Does this mean a guy is not interested? I invited him to a sports game which got canceled. Is he writing me off?

[Anonymous]

Told my guy friend (crush) that the sports game got canceled. We talk on the phone, we went from texting to having hours of phone convo. He flirts with me a lot. He invited me to his sports game before but hasn't asked me on a date. I asked him on one date and he says he enjoyed it. We've been friends for about a year. This time, he hasn't said he's gonna see me next week at the game. He just said "next time." Is he writing me off? Possibly saying he may never try to see me?

[humpbackjack]

It sounds like he was possibly looking to get laid and he’s thinking that’s not gonna happen so he’s moving on or he’s found another woman that he’s a little more interested in is it possible there’s been another girl he’s had his eye on and now he finally got a shot at her. Or maybe he figures you’re looking to friend zone him. It’s been a while since I’ve been in the dating scene but I was always direct and straight to the point if I was interested in you I would just introduce myself and ask you if you wanted to do something sometime or even just tell you you’re gorgeous and that I couldn’t just pass you you by and if there was time chat you up a little either way I was asking for your number and I was successful 9 times out of 10. So just put it out there stop playing around and just tell him you’re wanting to go on a date so you guys can get to know each other better and see if something is there

[TheorionMage]

You're probably reading TOO MUCH between the lines in your interactions... He may be counting upon that. Back off and see where it leads...
think of it like allowing the fishing line to 'pay out' BEFORE you 'set' the hook.
They whom blinks FIRST, is the second-place winner. ;)

[LinaDaGoddess]

How were things before this? It could be you overthinking it. Just relax a bit, what does he want from your relationship?

[St37xy11]

Can I ask what he is doing with his life? Is he going places with his life or still figuring himself out?

[Price511]

Okay, I find this very funny because I swear I saw a question just like this from the guy's perspective not too long ago. He very likely took their advice, but if I remember correctly he was trying to be respectful because he couldn't make it. He's interested, but he's just busy.

[CallmeTheKnight]

This is very limited. He could be or he could not, no telling, but if the both of you are just friends, that's probably the reason he's not showing strong interest.
Dating is only complicated as people make it. If I'm talking to a crush, I'm not gonna keep inviting them to events. It makes sense to see where things can go by making it about the two of you or at least speaking up on how you feel about him

[Asker]

I agree that its very limited and hard to tell. I just know its his first time telling me 'see you next time'.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Relax. Don't read so much into it. Everyone has lives and their own energy that gots to be recharged. If someone doesn't know something about you, then it's fine to express how you feel about them. He may be open to pursuing something, but you gotta speak up

[Asker]

Thanks. Well he completely ignored the invite for our next game. It was scheduled for today. its a first for him to say "see you next time" and to ignore my texts

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yw. Stop the invites to the game and just ask to see just him at the park, a movie, or probably even a recreational class together.
I was invited to events in the past, but I only saw it as platonic and nothing more. However, when I was invited to dinner, movie, or to spend time with them at their place, I knew there was something more. Women may not be as direct, but their actions reveal a lot. It's honestly a good thing.

[DarkWinterNights]

It’s hard to tell.. he could be just playing it cool, or seeing what happens. I wouldn’t write him off just yet, depending on how much you know about him and how much previous interactions were positive. If he wasn’t interested at all he wouldn’t show any interest in doing anything with you.

[TwinkleLily5]

He seems he’s only interested in seeing you in person not trying to get to know you better through texting. His texts are rushy and straight to the point.

[Asker]

I totally see that too. He is more open during calls and in person. I just found out that the sport game was moved to tomorrow. If you were me, would you let him know?

[TwinkleLily5]

Yes, some guys are like that. call him don’t text.

[devilish-cutie]

let him take some initiative and that will tell you

[Asker]

Yeah, first time there's no alternative. I just found out the game is on for tomorrow. Should I invite him again or wait for him to ask?

[devilish-cutie]

id ask him, but after that let him show you more initiative

[Asker]

Is this a good way to reply? "Have a good weekend as well. We're playing tomorrow, feel free to join"

[paradiseonearth93]

Yes I’d send that

[devilish-cutie]

@paradiseonearth93 yea, its good

[GrahamWest]

Yeah , probably writing you off. Bet you sending mixed messages. What you need to do, is make it clear for. him that You want him. Send him nudes. Don't be afraid. Guys love pussy!

[Hassan_8]

Don’t try to contact him and see if he contacts you first.
don’t seem very available and easy to get.
the next move must be his move.

[spartan55]

No, those are YOUR negative thoughts popping up. Be gone with those

[Anonymous]

Don't know if it means he'll never try to see you, but it's interesting he didn't suggest an alternative.

[Asker]

Exactly. First time there's no alternative. I just found out the game is on for tomorrow. Should I invite him again or wait for him to ask?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, if it's the first time... Perhaps it was a momentary lapse in judgement. Sure, I'd still try to reach out.

[Asker]

Is this a good way to reply? "Have a good weekend as well. We're playing tomorrow, feel free to join"

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, seems casual. Which is probably good for early in a relationship.

[Asker]

Cool. Is it a good text for "just friends"?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I think so.

[Asker]

Do you think his last texts requires a response? Will it come off as rude not to respond?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I think you should respond. If he finds out the game is still happening, it'll look like you're the one who didn't want to get together and lied about it.

[Asker]

Thanks. Well he completely ignored the invite. Its been a day, its a first for him to say "see you next time" and ignore my texts. I think I get the picture

[TheSpaceGnome]

"I'll see you next time" usually does not mean "I don't wan't to see you"
Stop overthinking.

[Anonymous]

What you should look at is how much effort he’s giving, if any. He’s barely showing any of it. Dont wait on him and stop wondering about him its not worth it. Find someone better.

[whosnumber1]

I would say he doesn't seem super engaged. I would give him crickets and turn your eye to someone who is

[emilley_]

Doesn’t seem too into you. If a man likes you. He’s taking the initiative and would take you out all the time. He’s not that into you but I guess he likes the attention. Don’t waste your time.

[Ninaface]

It could just be his typing style, but its pretty cold and expressionless.

[scott04sa22]

He’s not into you right now but he likes the attention.

[Texaskid1]

He is being friendly but he is not into you. Move on and stop the self-torture.

[Fuentes]

You guys text like old people trying to set up a date...

[Asker]

Yes I totally see that. But its not a date, its a sports game. I invited him to my friends' sports.. He invited me once to his.

[Asker]

Curious on your input. He ended up ignoring a recent text where I invited him to play a sport. Its been a day. I wonder at what point he lost interest. We talked on the phone a couple days ago for hours and he kept complimenting my looks, personality, mentioning how he wants a girl to enter his life, and offering to give me food over the phone. He was always attending stuff I invited him to. I asked him on a date once, he went and said he enjoyed it. He invited me to his sport game once. I flirt back and compliment him in return. Now he's closed off. I was the last to initiate the last call and texts. He's a friend who I got to talking to these recent months. He's ignoring now. The last text he said "see you next time." He didn't offer a definite day to see me. He usually says a concrete day like "see you Friday" or "I'll be there." For context, he's 20, and I'm 27.

[Fuentes]

Well the issue is he's a 2000 baby lol they are zombiefied by not responding & expecting everyone to read their minds and are very immature when it comes to dating completely which is why my standards are for women im dating to be 23 and up but that's me also if he doesn't respond at all in the next two days after being asked to go out once the game was cancel'd then i would just block the dude and move on. Also when you told him the game was moved to next week, maybe he took it as you lying and you stood him up for another guy or something better cause it was really vague when you said oh it was moved next week lol so that could be a issue too cause if you told me that id be like? Huh like you might need to add in a screenshot showing it cacel'd before my ego jumps to conclusions but again thats me.

[Asker]

Thanks for the detailed input. Yeah I figured that it has something to do with age. I totally see where your preference comes from. I'll take that advice

[Twalli]

So before the wording wasn't exactly as you wanted it, you assume he lost interest?

[Retiever]

You should be good. It sounds like he’s down with it.

[Anonymous]

You are right.
Every one should enjoy their sex life.

[Asker]

What does it have to do with sex life?