Would you get Bored, with screwing the same person for years, to whom is not your girlfriend or boyfriend, why or why not?

[Anonymous]

So long story short. I Honestly, don't know what his goal is here. But my years of (friends with benefits) seems a bit Obsessed with Screwing me. And it seems like the longer that I hold-out, without giving him any, he gets a to hype. Now he has made it clear to me, how he is Physically attracted to me. And I am 100% sure he has other FWBs. But I'm like my gosh! is he like this with the other females. It's like the moment, that I gave him the opportunity to sleep with me again. He gets, super excited. I just never met a man like him, who Is very content with wanting to fxxx me. I feel like if I were to give him the opportunity, to sex me for life. But he has to understand the consequences, that I can (A) end up getting pregnant or (B) there is Possibility Of a chance with me finding someone, that's going to Not only physically commit themselves to me, but emotionally. So now, I'm like is he trying to trap me Or could he be trying to impregnate me. Like we have been sexting each other for years. How much longer, is he trying to do this. And what about The other females, that he's messing with, I wonder if he acts like this with them too? 🤔🤔😏

[Carolus]

Your question isn’t clear, or you got several unrelated questions. Are you afraid he will get bored? Are you wondering why he hasn’t gotten bored? Why would it bother and you aren’t in a relationship? Why should it bother if you met someone? Why would it bother whether he wants to make you pregnant or not? It’s you who have chosen to settle for less, it’s you who has made yourself available, it’s you who allow him have unprotected sex despite not being in a relationship and risk of STDs, he’s simply doing this because you are available. No man of same character will let an easy, good and available pussy go, no offense intended.

[Asker]

Well see that's the thing him and I aren't hooking up anymore. I just don't understand, how this man still wants to knock boots with me after many years. And I guess you could put it that way. Like, why isn't he bored with trying to get at me, when he knows I have standards and I told him, what I'm looking for and what I'm not allowing. Like, I told him where I stand. But why is he so hooked on my body the way he is and I wonder if he acts like this with other girls

[Carolus]

Thanks for clarification, don’t you believe you got a nice cookie or are better in this game than other women? Then believe it, pussies are different and some women are better in bed than others, some experiences are better than others, its common for a man to be hooked up to a certain woman or pussy so nothing to be bothered about, stay your stand, ignore him and move on with your life. Metoo got this girl from 8 years back, her kissing game was way beyond and used to do this powerful vaginal muscles moves sucking my pump like crazy making me ejaculate my bone marrow out🤪🤪🤪. Well it’s eight years and I would still want to kick it with her one more time if she would let me, not that am still after her.

[Asker]

Your welcome!! And thanks for sharing your experience as well. Yeah, he talks about how wet I am, and mentioned to me about us, having sexual chemistry and that's one of the best things that we do have. What is sexual chemistry and why would it be one of the best things to a man or female? But yeah, he loves how wet i get 💦😏😂. 7 years sexting him. And 8 years we known each other. That's a long time! Woah!! 😳

[Asker]

And he did say that he was physically attracted to me. And told me that he was obsessed, with my pussy lol. He said sleeping with me is very different than the other girls. 🤔

[Asker]

And also you are a man that has nothing to do with trying to get me pregnant or trap me?

[Carolus]

Stop saying such things, you gonna make me hard 🍆

Sexual chemistry is also very important in a relationship it compensates wherever the going get tough, something to hold on to, prevents cheating for sex, when married, it’s never a walk in the park, two independent minds living together everyday is never easy but nothing like good sex after a stressful day or argument.

You should let him go, 8 years is a long time, he should have been working on getting your heart not your pussy if he’s been interested in more than being intimate. Always remember, for women intimacy is highly connected to emotions, for men it’s different, most men can sleep with any woman irrespective of how they feel about them.

He might as well be trying to impregnate you, that can’t be ruled out. There many deadbeats, who don’t care who they impregnate.

[Jlegacy]

Seems like you are vulnerable to emotions and younare catching feelings. You can't be that way with friends with benefits arrangement.

[Asker]

This is not about me though. I'm asking why is this man she wanting to hook up isn't seven years enough for him?

[Jlegacy]

You are probably selling yourself short. You are a greater satisfaction than you realise.

[Asker]

I'm not. I've been resisting him and it's been months since we had sex. He wants to play and still expects me to give him free cookies. But then when I tell him about commitment or bring it up. He runs lol smh. So I've been in close my store/legs to him. But, I don't understand what part he doesn't get because we can go years without communicating and no physical sex. But he always translate test me to see what he can get out of me sexually. And I just don't understand, why is he still commitment to my vagina but not wanting to commit to me. No I'm not necessarily wanting a relationship with him anymore that was back in 2018. But I feel as if he is trying to trap me. But he also came out the closet and admit it and told me that he was physically attracted to me. But my thing is. Sex is fine and all. But not only just wanting that. Smh... And he knows this... But he'll still try. And most recently the only thing that seem to get him to go away. Was with me telling him about my fake boyfriend 😆 lol. I guess why does everything have to be about sex when it comes down to me. Doesn't he know how to just be a friend or to act cordial. Smh

[Jlegacy]

I get you better now. Be honest about what you want. I love your heart. You'd be bad for friends with benefits. Stick with what you want. friends with benefits also has friendship and friendship has rules. If he doesn't suit your rules of engagement as a friend, let him know or cut off.

Personally I can't do friends with benefits. I'm too emotional and invested in people. If I bed a girl that I pay for sex, I'm the kind of host who would wake up and cook for her. I realised this and knew I was best in a couple and marriage setting.

[Asker]

Exactly and I'm glad that you are more understanding about the situation. And I'm the same way too, like, I wanted a relationship with him back in 2018. But he wants to be just just friends with benefits. Like don't get me wrong. I enjoy the physical Expect with him, Oh my gosh!!! are you kidding me lol. But I'm telling you," I can't just sex this dude like he wish. I do love him, At the beginning my feelings came out of lust with him. But over the time, when I start resisting him and Avoiding sex. And I was able to separate the physical part. I realize I like this man, I like love him so much and so deep it scares me, to know that I can't have him the way I want. He wants to keep the physical part, but I can't. Like- I'm very much into him..☺☺☺💋❤❤☺☺ Words can't even describe. But ugh he just makes me crazy... For his love. 😭😟

[Asker]

But yes we were able to remain friends, Regardless over everything!! 👏☺☺☺❤❤❤💜👏👏

[Jlegacy]

Since you've let him know you want more and he is not ready for it, I think you should let him know how that makes you feel. It just might turn it all to one of those cheesy movies.☺️

[Asker]

I see. Well I could, lol. But he thinks I have a boyfriend lol, so he's being giving me space. And I already made it clear to him, that I was a little crazy about him.. 😏😊😁. But I'm at stage a thousand it's time to move on

[Jlegacy]

Okay. Moving on won't be a bad thing to do. Since you are the type that catches feelings, I think you should stick to the full on relationship.

[Jamie05rhs]

He thinks you have a boyfriend? How are you going to expect anything out of him if that's the case? The first thing you need to do is end the deception and just be honest with this man.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs. I agree. But it seem like, that is the only thing that seems to work. I don't mean to lie, we most recently had a discussion on Tuesday about being open and honest and not keeping any secrets at any time. And hear I am lying, I mean of course I'm sure there's a lot of things he hasn't told me. And if I go back and tell him the truth he's going to hate me forever. He seem like he respect, my decision and he has backed off since. But I can't settle for someone who just only want something physical. :(

[Asker]

I mean he agreed on trying to just be my friend but realistically he still want my body!! Woah!!

[Jamie05rhs]

"But I can't settle for someone who just only want something physical. : ( ".
But how can he have a relationship with you if you're already taken?

You're shooting yourself in the foot.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs trust me! He already sleeps around with other girls, and if anything was suppose to happen between him and I, I'm sure it would have years ago. Like I admire and appreciate you coming to this man defense! But he's a whore and is afraid of commitment. Plus he lied to me back in (2014) and said, that he was single. He cheated just to get sum pussy. And truth is, if he cheated on her- he'll probably do it to me... And he has.. Maybe not cheated. But when I don't want any.. He looks else where. I mean, sure maybe sex is very different. But it still doesn't take away.. That he isn't ready or trying to date. So why keep entertaining that when I can find something so much better.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, okay; well, then, you have your answer.
Remove this man from your life. Stop seeing him, period. (You should have done that years ago, tbh.)

[Anonymous]

Some part of this is you don’t have to put on a front with them. You can be free and more open. Drawback is they’re not yours at the end of the day. So yes I would get bored with that

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you I hope you find what your looking for

[noohair]

I am not a medical professional.
If you think he has a stable of women, why do you want to be part of that?

[Asker]

I don't. And many reasons why I cut the Sex off, and told him friends and that's all.