If a guy hooks up with you consistently for 2 years, does that mean they have some level of liking for you?

[Elise888888]

At the end of 2 years, a guy I hooked up with told me he didn't have feelings for me. I acted a tiny bit crazy at the end of it I guess. Do you think at some point he must have liked me if he kept hooking up with me for that long? Or do you think it was simply for sex and he didn't see me in a romantic way. He ended up going out with this snobby rich girl at the end of it and dropped me like a hot potatoe. However, in the beginning of us hooking up, he flipped out and went crazy when he saw me kissing and talking to someone else. So not sure.

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Attention all of you mysoginistic little trolls: SURPRISE; the guy f*cked a guy and only became this chick's "boyfriend" after everyone found out about it- Have a nice f*cking day all you peices of vile gross trash !

[MCheetah]

Sounds like you were just his Friend With Benefits, at the most, and the "snobby rich girl" is the one he has true feelings for (although being rich doesn't necessarily mean she has a bad personality or is bad date material). You need to get over yourself; you were nothing special to him, it seems. (Now you know how so many men feel when women do this to us!)

[Elise888888]

He is gay you dumb b*tch

[Elise888888]

Not only that; the bitch is the ugliest lookin thing to walk the f*cking planet- Highly doubtly he has "true feelings for her". If anything he probably has "true feelings" for men.

[DWornock]

No, because he was dating down for sex and now you are not even desirable enough for sex. Either that, or he is seeking someone desirable enough for a relationship.

[Elise888888]

I dont know if I agree with your assessment. I am a million times prettier than her. His friends always said how beautiufl I was including him, even when he did not have to say it. His friends and everyone else describe her as "Eh.". In my opinion she is an ugly girl. However, she dresses with the highest designer clothing that only millionaires can afford. She is much more popular and high status than I am. But... her face kind of looks like a Beaver. HOWEVER, she does SOMEWHAT resemble his sister, so maybe that also explains the attraction? Those who KNOW HIM, say, he never grew up with money despite his friends all being from old money families. They have told me, he and his siblings ONLY date girls from rich families. FYI; He ONLY became exclusive with the girl AFTER he had sex with a gay guy; and the whole town FOUND out about it.

[DWornock]

Based on your reply, it is likely that your situation is an exception, but normally it is as I described. Also, for almost all men, it is not a girl's money they are after but it sounds like he is an exception in that he may be more interested in a girl's money than in sex and her beauty. However, I don't believe you, let alone the town, would have any way of knowing if he had sex with a gay guy. That is not something a guy would admit and you certainly would not be a witness to it.

[Elise888888]

Let me put it this way for you; one summer night me and my friend were at the bar. I was shocked because I saw him flirting with another guy outside. I was shocked. My mind was trying to make sense of it. Months later; a bunch of people from town told us that this gay guy had been going around telling everyone in town he and the guy had a one-night-stand after the bar became empty. The gay guy told people that he had told the gay guy that this was his first time sleeping with a guy. He denied it upon learning the gay guy told everyone. The town they are from is an old money stuck up rich town on the East Coast. I know the guy very well; he def slept with that guy. My eyes were NOT fooling me that night; and the two of them were flirting together. I think the gay guy may have been leading the flirting; but he appeared to be flirting right back with him.

[Elise888888]

Thus, I don't know whether he bisexual, gay, or whether he just didn't like me and really did like her.

[DWornock]

Regardless, flirting (even if it was flirting and not just talking) is not proof of sex. In fact almost flirting doesn't result in sex. If you didn't witness the act, you are just jumping to conclusions.

[Elise888888]

I think you are just trolling and looking for a way to prove your theory-

[DWornock]

All the time people are accused of doing something they didn't do just because their actions or what someone claims they did are suspicious. Where you and I differ, without hard proof, I prefer to assume someone is innocent. If I was charged with a crime, I wouldn't want you on the jury.

[Elise888888]

Hun, he's gay. Get over it.

[Sonjita]

It really doesn't mean anything, depends on the guy, but if he had some real feelings, he would have asked to be in a relationship at some point.

[Daniela1982]

Don't flatter yourself. You were just a fuck buddy to him. He was always looking for a better offer and finally found his little rich girl.

[Elise888888]

... he only stayed with that girl for 1 year. He became her "boyfriend" subsequent to having a one night stand with a gay guy, who told everyone in town they f*cked-

[Elise888888]

Not only that, this rich bitch looks like an Angry Beaver... don't flatter yourself-

[spartan55]

It was all about the free 🥧... don't kid yourself. I'll never understand why women get into those sleazy arrangements.

[spartan55]

Define 'a tiny bit crazy' for us please?

[Anonymous]

No, it’s a big mistake to think that a guy will actually feel something after being with someone for years. They could be in your presence forever and still would consider you no more than a piece of trash in their house.

[noohair]

Men have this possession thing in their caveman part of the brain. But hooking up is free prostitutions.

[Elise888888]

If he had a one-night-stand with a gay guy he met at a bar, does that most likely mean he is gay? Or bisexual?

[noohair]

I can't answer on other peoples orientation.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

how many other girls is he dating that you know of? sounds like your going after a top 10% kind of guy.

[Elise888888]

What does top 10% mean? He was so cute but he didn't really hook up with attractive girls. The girl he ditched me for was sub-par average at best. Some argue she is even ugly. She looks like an angry beaver. But she is MUCHHHH shorter than me. Her family is worth at least 15,000,000$. But he had hooked up with a gay dude. It was after that that he had decided to officially be her boyfriend. I am just a middle class girl. Not rich.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

now i know what going on. He is gay. That is all there is to it. Your crushing on a guy who has no morals. Probably with her for a few reasons. #1 money, #2 she is possibly ugly and will do anything he says out of her self esteem issues, #3 he is Gay. There is no such thing as bi-sexual for a guy. Just normal men and gay guys who do women sometimes. usually to take advantage of them.

[Elise888888]

The only thing is though, there is an attractive quality to the girl's face. She is in this popular group of friends, she is a girly girl. I PERSONALLY think she is ugly. Most people describe her as "Eh, average". He may be her type

[Elise888888]

*Sorry, **she may be HIS type

[Raaj4you]

Yes may be he has feelings for you. He is just confused. I'm sure he has some kind of attachment to you even if he say's no.

[spartan55]

What makes you think so? If that were the case he would have never made her a friends with benefits. She would be his girlfriend.

[Elise888888]

@spartan55 True. But he only became exclusive with the rich girl, subsequent to hooking up with a gay guy- and the whole town finding out about it.

[spartan55]

That's quite a plot twist.

[Elise888888]

@spartan55 Yeah, so basiclly, when he first started hooking up/seeing her, he abruptly ditched me. Then 6 months later he came back to hook up with me, telling me he ended things with her because he didn't want a girlfriend... then during that window of time, he had a one-night-stand with a gay guy. The gay guy told EVERYONE in town that they had sex. THEN, he told the girl he would be her boyfriend and they dated as boyfriend and girlfriend for about a year. So, there are SOOOOO many factors and twists in this story- I have no idea.

[spartan55]

This is one wild ass story. I mean, how can you compete with a gay guy and a chick who looks like an angry beaver?

[Elise888888]

@spartan55 I will explain it this way; She has a very strange face; it is ugly; average; and SEMI-pretty at the same time. She ain't very pretty. BUT she looks kind of like his sister in a weird way. She is MUCH more popular and high-status than I am. Her family is worth 15,000,00$. She old money, and works for NBC. She wears designer clothing and has the most expensive stuff. So It is very possible he was very attracted to her despite her being a bit weird looking. I guess its also possible he was more attracted to her money. I will never know. I just know that he stopped seeing her because he didn't want a girlfriend. Then he had the one-night-stand with the random gay guy. Then the gay guy told everyone. And then he decided to be the girl's boyfriend. Soooooo I guess the moral of the story is that he just didn't like me.

[Elise888888]

15,000,000$**

[spartan55]

Not sure why you had to mention her families net worth, but it adds to this story I suppose.
I'm trying to picture an ugly/average/strange looking/semi-pretty/angry beaver and I'm just laughing...

[Elise888888]

@spartan55 So I guess the conclusion we can draw is that he most likely bisexual and liked her but didn't like me?

[spartan55]

There is no such thing as a bisexual man. You are either gay or straight imho.

[888theGreat]

means she is immoral that likes a guy that is immoral

[Buffy_Gee]

You're not a bad person for reacting that way, he hurt your feelings. Most guys are really manipulative. Be careful out here loves.

[Ej9egeeiudd]

You were essentially a prostitute without admitting it to yourself.

[Elise888888]

A prostitute is a paid sex worker. You are essentially a mysoginistic disgusting troll without admitting it to yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

He likes your pussy. That's about it.