost relationships incredibly high at every turn for men, while simultaneously reducing the value of them by actively teaching women NOT to do anything for their husbands. Feminist leaders have openly - even proudly - admitted to this, because it was intentional: they set about to destroy the nuclear family, and while that goal wasn't publicly talked about much in the 20th century, since about 2000, they feel no need to hide it anymore.

So, today, a large (and growing) percentage of men realize that serious relationships don't benefit them anymore - and in fact, are largely dangerous to men. And this is much, MUCH more likely to be the attitude of the men who have options with women - i. e., the attractive men that most women want. Why should that guy put up with risk and hassle and nagging and lack of cooperation, when he can just dump her and have a different girl tomorrow?

Today, the men who are still interested in serious relationships are the guys in the lower 80% of men - i. e., the majority of men, but the men that are virtually invisible to most women. Most women are chasing the top 20% (or top 10% or even top 5%) of men, believing somehow that they have a shot at a relationship with those guys. And the men will exploit that to have sex with many of those women, but they'd never consider a relationship with them, but because women don't instinctively separate sex and love, they deceive themselves into believing that if a man would sleep with her, he'd also date her, and so she thinks sleeping with him means she's on his same level and deserves men of his caliber - despite never getting a relationship from guys like that. These are the guys who want her body but not her heart.

The guys who want her heart? She wants nothing to do with them - they won't get her more likes on Instagram.

[Finchie40]

Sadly to say , but truth is most guys want her heart , but to get someone’s heart takes a long time , Most people are selfish and only really care about themselves , And most people hide secrets from each other , so to get trust from someone takes time , Trust comes from loyalty and respect for each other and removing selfishness for each other.. So when a guy meets a girl that he finds beautiful and loves her personality and he feels they have good chemistry and connection, he pictures her in his arms and of course having amazing sex with her , but he is not a 100 percent sure if she feels the same way about him. There is always that question mark on whether she is screwing other guys or flirting with other guys, so a guy isn’t going to give his heart to her until she proves she only has eyes for him. It’s easier for a girl to get a guy over a guy getting a girl. So us guys tend to hold walls up from being hurt or played especially if he has been hurt before. Why it’s best to be honest when meeting someone new. People that hide secrets are only destroying a future with that new person. I would rather have a girl tell me she is dating someone already then lying about it , or if she is already in a relationship instead of lying about it , I honestly would respect her more if she was upfront with me about it over then me finding out later then hating her cuz she lied to me that whole time. I met a beautiful girl at a bar 1 night and her and I had amazing chemistry and connection and knew we were attracted to each other , she confessed to me that she was married but very unhappy in her marriage. I respected her more that she was upfront about it , and told her I will date her if she ends her marriage because if you are unhappy in your marriage you are best to move on , life is too short to be with someone that makes you miserable. So we exchanged numbers and a week went by and she called me and told me she ended her marriage and that she left him finally , so her and I planned a date and got together , things were going great because she was honest with me after a few months of dating she said her and her ex were going to give it 1 more go , I was hurt but I respected her decision and stopped seeing her , I can honestly say I never hated that girl for the fact she has been honest with me since day one, you can only give your heart to someone that respects you like you respect them. Most people don’t understand that and hide secrets

[YollyM]

Guys get horny when they like what they see (not always). Girls do that too but don't realisep, I'm sure there are a couple of guys that you've dated or your friends have dated that they always described as "hot" and never mentioned anything about their personality (they wanted them for their bodies) . If you genuinely like someone you shine a light on their personality not just physical appearance. Point is it's not a guy thing , it's a human thing but girls are secretive about it.

[DizzyDesii]

I believe the body is what initially attracts the guy. But a real man will eventually see past that and go for her heart. A boy will continue to focus solely on the body rather than the mind and soul that powers it

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mho

[Jake99999]

There are tons of guys out there who want a woman who is beautiful in the inside, not just on the outside. Now, you will find some guys who are shallow and just into hookups. Looks is all that matters to them.


But many of us are looking for a lot more. Someone special that we can talk to, that we can relate to, someone to share life with - not just a lover but also as a best friend. A woman can be attractive on the outside, but if she is not a good authentic person, if she is shallow and nasty on the inside, I have zero interest in her.


I found someone that I am madly in love with; been together 5 years. She is strong and smart and funny and so much fun to be with. We talk about everything. We have fun whenever we are together. She stands strong by my side when I need her, and I stand by her side when she needs me. She is my best friend. We have mad chemistry. We have a very intimate bond and I trust her completely. And she also happens to be beautiful and sexy. Now…Note that the “beautiful and sexy” part is just one piece of what attracts me to her. Without all the rest - it just would not mean much to me at all.

[FraITA92]

Thanks for the stereotype.
Maybe it's because women ignore men who want their heart?
Maybe also women want only the body?
A few months ago I made a friend online, we went on a couple of trips, we spent one weekend at the beach and we kissed and hugged and had some sex.
Then we went to a party and we kissed again. Two weeks ago she came to my house the whole weekend. We had sex, she told me that she didn't want me to become attached but we talked, cuddled, had intimacy. What confuses me the most she kissed me a few times also outside while on a hike and at the pool, so it seems she had some romantic interest. But a few days later, after a videocall she wrote me that she doesn't want to ruin our friendship and she wants to make other experiences without having to worry.
So basically I want her heart and she
wanted my body.

[talover]

Because they are immature and selfish. They don't want love, they want sex. If you see guys that fall into this category, you will always be disappointed. Go find yourself a mature, selfless and sacrificial guy. In others words, go find yourself a real man.

[forthright]

Ever heard of spreading the seed? Nature wants us men to do this. It can be said that we're all nature's pawn in a way. If nature/life/God/etc didn't want us to favor the body for reproductive purposes then it wouldn't be so.

From an evolutionary standpoint, there's not a huge need to get along with someone more than there is the need for reproduction. So that's why our brains tell us that we need to fuck first.

[Anonymous]

Cause you are after similar stuff , like guys money and looks. Girls only like top percentage of guys , those guys have options so they can pump and dump you. In current online dating age even average and below average girls only date hot guys then complain. Dating is hard for both , men complain they don't get dates , love , women complain the guys they want don't stick around.
Plus most girls don't offer anything except their body and get everything just because of their body , so you shouldn't complain

[Nik1hil]

That's an odd question...

Considering every living girl needs her heart to pump blood in her body..
If I took her heart out after going dexter on it... Or went Elijha and ripped heart...

Besides.. Touching her body i can make her orgasm..
Touching her heart will be gross.. And a bloody mess...

[VDrago14]

Lust,

But in all seriousness it depends on the girl. If the vibe is that of more sexual nature (meaning don't bring home to introduce to mom) than it's simply a lustful aspect, all for fun. However if the perception is more than that (looked attitude etc) that indicates something more could come from it than that's relationship material. Doesn't mean she can't be a freak in the sheets but it's always about perception

[Pj1981]

You just aren't meeting the right kind of guy. I see so many comments generalizing that all men are a certain way. I'm not complaining because I don't blame women for feeling that way. Same as seeing posts of women that think masterbation is more pleasurable than sex or oral sex. It's sad to be a man with reps for not caring about the needs of women. I just want you to know there are still men who want the heart as much as the body. Love exists u just gotta find it.

[lucas262]

Why does a girl want a man's attention, validation, money, time but not his heart.

Do you know how many women have exuberant expectations of their man? I mean the man they really want not the one they'll settle for. Lotta women out here act like a man having a standard for himself is wrong.


No no it isn't. You make a point what of we actually took unattractive women or poor men just for the value of themselves?

[ToastyOats]

Correction: Why do SOME guys want a girl's body but not her heart?" The answer is complicated but includes. The media they watch, the way they were raised, their race, how much money they make and especially women's expectations.
Many women insist on no commitment relationships these days. They are the female version of the guy your talking about.
Personally I won't take anything less than the mother of my children and life mate for my next partner. Tired of being fucked around.

[AmandaYVR]

Just guys, huh?

Can I find a man who just sucks my vagina?

[ohshee]

If they were to do that. Then that means that they would have to grow up if you have to be serious you have to be honest you have to be loyal trustworthy because if he was to do that that's what would make him fall in love

[Andres77]

The heart isn't as fun as the body.
The heart takes work.
Basically you're asking why don't men invest and work and struggle to win a girl's heart when it's so easy to just use her body and move on.
That's how I was when I was younger, it's not how I am now. I don't agree with using women.
But women put themselves out there and kids today use each other.

What came first? The chicken or the egg?

[Andres77]

The way it should be is 'the way to my pussy is through my heart'.
But foolish women think "the way to my heart is through my pussy'.
And then complain that the guy didn't value you because you didn't value yourself.

Women ARE precious and wonderful... but if women don't value themselves... whose fault is it?

Girls in clubs are like the person giving out free samples in the grocery store. Oh yes, I'd love to have me some free spicy dip on a cracker... but I'm not paying for shit... and they walk away having savored the spicy dip for free. No consequences.
Men are assholes.
Women are stupid as fuck.
Both are wrong.
But girls are victims and men are evil.
You think this hasn't been happening for thousands of years?
C'mon!!!

[Tiptoetamm]

Not always true a man that likes you for more tha your. body would want your heart to. You just have to keep and eye out and dont be afraid to make the first move. Men love it actually

[Ghostlock]

There are plenty of women who want a guy's body but not his heart too. It's not a guy thing, it's a people thing. I think you are putting too much emphasis on men when all of these issues people put on men are human issues, not man issues.

[Anonymous]

You wonder? Those are fuckboys and want "only one thing". They don't want love, so what. Some girls don't want a man's heart but only his wallet. Those are called gold diggers. It is as simple as that and there's not much science behind it.

If you want love, you step aside from these 2 categories of boys and girls.

[Opinion Owner]

I wish whoever downvoted me gets chained to a bed and then cheated on right in front of her.

[sattii2607]

Well the appearance is what attracts anyone way before even the name is known. That's only till appreciating beauty, however once the guy knows the girl its the behaviour and character that turns attraction to love or hate.
I do agree there are guys who go with the look alone, well anomalies do exist.

[Anonymous]

Because girls show their bodies to boys, guys get turned on it. because no girl is trying to impress a guy with her heart. so women use their cheap bodies to impress men.

[Nightroads]

Never been about any physical features, I've dated and married across many differences in women's physical appearance. Her mind and kindness is what draws me to a woman.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's not true for all guys. It depends on the woman though.

[NightHawk99]

When you got looks, but nothing that can give a man everlasting happiness, what else is he supposed to want?

There's a lot of women who are a lot more than just hot bodies. There are men who acknowledge that.

[anylolone]

Well, you want their heart and body, IE, you want them to commit and be loyal to you while you aren't loyal.
It's not that they don't want your heart, it's that they refuse you theirs because they know too well yours isn't available.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Actually it’s super easy, barley an inconvenience……. Actually……. I don’t know. Maybe the whole “guys don’t cry/have emotions” thing has something to do with it and because of it, they only know they’re horny and that’s it

[chefpantydrop]

Because a woman's body is gorgeous and we wanna see and touch every part of you. Without getting our hearts involved

[RawIronhide]

I can't even get the time of day. Everyone's different.

[Anonymous]

Women have hearts? ;) lol When I find one willing to give me her heart, great. Have yet to. Only breaking mine happens.

[Onedayprobably]

Because it's the first thing you see? Or because you can't touch heart? Or because brain is more interesting? Or because a lot of girls seems to dont care about that stuff either?

[Hairylegs222]

If her personality sucks, I don't want her and her body.

[DrHonesty]

Because it's her body that gets us hard, not her heart

[Bobme]

As long as they give the body I will take care of the heart.
🧁

[jasco]

Sexual reasons and pleasure. Currently most people don't care about each emotionally anymore

[KrakenAttackin]

How can girls marry a man they detest just for resources?

[Caramelpie]

because many are horny dogs would fuck anything or any woman even if she was bad from inside and outside

[Anonymous]

Hearts don't give orgasms, they give commitments they don't want.

[TallAnon]

Brain: Procreate
Also brain: Procreate more, she is already done, move on.
Men: Ok, less effort, more procreation.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Bc if we took her heart she would die.

Who will pump the blood through body?

So we go for body in ehich her heart is working 👉☝️

[TrgZila]

It is not about the gender. It is about being lucky to have someone who wants love. Most want fake relationships with no attachments

[Bklynbadboy12]

Not me I want the heart I want something real something tangable you can get sex anywhere give me something I truly value and that love

[Yourfriend2021]

I would take both if there was a girl that had that.

[fred_durst]

because he is horny , or , he is simply a slave of his own penis

[TheFlak38]

men who go for a girl's heart get cucked or just ignored

[Fuentes]

Sometimes the body can offer more then the heart does for time being

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Every guy that just wants a girl for a body has no business complaining that she uses him for money.

[roy_ricky09]

We first lust with our eyes and love with our hearts

[Tunasub]

Because most guys don't understand, I should say take the time to understand the heart.

[Anonymous]

These things are good to be in love books. In the real life only sex can make connection attraction if we go for women heart we will always lose because she will see us as weak

[Anonymous]

You can't have sex with a heart and it can't give me a blowjob

[Anonymous]

What you're really asking here is "why are men not like women?". We guys could ask the same thing, but that would be just as silly.

[Anonymous]

To whatever extent that’s true, it’s more true that women aren’t interest in a guys heart. So perhaps you could answer it better.

[Anonymous]

I could be mistaken but I think the heart is already part of a woman’s body so this is rather redundant.

[jeffryrobertbabb]

Men are often easily sexually aroused but usually falling in love sometime

[bulletbob555]

I'm a guy all I want is their mind body and soul. Why do you ask?

[TheAfrikan]

Basically it is want and lust driving g him to you, but not as in true love.

[JamesRandiDebates]

We just want to drain a lizard, not adopt a parasite.

[Anonymous]

that's the furthest from the truth. I want to have the person I love's heart. That's how much that person means to me

[PinkiePie652]

Honestly I couldn't actually get in their head on that because my brain works like a woman

[Anonymous]

Why do girls want a guy's wallet but not his heart?

[Anonymous]

[SnakeBoop]

only some guys. depends what they want.

[FraITA92]

Yeah, sometimes also women want only the body, yet there are often complaints about slut shaming but nobody talks about "pig shaming", that many women do to men.

[DumBear]

I would do anything for the girl i loves heart.