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It is not rude unless he was rude about it. For most people, people assume that it is okay to just hug everybody. And I had to learn the hard way not everybody wants that or is touch avoidant. For touch avoidant people especially, they really do need a lot of time. I somewhat touch avoidant for a lot of reasons. While I personally love hugging people, and I'm, however, more cautious of others hugging or touching me. I believe we need to start teaching children especially this important lesson in life to save others a lot of heartaches. However, some people, like some guys who are very rude in snatching themselves from touch, really need to state their boundaries early on.10
You are aware consent means give permission, while obliged means they have to do it, right?
Also, if you must really know why they decline a hug, why not just ask them?11
I hate being touched usually, that said I just grin and endure it like any other social rules I don't like, but follow.1
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Its your body, your consent to give or not give. If youd consider someone a "jerk" for not giving you consent to touch their body, im very concerned for your community and everyone around you. Thats a very... Rapey mentality. You're not entitled to someone elses body, and if someone chooses to not give consent, thats their choice to make.10
No, that goes for everyone. My mom sometimes wants to hug me and I’m just not in the mood to be hugged. And she doesn’t understand that a lot of the times, it’s just about respecting boundaries. Doesn’t matter the relationship or gender20
Just own it by saying something like “Don’t think me a jerk, but I’m not a hugger.” Even if it’s just a specific person you don’t want to hug. When you claim something that could be awkward it saves it from becoming more so.10
No one is obligated to consent to anything they don't want to do period.32
No ofcorse not. Sometimes the culture and situation doesn't allow hugging, and sometimes that man just doesn't want to.10
Use proper English, bucko. the work "jerk" is not an insult outside the US.
But seems you have not learned what the word "consent" means, yet either.1
I don't see why that alone would be rude obviously depends on how it was done but some people just aren't touchy feely10
It. just means he does not want to get me too'd20
You aren't obligated to anything and their definitions about you don't matter.20
It depends on the culture and the context, where I live it's very common for people to greet each other with hugs, and it's a bit rude to turn down during family meetings for example. If it's not a greeting, then probably not.0
Depends on the relationship they have. If they’re co-workers it’s probably safer to avoid physical contact.0
No it doesn't, they aren't entitled to us or our bodies just like we are entitled to theirs.10
I have never met a single woman who thinks any guy is in any way obligated to hug her. What nonsense.0
If a guy doesn't want a hug, it is what it is. I've declined hugs from the guy that I like but it doesn't make anyone a jerk.30
No, unless she was freezing to death then u monster 🤪10
If you don't want to touch a person it definitely means you don't feel a powerful emotional connection.0
I don't care for hugs because I don't want to get sick. Yes I am weird.0
Not at all. You should not have to hug someone you don't want to hug.0
I like to hug but your body your choice man.
Also, Social Distancing.0
Jerry Seinfeld famously denied Kesha a hug at an event. He didn't know who she was and she ran up fan girling and he declined her 3x. The press went wild with the story, like, oh, he should have just given her a hug, but he fired back with something to the effect of "fan worship goes one way. I preform but I don't see who is on the other side of the screen so people just randomly running up for hugs is a no go." Your body, you do not have to hug anyone you don't want to. Now Covid has made this a reality for just about everyone, but on the other side of it, no, literally means no.