for instance you are very confident talking to people you know well, but not very confident when talking to strangers?
or you are confident talking to girls/guys in person, but not very confident talking to them over text?
And both scenario's they overall carry themselves well and have good or decent posture and just give off a confident impression as you would any other confident person.
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Do you think you can be unconfident with particular social things in life but still overall confident?
usually i'm not confident in myself when my level is much different from them regardless of gender.
what makes me feel inferior, for example, is dealing with successful people, or people who show off wealth, or people who are smart in appearance, or smart in business. but if the person is humble and friendly, maybe i can give a chance. but i still don't know behind my back is he/she still good? or insult me in secret? but surely i don't want to keep thinking bad.
i am like this maybe because of the impact of always being compared to other people.
I hate it when someone says, you need to get more confidence. To me that is not something, someone just 'gets' it happens by successes.
I remember the first time I was texting with a boyfriend about what we wanted to do for fun (sexually) and he wanted details. I could totally talk to him about it in person but in text, I just couldn't do it. I finally just did and it was soo hard but it ended up not being a big deal and the more you do something the easier it gets.
To build confidence you have to do something and have it work out, if it doesn't work out that may actually do the opposite.
It is totally normal to have had successes in some aspects that make that easier but failures or no experience in another that makes that harder.
personally speaking... I do not have a filter or a valve for confidence, I will be confident and comfortable, everywhere, anywhere... with anyone and everyone, whatever settings makes no real difference to me... I am the same either way, but that is now
when I was a kid, and a younger teen I was just like you pointed it out, I'll just change the word to comfortable instead of confidence... with the people I knew, my family and my best friends I was absolutely comfortable and a lot less shy... but out of my house and away from my street which was familiar to me, I was painfully shy and extremely anxious... lol
and I did DREAD to talk with strangers, or anyone that I was not familiar with, especially girls... lol
I think in groups I’m like little miss confidence, but once a guy gets me alone I suddenly feel like I will say the stupidest things and he’ll think I’m a total loser!
I think we all want that. But when you first meet a person and you really like him/her, your so afraid of making a mistake and them not liking you anymore, that it just feeds the paranoia. At least it does with me, I would LOVE to just relax and not worry about being silly and he stops liking me! Oh, he will still try like hell to get in my pants, but after that… gone! (Well, that’s what I fear, anyway)
yes i understand. for me i used to always worry about boring the other person. but i fee like i've gotten a handle over that fear now. i just accept that sometimes lulls happen in the conversation and we can enjoy a few moments of silence with each other.
I have no problem with confidence even when talking to strangers. The older i get the less (what if) thought gets. I am well spoken and i am a gentleman, i don't do BS talk. And texting! Am just bad at it, super clumsy fingers too 😁
in a pretty confident guy. usually very talkative and crack jokes and stuff. sometimes if I'm around people I don't really gel with though I can be a pretty quiet and reserved.
