Was I right to unfollow my ex friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, 5 months ago I met this guy and we were in a casual relationship. He acted like my boyfriend, he helped me with so many things I needed desperately at that time of my life, and naturally I grew feelings for him and wanted more. He shot me down with "It's not you, I don't want a serious relationship with anyone". I respected that and said we should just then go our own ways, but he insisted that we stay friends. And I accepted... but he was such a shit friend. I tried reaching out to him several times just to ask how he was or invite him for drinks to catch up, but he would always he's too busy. And he never reached out to me to see how I'm doing, would just put reaction to my stories sometimes and that's it. So after like 2 months of him being practically nobody in my life, I found out that he has a girlfriend. So much for a "I don't want a relationship with anyone". Naturally it hurt me so I unfollowed him and removed him from my followers as well. But then few days later he noticed and texted me "Wow... so pathetic". I didn't respond to that. I mean, I do feel a bit sad that it ended like that, especially since he was my life saver back then, but why is it pathetic? He is the one who forgot about me, so...

[boggboss]

And so another story of a friends with benefits situation going south because 1 grew feeling the other didn't feel the same way but meh yes u was right to cut ties after that

[animesenpai]

Who cares really... a friendship works both ways of you don't want to be friends you don't need to be friends... fuck it

[Anonymous]

You were right to cut ties off with him. He is just butthurt

[spartan55]

I'd like to hear his side of these events.

[Asker]

Well the way I see it, when you ask someone how they are and they just respond without asking how YOU are in return, that person is not my friend. I think it's just rude.

[spartan55]

Really? So I suppose everyone has to respond to everything how YOU would? You will upset and disappointed frequently then.

[spartan55]

What does that have to do with his side of things?

[Asker]

It's not how I want, it's a common human decency. Not asking any question back is an obvious sign that the person is not interested in continuing a conversation and not interested in your life either. I really hope you are not a parent, because if you are and your kid asks you why is someone they reach out to doesn't care about their life and you tell "well kid just because they don't ask it doesn't mean they don't care" you are a giving a terrible advice and are being terrible parent by teaching your kid that kind of behavior is okay.

[spartan55]

Not sure how your tangent fits in to all this, but sounds good. 👍😁

[RayBeam]

Sure