Would a guy turn down a massage from a woman he had sex with if he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

A while ago this guy said I could practice massage on him. Because I was going to massage school. And when we hooked up he asked me to give him a massage. But I didn't because I wasn't ready. But now I am and I need someone to practice on. But I'm not sure if he'll let me because he might think I'm trying to have sex with him. When really I'm trying to give him a professional massage.

He may have a girlfriend (I'm not sure)

[JCrockett]

If he has a girlfriend, he probably shouldn't be accepting massages from female acquaintances, especially if there's no history of non-sexual massage giving from before the girlfriend, especially especially if he has hooked up with the girl.

Thats not to say he definitely wouldn't accept, but he shouldn't, and you probably shouldn't even put him in that position.

[Asker]

I am talking about a professional massage like what I did in school. I'm not talking about anything sexual.

[JCrockett]

Is he going to pay you?

[Asker]

I haven't massaged anyone in two years I'm looking to get paid I'm looking to practice so I can get my license.

[spartan55]

Just ask someone else. Don't put him in that position.

[Asker]

In what position? He could always say no. I'm asking about a massage, not sex.

[spartan55]

You don't get it. Of course he could say no, but if you've had sex before there are just too many factors to consider. Again, it would be much easier to just choose someone else. Is that not possible?

[Asker]

We had sex years ago I don't see the problem I'm not trying to have sex with him.

[spartan55]

Okay, you've got more than one guy telling you it's not a good idea and you seem to want to argue about it. Why is it so important that it be that guy you massage... if it's 'just a massage' why can't you find someone else?

[Asker]

I'm not trying to argue about it I'm just saying he could say no. He's always supportive of my career. And whenever I talk to him about it he actually engages with me. Most people could careless so I know he'd actually try to help me.

[spartan55]

If he has a girlfriend and you decide to ask him anyway, just know you will likely get some blowback ie. drama. It's not cool to put him in that position. Then he has to deal with his girlfriend getting pissed and asking him a bunch of questions about you etc. You won't have to deal with it, HE will. You seem to lack some self awareness about that. I find it really curious that you just keep ignoring my suggestion to choose someone else, like it isn't even an option for you. It makes your intentions look less than professional from an outside pov tbh.

[Asker]

Drama? All he has to say is no why would there be any drama? People in relationships get massages all the time. I mean really? The only problem would be if It were something sexual but there isn't.

[Asker]

Also, I never said I wouldn't practice on someone else. But I don't feel comfortable right now because of COVID.

[spartan55]

"People in relationships get massages all the time" ... that's funny... yeah, but they typically haven't had sex with their client though... right? So, yeah really. I told you why there could be some drama, because it would piss off his girlfriend. You don't care because you won't have to deal with her. You're going to tell me that if your boyfriend were getting a massage from a woman he slept with, you wouldn't have a problem with it? Yeah right, give me a break.
So, you don't feel comfortable right now because of COVID. Okay, so you spend lots of time with this guy, and know he is vaccinated? Obviously not too much time if you don't even know if he has a girlfriend.

[Asker]

If he has a girlfriend he'll say no right?

[spartan55]

He should, but who knows. That's a whole new side of this situation. I don't know the nature of your relationship with this guy, if you're just friends now, still date, no idea. If it were me, it would take me about a second to say no. Then I'd be casting a hairy 👀 at you...

[Asker]

I had sex with him once a couple of years ago. And then he said he thought we shouldn't see each other anymore. Then last year he messaged me asking to see me again after his girlfriend left him. I didn't meet up with him though. So we haven't had sex in two years. I still talk to him whenever I see him where he works because I shop there often.

Recently I gave him money and I baked something for him. But it hasn't been anything sexual between us.

[spartan55]

Omg I know who this is now. You are quite obsessed with this guy... he's all you post about. No wonder you don't want to massage anyone else. It makes sense now.

[Wise4myage]

Just be straight about your intentions and make sure he understands.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, cause that could lead to something else happening. Also could send the wrong message

[Asker]

It's a professional massage I've actually been to Massage Therapy school. I slept with him two years ago this is now.

[Danny_dan92]

Still. Put yourself in her shoes you’d probably flip if you heard your dude got a massage from a girl he once fucked.

Regardless of it being professional or not

[Iron_Man]

Have you had sex yet? Remember he has a girlfriend let it go

[Asker]

Yes, we have before I am not trying to have sex with him I said a massage.

[Iron_Man]

Yikes it’s too late

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think he has a serious girlfriend

[Asker]

But that was a while ago.

[Iron_Man]

Did he have a girlfriend back then how long ago was this

[Asker]

I think he had one when we had sex before and it was a couple of years ago. But last year he contacted me asking to see me again after she left him. But I didn't meet up with him again.

[Iron_Man]

Basically he shouldn’t have a girlfriend because obviously he likes you so that’s on him. But the question is does he really like you or does he really just like the sex

[boggboss]

If he had a girlfriend I would say skip it

[Asker]

A guy who has a girlfriend can't get a massage?

[spartan55]

Not one that slept with the massager... duh

[Asker]

@spartan55 We slept together a couple of years ago.

[spartan55]

@asker
So what's your point? You think his girlfriend won't care because it was a couple of years ago

[OddBeMe]

A woman he just had sex with?

[Asker]

We had sex a couple of years ago.

[boobliker]

Ask him and add NO SEX

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope, I wouldn’t turn it down

[Sam_The_Savage]

Massage mine baby 😘

[lycanthrope3]

Tell him

[Asker]

Tell him what?

[lycanthrope3]

Just what you told us

[Jouth]

are you donkey kong?