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Cool is an absolute term even though it is a nebulous reference without any one true definition.
This term does not correlate to Weather or Thermodynamics.
It is not a reference to relative temperature as to degree or gradation.
Ever person has their own perception or reasoning to access if someone is or is not cool.
You are either cool or not cool.
This is not your decision. Only others can determine if you fall into their category of cool.
You cannot be sort of cool because if you are then you are not cool all of the time thus being not cool because to be cool you have to be cool 24-7/365.
If you begin to think that you are cool you have taken an irreversible step away from coolness.
If you know you are cool then you are absolutely not!
The only way to be cool is to be cool while not having any idea that you could ever entertain the idea that you might ever be cool now or in the future.
Even if you were actually cool by consensus yesterday, you can wake up and be not cool for absolutely know fathomable reason.
The pursuit of cool is antithetical to being cool and can cause permanent irrevocable un-coolness.
It is easier for things to be cool than for people to be cool. People do things to be un-cool and things do not.
It is better just to be yourself, and hope for the best.1
Lol I'm the cool mom and my kids friends like coming out with us cuz I'm always playing with my children or listening to the in stuff. I'm laid back and strict. It's a balancing act. But I make a heavy effort to always know what my kids are playing listening to or reading. I get involved with it all. Any book they read I read with any music they listen too I listen too any games they play I join in
... They think I'm cool there friends think I'm cool now what they don't know is that it's my way of keeping tabs on them. Knowing what your kid is into tells you how they are feeling or perceiving the world. It let's u know faster if they have a crush if they are struggling or if their friend is doing something they shouldn't be. It's helpful to stay clued in.12
I wish my mother was more like you.
But, I think you're pretty cool either ways. You need not play video games to look cool. Sometimes, when you suddenly decide to do everything he likes, he may feel like you're smothering him. Don't do the things he likes to do. Do something both of you have in common and enjoy it. Maybe spend a day with him and call it "Mother-Son bonding day"32
What Girls & Guys Said
A lot depends on how you come across tbh.
being overly keen can be a bit cringey.
let him try and set his own level.
I play the odd pc game with my daughter but we do like slightly different genre so I accept I don’t play all and she does not play mine.
a bit like some of her hobbies, I am there on the edge of it, but stuff like kick boxing, other martial arts stuff, she’s on her own, will drive her there but not taking part lol.
rest of stuff such as cooking , sex Ed, Netflix etc I've been involved in.14
My son is 16 and he loves that I play video games with him. I don't particularly enjoy video games, but we have fun doing something he enjoys. I let him have a bunch of his friends over a few times for some all nighters... I set up multiple tvs and other kids bring their consoles. It's a big hit. I played once or twice and beat those boys at SuperSmash. I walked away Queen and his friends thought it was cool that I would play. Then back to my sanctuary!12
Well, I don't know if you'll come across as "cool" (I couldn't pull that off even when I WAS a teenager), but it'd be nice to have something to share together. It's important, though, that he has things that are his own- I'd suggest doing a little research and seeing if you can find something you'll both enjoy, game-wise, that's not one of his big social things- that way, you both get a bonding experience without stepping on each other's toes.10
You're not supposed to be teaching him how to become a teenager. You're supposed to help teach him how to become an adult. This idea that you need to be your kid's best friend is misguided.12
Yes and No, But if that is what he into you will emerge into his world and understand his fixation rather than find it weird.
As a parent, you might feel left out once they grow up and don't want to play with you anymore.
This way you might prolong this and perhaps guide him through games he should play.10
Finding a game that you both enjoy is better than trying to relate to him with a game you may not enjoy but he does12
You don't need to play games to be cool.
Just a good talk and understanding him and guide him to became a good adult can make you cool to.14
Just spend time with him..
Be a good friend. But don't allow him to disrespect you. That's it.15
Sure. Kids like to connect with their parents.
Wife did this with our youngest -now he's a big-shot with a tech company in silly-cone valley making bank.10
all people think the same thing is cool. And that thing is success. Anyone who doesn't think that is cool is buying into being a loser.10
That's what a lame mom does. Most things parents are into, kids DON'T want to be into! Don't ruin video games for him.13
Who cares about being cool, if you want to play games with your son I don't see what the big would be.10
Might work! My kids love video games.12
Yes you will be but don't let him win kick his but that way hell want a rematch 😂10
Absolutely, you would be good best friend too I guess10
Depends on the game. Like co-op games or Nintendo games, definitely! That's very cool of you 😊0
Ofc, thats how parenting should be like. Don't make it very clingy tho, it'll get weird.0
if you're good you definitely would be cool lol.22
Yes being there for him and showing you are passionate about winning shows you want to help0
You stopped being cool the moment you became a mom you know what’s cool being a good mom and that really great that you spend time together0
I think that's great.
My dad was kind of a stick in the mud when it came to understanding my sister and my tastes in music and fashion.
My mom, though, was a lot of fun. She would buy me the popular clothing fashions that I wanted.
When I was 10 and my sister was 7, my mom went with us to the theater to see the Beatles' new movie, A Hard Day's Night. In the car on the way there, she told my sister, "When the movie starts, let's scream." LOL
I used to be able to talk to my mom about just about anything.
She opened her mind to the music my friends and I were listening to in our teens. She liked a lot of it and could recognize some of the bands.
She'd drive us places and even to go surfing before I had a driver's license.
My friends all thought she was really great mom.
She was open minded about my having girlfriends. Even though she was a straight arrow, she was surprisingly understanding when she knew I was smoking weed.
Beginning at about 16 years old, I started going to lots of rock concerts. She even went down a few times and stood in line to get me and my friends tickets when they first went on sale when I was at school or working. Kids standing in line to buy tickets for Black Sabbath or some other band would think she was the coolest mom ever. LOL
Interestingly, her open mindedness and flexibility, and the fact that I could confide in her and listen to her advice, kept me from becoming too rebellious or going off the rails. Even though she was my mom, we were also good friends.